To not want an older sibling at my dd's birthday party?

[SpookyMadMummy]

Ok. This may be a long one!
It's dd2's 3rd birthday in a fortnight. Its a joint party though with dd1. Dd1's birthday is just before christmas and a party then is unfeasable so we said they could have one together.
Anyway, I booked soft play for them. Now, dd2 knows quite alot of dd1's friends so we set out a list. One of these friends has a 12 yo older sister and her father insists thst she should come! This girl is not very nice to me tbh, I find her impolite. She used to be fine but I caught her out telling lies. So I basically don't want her there. AIBU??

well, I was gonna send her first post to your home the day prior - however the train is probably more responsible!

TMP - if you put your DD on your end, can you detour here, I will put DD on and they should be fine together..

Just make sure you pack enough fruit shoots to keep them going on the long journey..

In fact, SA2 can you send your 15 yr old down to babysit on the train?....

well, Heifer, 2shoes ds will be coming from the south coast if thats any help....

hell mean 2shoes - not Stoppingat2..

Yep, south coast, must pass this way surely..

Hope the soft play is big enough to cater for all these extras?....

G'day your royal heifness!
how are you today?

hiefer are you calling me mean??

I want your son 2shoes, if he is at a loose end! I am his no. 1 fan and stalker here! (My dd2's friend paid dd1 to go to a party and put makeup on 6 year olds once. Bad idea).

sorry i am keeping him .........dd loves him too much

not calling you mean 2Shoes.... I should have typed meant....

to OP

no not unreasobable if kids are being left

if parents are needing to stay with kids, IMO you always need to accomodate siblings too young to be left

think a 12 yo could be left though anyway

Agree that a firm 'no' is the way to go - no excuses, no made up age limits - NO - not invited. Be ready for her to turn up on the day and have dh (if there) primed to intervene and catch dad before he leaves - we've had this! His dd, his responsibility.

Tricky if the younger kids are too little for the parents to leave them as the parents also have to take care of older siblings and obviously can´t be in 2 places at once. But if it´s soft play and you are not expecting the parents to all be there as well to supervise and help, then it´s not unreasonable to say no as he will be able to leave with older child in order to look after her himself.

oh...didn't read carefully, just realised Fillyjonk said exactly the same thing...

durr

No you are not. A twelve year old is to old to be coming to a 3 to 5 year olds party. Her father should not expect her to come. Most softplay areas have am upper limit of 11. So just tell him that she is to old.