To think I can’t lose weight

[withit18]

I just don’t have the willpower.

And I’m shit.

I’ve done it before, but now my willpower has gone, have 5 stone to lose and can’t get past the first 7lbs.

I find getting the motivation is the hardest part! I've started my weight lost journey and I have a long way to go.

I’ve started about 365 times in the last year. No joke

The first week is the hard part. You need to kick the cravings. I find that even having a small treat leads me astray. I’m all of nothing.
Could something with regular meetings help? Or the body coach? More of a lifestyle change than a diet?

Will power is the issue here too.

Of course you can lose weight! If you sit there thinking oh I can’t do it you never will.

Why do you want to lose weight? To feel good? To be healthy? To set a good example for dc if you have them? The answer to why is your motivation.

How do you try to lose weight? Are you one for crash diets? What about trying my fitness pal and logging your food for a while, seeing the food add up over a day can be a real eye opener and remember eating less and exercising a little will see weight come off and after a week or 2 you’ll see a change in the scales and that will spur you on

Don’t look at it as losing weight. Look at it as doing 30 Mins of exercise 3 times a week and eating the same, then start skipping dessert etc.

I’ve lost 3 stone so far.
My before and now photo.

@OurMiracle1106 wow!

Really, no.

I don’t eat dessert. I am constantly on a diet. But then end up caving and stuffing my face.

Not expecting anyone to solve the problem, but I feel utterly broken by it all. It’s literally killing me and I cannot stop.

@withit18 sounds like just dieting yourself isn’t working for you. Ever talked to anyone and explored your relationship with food?

Thanks. Tried counselling but it didn’t work.

I completely sympathise. I have about 7 stone to lose. I lost four last year. Looked not a jot different in the mirror, felt absolutely no better in myself. Seeing the change in the scales did not spur me on it just reminded me of how far I had left to go. I feel your pain.
I feel crap about it too and the cheap about nothing tastes as good as thin feels...at the time thin feels so far away and unobtainable that anything tastes better than that.
I am getting to the point where I'm wondering if I should ask for counselling for my birthday present (seriously) because I feel the exact same way as you and it's soul destroying.

Yes I feel the same french.

For me depriving myself completely of the things I love was never going to work long term. Dieting doesn’t work if you can never have things you enjoy. It’s about a life style change- you can still eat that bar of chocolate but less often (and believe me you enjoy it so much more!)

As soon as you ban certain things you are setting yourself up to fail as unless you plan to give these things up forever sooner or later you will eat them, feel like you’ve failed. Quit dieting and go back to old ways. Where as if you say for instance “I won’t have more than 2 take aways a week”
And stick to it you aren’t failing, I also plan what I’m getting food wise before I go food shopping and Stick to the food list.

@fluffy. Thank you.

Agree with ourmiracle if you see it as being on a diet or trying to lose 5 stone you wont get anywhere because itll seem so stressful and overwhelming you will react by breaking down and sabotaging yourself.

Think about getting a step counter and aiming to a set number of steps a day, inclusive of 30 minutes light exercise a day.

Monitor your calorie intake with an app (myfitnesspal is good) and work out a reaonable calorie intake that womt leave you feeling unfed but will put you in a daily deficit.

Dont crash diet or severely limit calories, you will only feel like you are suffering and will end up failing and being back in the same viscious circle

Get lots of sleep as you will feel more energy and positivity if well rested

Find a treat that is healthier and allow it when you are feeling like you need a pick me up - mine is a meringue nest with low cal spray cream. It makes a substantial sweet treat at a surprisingly low calorie count

These things all helped me, hopefully they will help you xx

I could’ve written that op 🤔

The motivation to get started just isn’t there. I’m thinking if I sign up to something, like a challenge to lose weight in a certain amount of time, then maybe I might do it? I reckon when I think to myself, that I’ve got 5 stone to lose, it makes it seem so long and I just give up before I’ve even started.
Need a good kick up the bum 😐

Sorry, that was no help at all, but I feel ya pain sista! 🙌🏻 Xx

OP I'm the same. You are not alone 😔

Don’t look at it is as I have x amount to lose. Look at it as I’d feel better if I lost half a stone. Also treat yourself to something when you get to your goal. Whether it’s a nice bottle of perfume a bit of Jewellery or a nice long hot bubble bath (avoid food though). Then you have a goal to aim for that is achieveable in short term and is rewarding.

5 stone can seem very daunting. Try setting smaller targets. Ie. This month i aim To lose 12lbs. That’s only 2- 3lb a week and is actually very realistic if you reduce your portions/calorie intake and up your exercise. Breaking it down into smaller chunks can make it seem more manageable. I’m in exactly the same situation myself. I have About 7 stone to lose but i need To lose 4 to be eligible for IVF. I couldnt Even lose weight for my wedding as i had Zero motivation but hearing the consultant tell me he wouldnt treat me unless i got My bmi down in 6 months has been the motivation i need. You need to get yourself motivated to do it otherwise you will give up at the first hurdle. Good luck!

Why don’t you give yourself a month of just not fucking thinking about a diet. If you’ve tried loads then you probably feel like you’ve been on a diet your whole life.
Give yourself a month of not caring and just chilling out and letting it go with the knowledge that on X date you will begin the rest of your life.
Breathe, relax, stop stressing out.

Take a recharge break and reboot the old will power.

Instead of looking at the big picture, literally take it one day at a time. Each day think I will have one really light, healthy meal. The rest stay the same. Then when you have mastered that, I will have two really healthy meals etc. It’s about changing mindset and habit. Dieting doesn’t do that, hence why people put weight back on even when they successfully lose.

Oh me too OP ! I have spent the evening looking at detox weightloss retreats to see if i could just lose the first half stone it will spur me on! However they are £2k for 5 days so not going to happen. Currently fattest i’ve ever been and willpower is non existent 😐

I’ve fucking tried that Lemony and gained nearly a stone.

I was exceptionally miserable about it last night. Thanks.

And my before and after.

You can do it. I ain't nothing special

The question is: do you want to lose weight more than you want to eat and not exercise? If the answer is Yes, then weight loss will follow. If no, then it won't. I'm not bring flippant, it is that simple.