Forgive and forget!

[Lilmis]

Just wondering... How many of u forgive and forgett or are you forgivers but never forget.

I forgive but never forget personally.

Rarely forgive. To the point I end up forgetting the person exists to be honest. I've been known to blank people out of my entire memory somehow until they're right infront of me.

I never forget and rarely forgive. But depends on the crime really. Some things just can't be forgiven.

Rarely forgive. To the point I end up forgetting the person exists to be honest. I've been known to blank people out of my entire memory somehow until they're right infront of me.

I never forget and rarely forgive. But depends on the crime really. Some things just can't be forgiven.

I have an ex that I refused to forgive, over time it's faded, I don't wish him happiness but I'm not exactly angry any more, it's an odd place to be in.

I pity him, I know he will only ever have a lifetime of suffering because he's such a pathetic excuse of a human being, I know he's going to end up sad and alone and somehow that makes me think maybe one day I will forgive him.

I think time heals, and as I heal I'm able to forgive parts of what he did because I'm forgetting them.

Or maybe I'm getting old?

Both! Depending on the circumstances that doesn’t always mean nothing changes. Grudges hurt the holder more than anyone I think.

The people that I can't forgive i never see so that makes it easier.

I will never forgive the people that endlessly bullied me throughout school, but I don't need to because I never have to see them. I feel I may have been a different person if it wasn't for them.

Depends what it is really. Argument with a mate where she's a total bitch, forgive, forget, move on. Child abuse, neither.

I try to forgive, forgetting is a bit trickier though haha.

Holding onto negative emotions and bearing grudges etc isn't good for you IMO.

I never forget and very rarely forgive, I blackmark people once you've done wrong by me. I remember what they did previously and ensure that I don't trust them ever again.

I see forgiveness as something that is beneficial to me so I do try to forgive in an abstract way, but I very rarely forget (which makes me wonder whether I truly forgive). There are people in my past who hurt me greatly who I won’t allow near me to hurt me again, but I don’t hold onto the hurt they caused or bear them any ill will.

Depends on the situation and who the person is really

Forgive( usually) but never forget

I'll try my best to forgive (catholic guilt ) but I rarely forget

Same as trinitysquirrel

I kind of forget and accept what they did, but I don't forgive. I just don't waste time thinking about them. I kind of put them to one side in my head!

I forgive myself for putting myself in situations where somebody could do something unforgivable.

That is about as far as I extend my forgiveness.

Never forgive or forget.

I can forgive if the perpetrator apologises but not if they'd caused you harm, emotional or physical, and refuse to show any remorse. Often for the hurtful things that are said rather than done. Words hurt. This has led me to be NC with My father and sister, whilst I'm not seeing them, they're not bullying me.

I forgive way too easily and give people more chances than they deserve.

I never forget thou, I don't think it's possible and I have never told anybody that I will just forget about it.

Even if can for a few weeks, months or years it will always come back up in an argument, or in your mind.

Depends. If more of an accidental upset/misunderstanding then I forgive. If deliberate, I can put it behind me, but make sure to keep a note of it in my mind. I can like someone's better behavior without being blind to their other side.

If it's a friend who, out of character has said or done something unkind, or thoughtless, I'll usually put it down to them having an off day and forgive, (depending on what they've done) but I don't forget.

If they do it again, or if it's a person I'm not particularly bothered about, then I'm done. The most they'll get from me is icy politeness from a distance.

My super power is 'indifference'.

I neither forgive, or forget. I am just totally indifferent to the person/people.

I will NEVER have contact with my so called mother again. Nor 2 brothers or a sister. They are all welcome to each other, but they are not welcome to me.

Funnily enough, if someone's done me a bad turn, I can forgive them. However when DH has been shafted, I harbour dark thoughts of revenge.

I forgive - regardless of whether they have ever apologised or even acknowledged their wrong/the hurt they've caused. For me, this comes from my Christian faith and the belief that it's the right thing to do, but also the first hand knowledge that by not forgiving them I am becoming bitter or angry and that is only hurting me - not them. It's certainly not easy though and in some cases has taken a long time years to get there.

Forgetting is a bit different I think. With most things I do forget - quite genuinely - I have too many other things going on in my head and they just don't take up headspace so they are quickly forgotten. For some more significant things I forgive in that I extend grace to them (I know I'm far from perfect myself), and I would never ignore anyone or be rude to them, I can rub along ok with them, but I don't let them back in to my inner circle of trust again. When I have seen a side to someone that is capable of the level of hurt that some people have caused me/my family I know that I don't want to put myself in a position of trusting them or getting close to them again. I don't blank them, but neither do I invite them into my life in any way and I wouldn't want them to know things about my life or be a part of it on an individual basis.

I guess in that sense I don't forget, but I see it more as making wise choices going forward