To think that this lady in Tesco was out of order?

[mommathatwearspink]

We were shopping in Tesco this afternoon when we passed a lady (i'd say she was in her 60's) who was talking to herself. I continued past her to pick up the items I needed but when I turned around she had grabbed our trolley and was talking to DP. She complimented us on our children and their names which was nice but said their eyes are far apart . However the worst was when she asked whether I was expecting again (DS is 8 months btw), I said no and so she continued to say 'oh so you're still loosing it from this one then' pointing to DS and that she had the same issue. She also made comments about me needing to loose weight.
I have put on 5st over the last 4 years and 2 DC and as I'm only 5ft1 i definitely need to loose some weight but AIBU in thinking that she was out of order for commenting...?

Is 'mental health issues' the new panacea on here for any kind of behaviour that an OP doesn't like? It only needs one person to blurt it out and then everybody follows with the same 'diagnosis'. It really grates.

When my friend sent her 2yos passport off to check it came back with the words "the photo cannot be used because her eyes are too close together".
She replied asking if they were recommending plastic surgery in order for her 2yo to get a passport.
They used the photo.

The only person I accept talking about my weight is me.
I'm overweight, I know it and I'm doing something about it.
I don't need anyone else commenting on it.
YANBU OP. Brush it off and move on.

One thing that happens with dementia is that the person loses all verbal filters and simply says whatever crosses their minds. I think that's likely what happened here.

Sounds like the poor woman has MH issues. Don't take her comments to heart.

She sounds like a lonely old lady whose tongue ran away with her. DP was kind if he was chatting back. Try and put it out of your mind.

Or, if they are an older person, they are simply not used to seeing obesity on such an epidemic scale and are just thoughtlessly voicing their opinions. Age isn't really a factor for blurting stuff out though, so many people think they can say what they like without comeback.

I agree with Tis that nobody else should be commenting and, if I'd been the OP, I would have smiled and said, "That's my business, thank you", and walked on. Or "We are not at home to Mr Rude". My nan used to say that so most of her generation and below would get it.

It's not normal or acceptable behaviour from anyone at any age. I too think there are probably MH issues at play here.

You don’t know her and you’re unlikely to see her again. She could well have mental health issues, or be incredibly awful at making polite, tactful conversation. Forget all about it and move on.

I don't know to me it sounds like the lady dug herself a hole when she asked if you were expecting another, then tried to correct it by saying she too struggled to lose the baby weight and succeeded in digging herself an ever deeper hole.

It's one interaction of many millions throughout your life, you can't change it, just forget it.

I volunteer alongside someone just like this. She lives independently but has learning difficulties. She often talks to herself and mutters under her breath. She has no "filter" so will often say things like "I don't like your shirt" or "You're annoying me". She's not being nasty and there's nothing wrong with her mental health, she just says what she is thinking.

Yes others might perceive it as rude but at the end of the day she's not physically assaulted you, she hasn't harmed you in any way. All she's done is said something you weren't expecting to hear. In the words of Elsa...

LET IT GO

YANBU to be annoyed OP because yes, she was rude. Who knows why. That said, what she did was so odd that you could probably just shrug it off. The fact that you didn't makes me think maybe she hit a nerve. Perhaps ask yourself why you're so bothered by something a random stranger in a supermarket said?

It obviously hurt, so take care of yourself OP.

She just sounds a bit of an oddball. Dont overthink it.

She’s was rude but it sounds like she was embarrassed about suggesting you were pregnant then tried to make it better ( in a clumsy stupid way) by commiserating that you both had weight to lose.
It would have hurt my feelings too but dont give it any more thought it’s just a silly person making a silly comment.