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To raid my savings for This?

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NewYearNiki · 22/01/2018 12:28

In a nutshell, landmark birthday later this year.

Am single, made redundant a few months ago, no one to celebrate with. I'd rather be alone than spend it with family me scapegoat, sister is goldenchild and they will just spoil it & make it about themsleves

I effectively have nowhere to go.

I can afford it but shouldn't until job situ is sorted

Wibu to raid my savings and take myself off on an adventure holiday / tour somewhere?

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grannytomine · 22/01/2018 12:52

I think the trouble is if you do it now there could still be pressure to celebrate on the big day. as Changedname says a new employer will almost certainly honour existing holiday commitments.

Or maybe do a holiday now and a shortbreak for the big day?

Plipplops · 22/01/2018 12:53

Was once in a v on/off relationship, desperate to go to Italy and really hoping he'd come. He wouldn't commit so I went by myself (I was about 23). Sorrento, Naples, Pompeii, Herculaneum. Pleased myself by going where I wanted when I wanted and spending as long as I liked there. It was bliss.

Now married 12 years with 2 DDs but so pleased I took myself off rather than sitting around hoping for him to pull his finger out-

Do it!

FizzyGreenWater · 22/01/2018 12:54

Definitely do it.

Do it sooner in case you get a job.

Tell your famzillas that you have plans for your actual bday and either just treat it as another day or hole up with DVDs and choc.

Book a tour thing or retreat for sure - it will be fab and you might meet some great new people.

Rebeccaslicker · 22/01/2018 12:54

You mostly regret what you don't do.

Do it!!!!!!!

corlan · 22/01/2018 12:54

Do it! Life is short Smile

BitOutOfPractice · 22/01/2018 12:55

Oh god yes do it! Surely, once in a while, this is what savings are for!

MNOverinvestor · 22/01/2018 13:00

Do it - Explore's really good, so's Intrepid www.intrepidtravel.com. I wouldn't necc do one just for solo travellers - from experience/knowledge I've found Explore's normal ones to be about half couples, half singles but a tour operator will also give you a straight answer on what the normal group make-up is. The only crap one I've ever done was a walking/life coaching one.

theForeigner · 22/01/2018 13:02

With £30k saved I would, I think. Do you own your house? Confident you'll get a job soon?

Most jobs would allow you a week or two off if mentioned at the beginning of any contract.

What is adventurous though? It seems to me to be the opposite of 'retreat'. One is herbal tea and annoying vegans, the other is, well, adventure with a few unknowns.

Topseyt · 22/01/2018 13:03

Yes, do it. The opportunity will be gone if you wait until you have a new job.

Do try to leave some in your savings though, so that you don't come home to nothing and can continue to make ends meet if you still have no job to go to when you get back.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 22/01/2018 13:04

Are you sure you want to carry on living/working in the area you do? If you want to get away from your family, why not think of working in another country altogether? You will then have a complete change of life for your landmark birthday.

yorkshireyummymummy · 22/01/2018 13:11

Do it.
When you look back you regret the things you didn’t do.
Life is too short and this might be your only chance.
Do it now, escape this cold weather and have a wonderful time.
You never know, it might change your life.

Narnia72 · 22/01/2018 13:13

Get a job, tell them you can start in a month, then get online and book an exciting last minute adventure!

Good luck and happy birthday. We regret more things we don't do than the things we do.

Basseting · 22/01/2018 13:18

Gawd yes!
You can afford it and you will have fun.
Go now / book now as if its only a week you'll prob have no stress re hols.

Have a lovely time!!! (I just had a landmark b'day and similar tho mine was just a trip to the museum and overnight in Premier Inn! ;) :)
(still fab tho as in my control and not waiting on 'family' to let me down :)

grumpy4squash · 22/01/2018 13:18

Why don't you book and have the holiday now, in honour of your milestone birthday, rather than committing to summer dates?
If you're going somewhere like SE Asia, the early part of the year is fabulous (rainy in the summer)

ShastaTrinity · 22/01/2018 13:21

You have the money and no dependent? Of course go for it, you would be crazy not to.

Nothing prevents you from temping if you haven't got another job to keep your finance healthy. If you do find a job, do tell them about your holidays when you accept their offer.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 22/01/2018 13:25

Absolutely do it.
And I agree with the others, book it now, any new employer should honour your pre-booked holidays.

Do something you've always wanted to do and may never get the chance to do again.

And never mind your family. It's YOUR birthday, if you're the scapegoat in the family they're likely to disappoint you anyway, so just be where you'd rather be. x Thanks

Megs4x3 · 22/01/2018 13:25

Do it!!! The memories will be priceless! (And come and tell us all about it so we can drool jealously.)

silkpyjamasallday · 22/01/2018 13:36

Do it OP! I hate my birthday so often go away and turn my phone off for a few days, I've done Paris, Rome and Marrakech so far. Pick a lovely luxurious hotel for yourself somewhere you've always wanted to go. Also let the hotel know it's your birthday as they often leave treats in your room, the hotel I stayed at in Rome put a bottle of prosecco and chocolate dipped strawberries in my room as they knew it was my birthday. I drank it in the bath and ate the strawberries and I had stocked up on jo malone candles and bath oil etc at the airport on the way out so it was a lovely pamper session. Treat yourself, you deserve it, and if you've covered all bases you don't have the disappointment of others not getting it right.

MNOverinvestor · 22/01/2018 13:38

Thinking further, if you're single, redundant and have (really jealous of this bit) £30k in savings, why not take two holidays - one now, one over significant birthday. The right sort of holidays can be transformative things. They don't both have to be expensive. You may not meet a partner on either of them, but you might make some great new friends, and the first one could be just what you need before you start the job search.

HelpTheTigers · 22/01/2018 13:47

Go for it! Explore and Exodus are brilliant for solo travellers as well as couples or groups although you would probably be better off spending a bit more of your savings for a landmark holiday. You don't need as much spending money though as your trips and outings are included within the package. Have a great time, you definitely won't regret it, EVER! Grin

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NewYearNiki · 22/01/2018 13:49

Thinking further, if you're single, redundant and have (really jealous of this bit) £30k in savings

Try not to be too jealous.

Im.not a home owner and £30k in savings will not last long with rent and bills to pay

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PinkHeart5914 · 22/01/2018 13:52

As long as you can afford it and still keep the roof over your head, Go for it! Life is for living......

purpleprincess24 · 22/01/2018 13:54

What about Thailand? Some amazing spas and retreats

Hua Hun is about a 3 hour drive from Bangkok

theForeigner · 22/01/2018 14:05

Hua Hin is a shit hole. I'm currently in Thailand and it's way down my list even in this country, let alone in the region.

Mummaofboys · 22/01/2018 14:06

What’s the point in having savings if you never spend them x

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