Leave work early for 'parents evening'

[coffeeforone]

I would need to leave work about an hour early for the last appointment at DS's first parents evening at nursery. How does your employer treat this time off? Can they refuse?

WIBU to just say i have an 'appointment' at DS's nursery and expect them to treat it the same as they would e.g. a dentist appointment (which they say is basically fine at the start/end of the day). Or would you a take half day annual leave as it's not medical?

Your dh shouldn't do all the sick-kid days. Just because he has a fairer employer, that is taking advantgage.

I don't think he takes advantage. He needs to book 40 hours each week and always does, if DS is ill he makes up the time at evenings and weekends. They are very flexible and most of his work can be done out of hours if necessary.

My office is different and less flexible.

And well done for marrying a non sexist man, you are clearly a smart woman

Your office might be less flexible, but it's still very much in their interests that you organise satisfactory and appropriate childcare. I'd frame it in those terms if challenged. Be confident.

It's very reasonable of you to want to meet your child's carers, especially if you would otherwise seldom see them.