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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Baby sleeping in my arms

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Bananarama12 · 19/01/2018 22:00

I have a 10 week old DS who I co sleep with and he doesn't like his moses basket so in the day either naps on me or in the pram/carrier when out and about.
I haven't persevered with the moses basket because he wakes up and ruins his nap and then we have to start the whole getting to sleep cycle again.

My DP is now telling me it's not good for him to sleep in our arms and he needs to get used to sleeping by himself. We have had an argument because I think that's bloody ridiculous.

He may be my only child because I had a horrible pregnancy and not keen on doing it again so I want to enjoy his cuddles for as long as I can.

AIBU by refusing to keep trying to get him to sleep elsewhere???

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AntiHop · 19/01/2018 23:22

Make the most of it. Get a sling you can still have hands free to make lunch whilst he sleeps.

ethelfleda · 19/01/2018 23:35

Carry on doing what you're doing!! DS is nearly 12 weeks and he has barely been put down since birth. He spends most evenings on DH... Studies now show that it makes tour child more confident and happy as they know they can rely on their caregivers for everything they need. Keep holding your baby - I'm going to keep holding mine

ethelfleda · 19/01/2018 23:36

Also, I second the advice to get a sling. Best purchase we ever made.

hotcrossbuns765 · 20/01/2018 00:01

My DS is 15 months and still BF of a night. I'm slowly weaning him off co-sleeping and BF as I need my sleep. He is getting there slowly, I'm not rushing it. Enjoy the cuddles, you'll never get this time again. I was in my element with the naps and cuddles, it really has been the happiest time of my life. As others have said, as long as you're doing it safely, crack on. Tell your DH he's talking absolute shite x

10thingsIKnowAboutYou · 20/01/2018 00:10

Oh I miss the days when one of my DC would sleep in my arms. I let them for as long as they/I wanted. It's so lovely. Enjoy the cuddles.

seasidelife · 20/01/2018 00:15

I'm so broody now!!!

Footiegirl84 · 20/01/2018 02:28

He'll not be your baby for long so take all the cuddles you can. I don't however agree with co sleeping!! My son took months n months to sleep in his own bed

Laserbird16 · 20/01/2018 03:22

If it is not a problem for you then it's not a problem. Babies are very adaptable so whatever you choose to do will be fine. However, don't be pressured into doing something you don't want to. My DD would only sleep when breastfed and cuddled when she was very tiny or in a sling - at 17 months she can fall asleep with someone else lying next to her but the all powerful boobs send her straight to sleep in minutes

Lucylululu · 20/01/2018 06:55

I agree with you, I love sleeping with my baby too!

loveulotslikejellytots · 20/01/2018 07:13

Enjoy it, dd (now 2) stopped having cuddles as soon as she could wriggle away

In all seriousness though, we used to have to cuddle dd to sleep. DH made the same comments. But she grew out of it. She eventually went in her cot at night. But she was still being rocked off for naps in her pushchair at around 16 months. Then that changed, and suddenly she didn't mind her cot for naps either. It all happens eventually, don't stress if it suits you both.

mummmyj · 20/01/2018 07:42

Really..what shister came up with this "too much cuddles and kisses" with a baby, they are barely out of the womb at 10 weeks old, I think your DH either has abit of a jealousy issue or he has been reading too many books!!! My first baby is now 12 and I can barely get him to look at me never mind cuddles 😲😲 enjoy this time as it will never come again, totally agree with ladies.. now have to go and spoil my beautiful DD with ..lots of cuddles and kisses and maybe god forbid she will fall asleep..in my arms😀😀 millions of love, cuddles and kisses every minute of the day you will be richly rewarded with a very happy and healthy baby xxx

BrewUpAudrey · 20/01/2018 09:24

Ds is almost 14 months and had always slept on me in the day. He's on the go from the minute he opens his eyes to the minute he drops off so that hour or so is sacred! He get cuddles and i get down time otherwise I wouldn't get any at all. He'll be too big and not bothered eventually so I cherish it while I can.

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Bananarama12 · 20/01/2018 10:19

Thankyou everyone for all your lovely replies. I'm not teary at all
DP gets lots of cuddles from him as well! I think his mum may be a bit in his ear about it.
I shall carry on cuddling my beautiful baby and tell him to sod off

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JeansAndANiceTop · 20/01/2018 10:41

Enjoy those lovely snuggles OP.
Currently enjoying my own, been sat with DS in me for a good hour now. He smells vaguely of pancakes and baby shampoo. Wouldn’t change these hours of snuggles for anything.

Louiselouie0890 · 20/01/2018 11:11

I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. People have different parenting styles and you've just got to come to some sort of agreement. I'm one for them learning to sleep on there own at night I get plenty of cuddles in the day but neither is wrong.

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