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Deliveroo driver just messaged me on Facebook...

91 replies

Ranna · 17/01/2018 19:28

Have NC’d for this.

I had some food delivered this evening. All fine. Delivery guy seemed very nice at the door, gave him £2 tip. --Don’t know if that’s relevant

Anyway about five minutes ago I received a friend request on Facebook, I hardly use it, so was a bit surprised but accepted as I could see it was someone from my area.

Very quick message (don’t want to be too outing) along the lines of:

“Hey I delivered your food tonight from the restaurant and thought I’d say hi. Fancy going for a drink sometime?”

Now, my AIBU is am I wrong to be totally freaked out by this?? Or is this just the modern thing? (I’m only in my 30s but don’t really use social media or OLD so my perception might be a bit skewed).

Would he not have to had really gone to a lot of effort to find me? I have a pretty common name. And he knows my address now. I feel weird.

Had a quick google and this has apparently happened to some other people Confused

Oh and fuck off daily mail.

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WeKnowFrogsGoShaLaLaLaLa · 17/01/2018 20:16

I wouldn’t go to Deliveroo just yet, purely because he knows where you live, and any slightly psychopathic intentions will likely be quadrupled by him being sacked because of you.

Explain you’re not interested, then delete and block. Maybe don’t use deliveroo for a while, or have someone else answer the door if so.

CrashBangWollop · 17/01/2018 20:17

He knows your name and what you look like, it wouldn't be difficult to find you on Facebook from that so I doubt he's broken and data protection laws ?!

I also don't get why people think it's weird - he maybe just liked the OP and short of knocking on her door again (which would have been a bit awkward!!) it was maybe the only way he could think to make contact that would put the ball firmly in OPs court as to whether she replied?

Original poster
Ranna · 17/01/2018 20:17

How do I actually speak to someone from deliveroo? There’s no “contact” button on my app?

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Ranna · 17/01/2018 20:18

Oh okay maybe I shouldn’t

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howthelightgetsin · 17/01/2018 20:19

I worked in a call centre when I was a teenager and a guy there started texting a woman who had rung in to discuss her phone bill Hmm
It was obviously super creepy but I didn’t think I could articulate to him how that just wasn’t ok (was about 15 years a go). Now I wish I’d told the manager.

The thing is, there was that thread on here not long a go about a man bringing a woman flowers at work, he was the customer, and of course it was all adorable. So on a way you think what’s the harm? People need to approach people they fancy somehow. But obviously you need to get some kind of signal back. So if he regularly delivered for you and you were chatty and flirty I’d think it was ok, and reasonable for him to make an approach. But just seeing someone you like the look of and with no indication that it’s ok using information you have on them via work to contact them is not remotely ok.

anothersuitcase · 17/01/2018 20:19

Overreaction. So he initially met you through delivering food to you. So what? He sent you a friend request and as you accepted it he thought you might be interested. You're not. Just tell him and most likely you'll never hear from him again. If he contacts you despite turning him down or does turn out to be a cyber stalker start another thread. Usual hysterical responses on here.

Magpie24 · 17/01/2018 20:20

A police officer once did this to a friend of mine after she reported her bike stolen! He took her number off the system. How inappropriate is that?!!

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Ranna · 17/01/2018 20:21

Howthe yes I know what thread you mean.

It’s a difficult one. He might have thought it was totally fine/ been too shy to say something directly.

But, I still feel weird about it.

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Jenny17 · 17/01/2018 20:22

CrashBangWollop I think it’s how he knows her name and what OP looks like.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 17/01/2018 20:24

For the love of little fish, when did everyone get so bloody paranoid? Bloke asks you out - just say no if you aren’t interested. No need to create a mountain out of a tiny molehill. They’re no more likely to turn into Super Stalker than a guy you meet at the pub. Grips need got.

afreshnewname · 17/01/2018 20:26

Screenshot or it didn't happen 😂🤔

LaughingLlama · 17/01/2018 20:26

I caught something on Radio2 about this kind of thing at lunchtime today.
Seems fairly common but imo a breach of data confidentiality.

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 17/01/2018 20:27

That’s the problem though isn’t it? Things that would be romantic and daring in romcoms are creepy and embarsssing in real life!

Exactly !!

NotCornflakes · 17/01/2018 20:28

That's a really inappropriate thing for him to do and I would definitely report to Deliveroo.

greenmagpie · 17/01/2018 20:28

bloke asks you out using information you gave to the company he works for that he wouldn't otherwise have.

greenmagpie · 17/01/2018 20:29

OK it's only her real full name, but he also knows her address. In the JustEat example he had her phone number too.

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Ranna · 17/01/2018 20:30

This is why I posted about it. I wasn’t sure if I was being ridiculous or had a right to feel the way I do. Which is slightly creeped out at the fact a delivery driver has tracked me down on social media, knows what I look like, my address and now my Facebook profile.

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OnionKnight · 17/01/2018 20:31

I'd be reporting him to Deliveroo, he's misusing the data.

listsandbudgets · 17/01/2018 20:33

Not facebook but I had similar happen to me years ago. The pizza delivery guy put a note through the door next morning with his phone number asking me to go for a drink with him. I didn't follow it up though - sometimes wonder what may have happened if I did.

No idea what HE looked like - I only had eyes for the pizza!!

PenelopeFlintstone · 17/01/2018 20:36

I don't think it's creepy either. It would take seconds to find you. I think it's how lots of people make contact with others these days, when they don't know their number.
Did he seem nice? Could you fancy him? Are you single?
His message was fine too.

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2018 20:38

Look, this is a HUGE data protection issue. You give your name and address to Deliveroo for business use only. This is serious misuse and they could be in breach of the data protection act.

This. You can't decide to use information you received for business purposes for personal purposes. It is not OK.

However, i had a friend who delivered pizza years ago who shagged more than one of the people he delivered to Shock

anothersuitcase · 17/01/2018 20:40

He almost certainly had your number or his company did. He could have text but instead he sent you a friend request, if this had been ignored he may well have not taken it further. But you did accept it so he messaged you. Your information is out there - I expect your Facebook is public and has your full name? There's no reason to think he's going to stalk you.

MagicWillHappen · 17/01/2018 20:45

I'd feel very sorry for the poor guy if you contact Deliveroo and try and get him sacked!

Anyway, what exactly will that achieve? If he's just a normal, non-stalky guy that (in some people's opinion) made an error of judgement, the poor sod gets the sack.

If on the other hand he's a homicidal stalker, you'll hardly be doing yourself any favours by getting him the sack.

Either way, reporting to Deliveroo is a lose-lose IMO.

LittleDittyAbout · 17/01/2018 20:46

It's wrong because the OP is a sitting duck. If she complains, he knows where she lives, if she doesn't complain, he knows where she lives. He might be normal and accept no, but he might not. We already know he has a problem with appropriate behaviour and a lack of boundaries.

I can't fucking stand this type of behaviour.

Olafffuxache · 17/01/2018 20:46

I thought I had a similar situation a while back,
Found an absolutely brilliant dentist,really kind and extracted a tooth with no pain at all!! Was so happy...
Couple of days later whilst on the go,checked FB and saw a friend request from someone I dont know,checked their profile and saw NHS nurse as profession,photo was too small for me to see his face properly but I realised it had to be the lovely dentists assistant who handed him the tools...I was gutted! Furious,angry etc.just my luck I finally find a great dentist and his assistant decides to stalk/add me on FB.
Anyway when I got home I looked properly and realised it wasnt him at all!!!!!
Just me being a dickhead!!
Still blocked who ever it was though!

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