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to complain to next door's landlady.

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Gilead · 18/01/2018 22:46

Had the odd racist comment, not happy about that. Other than this, she seems to have taken it upon herself to police us. Should her shopping be delivered she waves me away with her hand and informs me that they won't be long, rather than asking if she wants delivery folk to move from shared drive so that I can go about my business. I did try to talk to her about this as it was a bit of a problem at the time, and got shouted at and she flounced off. We are constantly being watched, should we go out or arrive home you can hear her front door open and shut. Drives me nuts. A couple of days ago dd's boyfriend had his bike on her side of the drive for two minutes whilst he unlocked our garage door ( needed the angle to get it in) and good grief we had a fishwife on the drive.
I feel harassed and hounded and it's starting to really distress me.
There have been a couple of other incidents too, relatively minor but it's feeling cumulative. They're now in a position to see the drive from their house, which until recently they couldn't, so this evening have stood and watched all comings and goings.

OP posts:
Originalfoogirl · 19/01/2018 14:58

If a delivery driver is blocking your shared drive for 15 minutes, you speak to the driver and ask them to move to let you out. If they refuse, report them to the store who is making the delivery.

RadioGaGoo · 19/01/2018 15:01

I get an Ocado delivery driver turn up weekly and from parking up until leaving, the whole process can take 15 minutes.

ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 15:08

You blocked her drive but she didn't block yours. Someone else did. I really don't understand why you aren't just ringing the shop and saying to them.

Gilead · 19/01/2018 15:27

I didn't block her drive.

OP posts:
Gilead · 19/01/2018 15:28

And I didn't ring the shop because she stands between me and the driver dismissing me so I can't talk to the driver. It's not the drivers fault, he doesn't know there's a problem if I can't get to him to let him know.

OP posts:
DullAndOld · 19/01/2018 15:30

don't let her 'dismiss' you! Just say 'excuse me you are in my way'!

ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 15:35

What do you mean you can't ring the shop because she's blocking you from the driver? "Hello, please ask your driver not to block 32s drive. Not complaining but I didn't get a chance to say him myself". What exactly is difficult about that?

ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 15:36

*say to him

Weezol · 19/01/2018 15:47

The OP has cPTSD and a disabled child with her. It's not always easy to stand up to someone in those circumstances.

ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 15:54

If she is able to ring and complain to the landlord, she can ring the shop.

ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 15:57

To clarify that doesn't mean I think it isn't harder for someone with mental health issues but the principle stands that if she can ring one she can ring the other.

Gilead · 19/01/2018 16:00

ThePinkPanther
I'd actually planned to write to the LL. I'm not terribly good on the 'phone.
Still, as I say, I'm not going to bother now. Going to try and ride it out. I had thought I was stronger than this, but actually it's just shown me that things don't mend as quickly as you hope and that it's surprisingly easy to be knocked sideways again. I will email the shop about parking here, to be honest, hadn't actually thought about doing that.

OP posts:
ThePinkPanter · 19/01/2018 16:03

That's a good idea OP. It'll hopefully solve the problem with as little confrontation as possible x

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