I accept I’m being judgey but I can’t help it!!

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A friend has just posted a picture of her spoon feeding her baby what looks to be rusk mixed with milk or baby porridge. The baby is 4 and a half weeks old.

All the comments are supportive and ‘you know your baby best’ and I’m just like .

HE’S FOUR WEEKS OLD.

I was going to comment, but there’s no point is there? Better to come and rant to some randoms on the internet instead.

Cosmic, the daft cow concerned did not start this thread. She is probably not reading it. No daft cows were harmed in the making of this thread.

One new born baby, may well have been harmed.

Priorities?

My friend's daughter is the same - but not as early as 4 weeks! The daughter isn't stupid qualification wise, she just has this really bullish attitude that she's right and everyone else is wrong. If she was a teenage mum is would be more understandable - but she isn't.

If my friend tries to give any advice she is interfering. The MIL is now no longer allowed to see them. SS have become involved through the MIL I think.

Priorities?

This is nothing more than a bitch fest.

None of you know the mum. None of you can intervene and support her or educate her.
This thread is just an excuse to slate a mum you dont know based on something a stranger on the internet told you.

As I say any new mums coming here for advice and support would read this and probably not bother.

Bertie-I doubt her HV or GP know though and that is why people are suggesting to contact the HV team.

Cosmic-the Mum clearly needs support and if she has posted a defensive meme on FB she is unlikely to listen to the OP. So, what is the best thing to do; ignore what you have seen knowing a child could be harmed or to inform someone you know could step in and educate the Mum?

Well she has gone retro hasn't she ? Right back to the sixties. I was weaned at 6 weeks. But I am 49. What is she thinking ?

Possibly.

Or a new mother reading this who was thinking about doing this, may think twice? Social censure is a pretty powerful force, like it or not.

It's all theoretical compared to actual damage to an actual baby anyway.

Nobody is supporting on this thread. Its all name calling and glee at telling on her

Pathetic.
Some people pretend that their vile behaviour is for the greater good truth is they just enjoy a good bitch.

I shall leave you all to it. Enjoy.

Our adopted DD was given the 'wrong' formula far too young because BM was trying to make her sleep as much as possible so she didn't have to bother with her!
She was removed at 4 months.

As I say any new mums coming here for advice and support would read this and probably not bother.

I actually think MN goes the other way and can have a tendency to minimise and say "mum knows best".

There is really not any excuse for feeding a baby who does not have head control (or a full month of life under their belt...) solid food. Sorry if you feel that's bitchy but it sounds like this woman is wilfully ignoring the facts and then boasting about it for "likes" on social media.

6 months has been the guidance since 2005 ish, it was 4 months for decades before that.

Oh get a grip, Cosmic, that isn’t how it is. ‘Vile behaviour’. Really.

You’re clearly being defensive about something and therefore deciding you know everyone’s motives.

Go waft your lentil-weaving-chakra-healing wotsits elsewhere.

As I said some are just out for a bit of enjoyable name calling.

Stay classy stuff

Thanks stuff.

I came her for a rant, admittedly, but I actually got some really good advice and links to pass on.

I don’t think AIBU is the place for you cosmic.

As I say any new mums coming here for advice and support would read this and probably not bother.

Or, new mums would read this and realise the utter idiocy of feeding a 4 week old baby solid food. If everyone was a bit “umm...probably not the best idea, that message would be lost. It’s not vile to call out stupidity where it genuinely exists.

Thought you were leaving?

And calling everyone here a bitch is soooo supportive.....

You still here?

My DD (now nearly 16) was an utter star of a baby who slept well but was hungry till about noon.

MIL said (at less than a month ) to give her "some solids because she's hungry" . She also suggested I dip my finger in jam to put in her mouth because I didn't use dummies.

(I ignored her of course rather than 'suggest' she FottFSoF )

Didn’t you just report this thread for name calling?

Somewhere where they don't do irony may be better?

HappyCunt here

You can't stick your beak in with someone else's HV. They will tell you to get lost because of patient confidentiality.

I agree with you that the woman is wrong and may well be doing the baby harm, but you are better off messaging her privately - and be as kind as possible.

I won’t go to the HV, you’re right and I don’t feel comfortable doing it, but I have private messaged her nicely with a link from this thread.

She’s read it but not replied, which is fine.

Patient confidentiality wouldn’t come into it at all. You’re not asking for information, you’re raising a concern and they do listen.

I don’t think patient confidentiality comes into it but I also don’t think the HV service is there for members of the public to call them up and report parenting they don’t like. HV are there to support families, not act like police officers, turning up on new parents doorsteps to tell them off.

@CosmicCanary

Bore off