Deliveroo driver just messaged me on Facebook...

[Ranna]

Have NC’d for this.

I had some food delivered this evening. All fine. Delivery guy seemed very nice at the door, gave him £2 tip. --Don’t know if that’s relevant

Anyway about five minutes ago I received a friend request on Facebook, I hardly use it, so was a bit surprised but accepted as I could see it was someone from my area.

Very quick message (don’t want to be too outing) along the lines of:

“Hey I delivered your food tonight from the restaurant and thought I’d say hi. Fancy going for a drink sometime?”

Now, my AIBU is am I wrong to be totally freaked out by this?? Or is this just the modern thing? (I’m only in my 30s but don’t really use social media or OLD so my perception might be a bit skewed).

Would he not have to had really gone to a lot of effort to find me? I have a pretty common name. And he knows my address now. I feel weird.

Had a quick google and this has apparently happened to some other people

Oh and fuck off daily mail.

If you fancy him, go for it!

If you don’t, just message him & tell him.

I think this could actually be reported to the ICO, unless their terms and conditions (that you signed up to) state that their staff are allowed to use your information for personal purposes, then, this is against the principles of data protection.

What would be the point of reporting it to the ICO? For what end?

It's weird and a bit creepy OP

But I'm another one who doesn't understand why you don't check people properly, before adding them to your FB account.

I hope you don't have tons of info about your kids and the usual accompanying photos on there.

Not because of this particular guy, but because of the way you use FB.

It goes the other way too, when I was a pizza delivery driver I would often get texts from customers asking me out. Or to go to theirs after my shift for a shag. Never took any of them up on it.

It's inappropriate in both directions, but obviously the business has more responsibly to act professionally than the customer. They only had my number because I had to ring them to tell them I was outside or at a meeting point or whatever.

Think it's the random modern world.I would ask myself would I want to meet him if he asked for a drink in a bar ? Very keen if not tad creepy tho

I think if it was a regular delivery guy where you'd had a bit of chat/banter going on with, then fair enough but the fact is he saw you, for what, 10 seconds, with what is usually such little interaction, it's an inappropriate thing to do for sure imo.

I had the guy in the Indians put his phone number in with my chips.

He then didn't look happy when I went in with DP.

Common occurrence, several threads on it, in some cases the delivery person wouldn't accept the word "no".

BUT it's a breach of dpa and against most of these companies policies, plus it's sexual harassment.

Crashbangwallop - he only KNOWS op's name and location due to the info having been given to deliveroo for BUSINESS purposes. He's not allowed to use that data for ANYTHING else.

Personally I'd report his arse, I'm more than capable of standing up to creeps like this but it's unacceptable behaviour and I wouldn't want it happening to others who are less assertive, more vulnerable.

Also even though you are in your 30's I'm concerned your use of sm is naive. Suggest you look at the advice about staying safe online. I NEVER accept friend requests from people I don't know really quite well. Do you regularly review your security settings? Actually come to that do you HAVE security settings? Only friends of friends can even friend request me!

staysafeonline.org/stay-safe-online/

"Also I don’t have my address or any information about myself on there so there’s not much to find out." You'd be surprised -

birthday announcements/greetings - advertise your dob

Pic of you with new car - licence plate

Pic in the front garden - house number, possibly street sign, can be image searched for street address and town/postcode.

Pic at meal out - debit card on table easy enough to zoom in for details

My friend's husband this is kinda his job (online security for another countries equivalent of BT), YEARS ago (dial up) he proved to me he was able to get LOADS of personal info on me just knowing my full name and dob - inc my last prescription

To be fair to the bloke, he obviously sent you a friend request to see if you were interested, as you accepted he thought you may have felt a spark like he did and saw that as the green light to ask you out.

It's not great he used personal details, however it's not so different from the man that showed up at someone's work with flowers.

I wouldn't report him, however if he continues to contact you then you should 100% report. I think he'll most likely be embarrassed and leave you alone once you say no though.

I cant believe so many people are defending him and saying there's no problem with it. Or saying he's harmless.

People here have no way to know if he's harmless or not. He handed you a bag and you handed him change. Its not love at first sight.

Massively inappropriate on his behalf.

But why on earth are you adding randoms you don't know on Facebook? Just because someone claims to be from your local area, doesn't mean they're not dodgy or dangerous, or even a genuine person.

Hell, I don't even add everyone I DO know in RL on Facebook, let alone complete strangers! Isn't that internet safety 101?

"It's not great he used personal details, however it's not so different from the man that showed up at someone's work with flowers."

I think the difference is that the onus on acting responsibly with someone's data is on the company, not the customer. I agree with those who say he's violated the data protection act.

However, as long as he took no for an answer and it was just a quick asking out, and he didn't contact me again, I wouldn't go to his employer. Deliveroo are shit employers and he could easily lose his job, some feel that's a fair outcome but I don't personally believe what he did was egregious enough to warrant that outcome.

But I would probably message back and say 'it comes across really creepy to use my personal info to ask me out when you don't even know me at all, I recommend you stop doing this as someone could easily report you to your employer' to make him think twice. If he came back with anything except for silence or an apology THEN I'd report him to employer.

He used company information (this was not information given to HIM, this was information given to Deliveroo, for the express purpose of Deliveroo providing a service) for personal purposes.

Yes, report him to Deliveroo. He will have been told in no uncertain terms that this is not allowed.

I’d only complain if he follows it up once you’ve said no/ ignored. I believe deliveroo drivers are ‘self employed’ though so not sure how much responsibility Deliveroo would take.

In the Just Eat case, there’s not such thing as a ‘Just Eat driver’, the driver will have been employed by the takeaway itself so the complaint should be to them.

I had a delivery driver ask me face to face for a drink once. He knew I was married and knew my dog hated him. She eventually chased him up the drive back to where he belonged (in his van).