To hate how I looked on my wedding day

[Goldmonday]

I got married almost two years ago and honestly look back and absolutely hated how I looked. My dress was beautiful but I don't think I wore it correctly (wasn't done up the right way) and I absolutely despise how I had my hair.

It's such a shame because I look back now and think wow I could have done such a better job than I did.

I know it's superficial but I can't help but feel bothered by it. STILL haven't got round to getting our wedding album printed and it's honestly because I only really like how I looked in a couple of photos. I feel so envious of brides now who get to make themselves look beautiful as I feel like I missed my chance!!

Anyone else feel the same way?

I don't have an album either. I was heavily pregnant, overweight with loads of double chins. I cried hormonally all the way up the aisle with my husband-to-be staring at me in horror! I looked a fucking mess! We had a curry afterwards with family and he chose a stupidly hot dish then spent the rest of the day on the loo then fell asleep with confetti in his hair. I have fond memories of the day though and don't regret it. It is what it is. I wanted to marry the man I was with and I did. I have bits I have kept from the day and still have my dress. It still makes me giggle.

I am not a female, but from a man's perspective I am sure you were as beautiful as you could be. Be nice to yourself and don't compare you to others...I have yet to see a bride that wasn't gorgeous on her day. Go ahead and get your wedding album done! :)

This is a sad thread. None of you looked as bad as you think, I'm sure. Don't let it spoil your memories.

I wish I'd worn my hair differently, in fact I wish I'd cut it shorter beforehand. I wish I'd weighed less. But I still treasure most of my photos because we were so happy. Most of the photos were informal, so although there are plenty of gurning ones, there are some gorgeous shots too.

My first wedding I was 33 weeks pregnant and wearing a 'Lady Di' style maternity dress. Found out I was pregnant, got married 4 weeks later, had baby 6 weeks after.

Not got a single wedding photo because the camera got nicked.

I did my own make up for this reason! I looked awful when the make up artist did it! Could you book an anniversary shoot?

I actually cringe when I think of my wedding day. Hated my hair. We were so rushed my dress wasn't sitting right and no one fixed my beautiful train so it was crumpled as I walked down the aisle.

Nearly 6 years ago now and it feels less bad now than then!

I had gone to a few wedding where I hardly recognised the brides they had changed their hair and such dramatic makeup that they looked strange. I hoped for a slightly better version of myself on my wedding day and it was okay on the day. I do love my husbands pictures as he looked so gorgeous. However my favourite picture was a few days later if us on our honeymoon in jeans in the beach.

Don't dwell on the look dwell on how you felt

Quite shocked at people saying they never had photos, and don't regret it, or had them taken but disliked them so had no copies, or had a few pics but refuse to ever show them to anyone. All so weird, and sad.... Never heard of that before.

We had a small wedding, and I did my own hair and make up. (Although I had had my hair highlighted blonde and styled 2 weeks before. On the morning of the wedding I did it myself though.)

I did actually like the way I looked, and when the photos came back, I looked thinner than I thought I did! I was a size 12, and thought I had a pot belly and a fat arse. But when the pics came back I looked like a pixie; really small and petite.

Not helping much OP sorry. But I am just shocked that people basically have no wedding day pics. If mine had been THAT SHIT, I would have put the wedding outfits back on, (a few weeks after the wedding,) and got our nearest and dearest, and closest 2 dozen or so family members and friends, and done another photo shoot. No way in hell would I have no photographic record of one of the most important and incredible days of my life.

Yes, if they were re-done a few weeks later they would not be the ones from the big day, but at least they would all have my family and loved ones on, with the same outfits we wore on the day, and things would not look much different.

Is it an option to get the wedding gladrags on, and grab your nearest and dearest and re-do them? I am willing to bet the vast majority of people would regret having no wedding photos. I actually find it very bizarre, and don't know anyone who has no wedding photos. Some people have only a small handful, maybe only 20, (and a few of them had their mate or brother take them,) but they still had some photos!

I have to agree with what a few posters have said... are you SURE you looked as bad as you thought you did?

I don’t like my dress!! I kick myself because I don’t like shopping so I ordered about 6 online and just chose the one I liked the best. I really wish I’d gone to an actual wedding shop and tried some on! I have 3 daughters (and one son) and will make sure they all get the dress of their dreams!! I spent an absolute fraction of our total cost on my dress (less than £200) but I knew it wasn’t right but thought it wouldn’t matter. I was a size 8-10 so could have worn anything but I just didn’t put myself first

Wow

Do you love your DH

Did you have a lovely day?

Did all the people you love come to wish you well?

Did you have a great party?

Job done.

Move on to the next party I say!

I love the idea of getting a photoshoot done!

I hated everything about my wedding day. Nothing felt right or easy on the day. It all felt horrible and illfitting like it all belonged to someone else.

I'm considering divorce just so I can get married again one day

Oh and we have ONE photo of our wedding on display ever. The rest were awful as the photographer was shite. Turned out he used someone else's portfolio

I felt that I looked ok (ish) on my wedding day although I wish I'd lost some weight before the event. My DSM must have thought differently though as she 'kindly' sent us some photos she'd taken and had photoshopped! Maybe she thought I wasn't wearing enough make-up as the 'enhanced' photos made me look like I had spiders coming out of my eyes! Needless to say, I binned them straight away. 🤣 🕷

My dress was " nice" but actually it was not my dream dress and I can still get a little sad that I never will get to wear a " dream dress" I simply never experienced that " this is the dress" sensation

Me too

I live vicariously through multiple "Say Yes to the Dress" episodes instead - lots of them are on YouTube!

I was fat on our wedding day. The whole stress of planning the wedding around a very difficult mother left me comfort eating and drinking and I gained 2 stone. I lost it soon afterwards so I really don’t look like me in our pictures.

I hated them for years - looking at them and seeing a heifer instead of me looking joyful, and it was something I fixated on in my subsequent eating disorder. I’m now (mostly) recovered and we’ve been married 9 years and I honestly don’t give a shit about how fat I was - all I see is the happiness on our faces. It took a long time to get there though and we have a couple of pictures up in our house.

Stop putting so much pressure on yourself for having to be the beautiful bride and see the happiness/purpose of the day. It will make you see the pictures in a very different light.

Ah I feel similarly. I always feel like my dress wasn’t altered correctly. I still don’t know if it’s just me being picky at myself or if It did look wrong.
For quite some time after my wedding I felt sad. I felt like I didn’t enjoy it enough, I felt self conscious and I really don’t feel like it was the best day of my life. Which I can easily admit now.
But I can also now realise it’s just one day, one dress, one occasion. I’m so happily married to dh and that is what truly matters to me.
Sadly, I think there is a massive expectation nowadays to lead a perfect life and life isn’t perfect.

Some of these are so sad but Crackerjacker's has almost had me in tears. You weren't a horror walking towards your husband. You were the woman he loved and wanted to spend his life with. Society puts so much emphasis on this one day when it's the years that follow that are the important bit.

My photos were blurry, I was fat, and my dress turned up late and was hideous so DH had to force me to wear it. I don't have a single photo on display, in fact I wanted to sue the photographer and DH wouldn't let me kick up a fuss. But I'm married and that's the main thing. I can't change the rest!

Whenever I feel like this I think of my friends house. They spent £25k on their wedding and yes, she looked gorgeous on the day. But their house is now a shrine to that one day. The wedding pics are absolutely everywhere, plus album on the table, plus they put their DVD on at the drop of a hat.

I might have been meh about my dress and not like quite a few of the pics but at least I’m not obsessed with seeing / showing people pictures of me ‘at my most perfect’

We had very little money so it was a small wedding at a registry office. I wore a cream suit from Reiss.

The suit was nice enough but I regret not having a wedding dress. Shame.

I had a very good friend to take wedding photos, I hate having photos taken - can't do selfies😂 We had a lovely album for us and a disc with all the photos. As far as I'm concerned all my images are in my head, we had a lovely day, few photos but lots of lovely memories, and that's just how we roll 😂

This is scaring me about my wedding day!
My first marriage- looked about 12. Felt about 12
This time I’m there for the love, not the wedding favours or flowers.

Oh OP I feel exactly the same - I absolutely hated my make up (I looked orange) and my hair frizzed up like mad - probably because the make-up artist spent the entire morning smoking outside with my mum and left his assistant to do my hair and make-up.

It's been a couple of years now and I still haven't had a single picture printed despite pressure from the in-laws.

Get some redone. Throw an Anniversary party, pop your frock on, ask your bridesmaids to do the same. If you do it with a sense of fun and silliness everybody should be happy to join in.

In a lot of Asian countries the wedding photos are taken months in advance and the album is passed around the reception for guests to admire and get copies done of their favourites.