To think this cashier was rude!

[PinkElephant1]

NC for this.

Doing my shopping in Tesco this afternoon with my 6mo. Had to buy a pregnancy test which I had hidden in the bottom of the trolley in case I saw anyone I knew.

Anyway putting the shopping on the belt when the cashier starts asking about the baby. How I'm getting on, how she's sleeping etc. All fine. Then she scans the pregnancy tests and starts making comments about having two babies close together. Kinda drawing attention to it which I wanted to avoid.

Then at the end she asked if my 6mo was planned! Which she wasn't but I'm in late 20s and self sufficient.

AIBU to think that cashiers should show some discretion when people are buying things like this? And not asking very personal questions?

Being very British I obviously didn't say anything!

[Bluelady]

That's shocking, I hope you complained about her.

[RadioDorothy]

Wow, I'm extraordinarily tolerant and hard to offend, but that was really inappropriate!

Not a cashier, but a complete stranger who struck up a conversation with me out walking my dog, asked if I had children. I sort of went and said no, and he asked if that was through choice or because I couldn't?

Fucking hell mate, who asks a stranger such a question?!

[MrsDilber]

The cheek. Yanbu.

[HermionesRightHook]

The last time I had to buy one I had snuck away from my SIL to grab it quickly, handed it to the cashier face down with pleading eyes, and he spotted it, nodded curtly to show he understood, put it in a bag first and then ran through the whole transaction. That's the way to handle it. Your cashier was massively unprofessional.

I have a resting bitch face and let it do the talking for me in these situations, possibly deploying an eyebrow. Let them feel awkward as fuck in the silence.

[SparklyMagpie]

YANBU! Bloody hell cheeky mare

Hope you get the result you want though OP

[Dazedandconfuzzled]

Last time I bought a pregnancy test I was in the local chemist, trying to put the test in my bag and control my 2 year old. Heard my name and turned round to see my neighbour who is a midwife, thankfully she didn't say anything although she did corner my dh a few weeks after and reminded him if I needed anything to let her know. So awkward.

[mizzmelli]

The cashier was probably not trained as well as she could have been. However EltonJohnsSyrup you sound like a nasty cow and that sort of behaviour on your part could be seen as threatening.

[ObiJuanKenobi]

Ooo and best of luck with the test OP

[Monoblock67]

A checkout lady once asked me ‘are you feeling nervous?’ When I bought a pregnancy test I lied and said it was for someone else and invented a whole backstory! God knows why.

[ShastaTrinity]

the cashier meant well, but that's incredibly stupid.

The last pregnancy test I bought was to check if hormone levels had gone down as they should after a late miscarriage. Not something I would have specially enjoyed in my local supermarket frankly.

[etap]

Some people are just insensitive dicks. Some of us just get on with it though.

[MrMeSeeks]

Today 17:16 mizzmelli

The cashier was probably not trained as well as she could have been. However EltonJohnsSyrup you sound like a nasty cow and that sort of behaviour on your part could be seen as threatening.
Yes, i wouldn't be thinking the cashier was the bad one if i heard that.

[TammySwansonTwo]

Every time I take my twins out - literally every single time - a stranger will ask me if they were "natural". I have no idea what gives so many people the confidence to be so incredibly rude and nosy.

YANBU

[BeakyPlinder]

Yanbu, I hate cashier small talk at the best of times but this takes the biscuit!

Last time I bought a pregnancy test I went to self checkout thinking I was super stealth...fecking alarm went off when I walked out because it had a little plastic taggy thing on 😠 and I had to show the security man and go back and have it taken off. May as well have announced it over the tannoy

[EggsonHeads]

YANBU. You have to be downright stupid to start asking a stranger such intrusive questions.

[NotExactlyHappyToHelp]

YANBU at all. I hop on and off the tills where I work and you learn very quickly what to comment on and what not to.

‘Ooh I’ve been meaning to try those biscuits’ or ‘Gosh that cake looks lovely’ is as far as I go.

I don’t even comment on flowers as a colleague complimented a bunch a customer was buying and the poor woman broke down in tears as they were for her mothers grave.

I always try to remember I have no idea what this persons life is like so the conversation needs to be kept extremely light.

[Spatiallyunaware]

When I whispered in the local chemist "can I have a pregnancy test" (couldn't find them) the lady shouted across the whole shop to her colleague "Barbara!!! Where are the pregnancy tests kept?"

[PinkElephant1]

Gosh, some of you have had some embarrassing situations too

I don't really know if I should complain or not. I know the lady serving me has worked there a long time so would have thought if she'd done this before it would have been picked up on by now.

I'm doing the test first thing in the morning so will report back! My gut says no but just need to be sure. Fingers crossed

[rcit]

Very rude.

But next time brush it off with “oh I picked it up for my sister”

[Member984815]

This reminds me of something my aunt told me she had a child before she met my uncle . A woman in her local shop asked her who was the father , she said your husband and walked out

[LoudestRoar]

YANBU. I unfortunately had a miscarriage 3 years ago. I had to buy pregnancy tests to make sure my levels were dropping. I would have been devastated if someone had made a comment about it.

[cunningartificer]

I remember a radio campaign encouraging teenagers not to be embarrassed about buying condoms, which showed how cashiers were thinking about their own concerns and not going to comment on what you bought. It was good, but completely ruined by the current fashion for commenting on purchases. I hate it.

Not only can it cause pain —“ooh, having a party?” No, catering for a wake actually— but it’s not sincere. I don’t believe you’ve been thinking of trying those biscuits and what do you expect—a review? I would love it if cashiers stuck to the weather and didn’t comment on purchases. Or how about a “silent” till option guaranteed no conversation? I bet it’d have queues!

[IsabelleHarvey]

Loudest

I had similar with a v early mc, was told to retest a few weeks after to double check levels, people just don't think and it is so inappropriate to mention it at all when they have no idea the offense or upset they could cause.

[jb1305uk]

YANBU. I hate this. A few years ago I had to buy another pregnancy test, I’d already had a positive result but had started bleeding so we suspected a miscarriage. It was a week before Christmas, the cashier started giving my husband and I suggestions of how we could announce my pregnancy to family with Christmas cards for “Grandparents” etc. I wanted the ground to swallow me up. I miscarried two days later. We really should have called the store manager and asked them to speak to staff about respecting customers privacy in future but we never did.

Best wishes to you OP.