AIBU to consider cancelling interview for my dream job?

[TinselAngel]

I've got an interview on Wednesday for a temporary job which if I got it I would take as a secondment from my current employer. It would give me more experience in the field I want to develop into. I need to earn more money in the long term as I am a single parent and won't get money from my ex for ever.

It's around a 90 minute commute away in a large city, and it's full time. It would also involve regular travel further north than that. I currently work 20 mins from home in a low paid, but flexible, admin role. If I got it it would involve my 13 year old DD being a bit of a latch key kid for six months.

I split up with my partner over the weekend and can barely put one foot in front of the other right now. I'm pretty much on my knees with sadness. I'd have to do a presentation as well as an interview.

AIBU to consider cancelling an interview for the right job, but at completely the wrong time. Or would i just be using this as an excuse to stay in my comfort zone?

DD1 at 14, and DTs at 12 come in the house, grunt at me, grab a snack and retreat to their bedrooms to spend time on their phones/watching Netflix. It really makes very little difference whether I'm here or not .

Good luck with the presentation - you have the power of Mumsnet on your side!

You can, and should, absolutely go to the interview, give your absolute best during the presentation and then, if you want to, crumple on the sofa when you get home afterwards. Consider the logistics when they offer you the job, and like everyone else has said, your DD will relish the independence.

Think of the example you're setting your DD by going for the interview. You've got this.

Think how much you'll kick yourself a few weeks/months down the line if you don't at least try!
You may or may not get the job, but if it would really lead to your dream job and isn't something that comes up every week then you'd be crazy to not try

I have prepared my presentation and am attempting to psyche myself up for tomorrow.

Thank you for all being so kind x

Good luck, will keep fingers X'd for you!

Go for the interview. Prep like crazy for it, the distraction may do you some good as it will give you something to focus on other than your grief. If you do get it, it will be a nice, well timed confidence boost and a fresh start.

Good luck - hope you get it x

Compartmentalise. Your focus now is on winning this job - you can do it!! After you've wowed their socks off and get home again, THEN you can think about other things in your life which may or may not include sadness.

Your DD will adapt and no doubt be happy when the reality of home alone time is realised. You will be stretched in your new desired field and your ambition realised which will lead to longer term happiness.

Go for it! And good luck

Good Luck for tomorrow. Knock them dead! X

Good luck!

Your DD won't be abandoned if it's a 90 minute commute. It just means she'll have to be organised in the mornings and will have to wait a while for dinner. You'll be home every evening. It will be fine.

Good luck with the interview.

Good luck! Go for it!
Don't put your life on hold a moment longer x

Good luck OP! It might be the best decision you ever made, and it will give you a confidence boost!

Good luck!

Good luck, OP! I’m at interview on Friday, really want it!

Good luck to you too @Havenamechangedforthisthread

Good woman - we're all rooting for you.

Smash it today!!!!

Good luck today

Good luck for today Tinsel.

good luck, you got this!!

Go for it OP, Good Luck!

Good Luck Op!! Go show your wonderful daughter what a strong, independent, brilliant woman you truly are!

Am a great believer in what's meant for you won't go past you. ⭐️

Good luck!

Good Luck!

Good luck to you OP, you'll smash it I'm sure.