To confront him over pictures of ex?

[skimpyseaweed]

NC for this. I've found a USB memory stick hidden in a DVD case. Upon plugging it into my laptop, I found lots of pictures of DH with his exGF from before he met me. Some are of them kissing, her in a bikini, her in her underwear on his bed, etc (no naked ones thankfully). I feel a bit sick and shaky after seeing them, even though I know they're photos from years ago and perhaps he just forgot they were on there, although I'm a bit suspicious as to why the USB was hidden in a DVD rather than with his other computer things. Would you be upset about this? Or is it a non issue as we all have ex's so having photos of them isn't a big deal? I just don't know why he would hide the USB unless they were something he looks at regularly?

I find it bizarre that once you realised what it was that you kept looking. That what I consider an invasion of his and hers privacy.

Glad this has been resolved!

Until phones with reversing cameras it was pretty hard to take selfies unless you just kept sticking your arm out and taking loads, checking them, etc. Seems a bit odd if there are a lot of them too - they really weren't a 'thing' that long ago.

Of course they were - before phones everyone had digital cameras! The especially swish ones had front displays for selfies, or a bit which folded out like the old camcorders.

Glad there's an innocent explanation OP. I can see why the pictures gave you a bit of a shock, but wonderful that it's all worked out happily.

Selfies taken over nine years ago? Are you sure they're not more recent?

Me and my DH have been taking those type of awkward to get selfies for years, I don't think it's that unusual (they weren't called selfies back then though)

oh and that sounds like a reasonable explanation OP, glad you feel better, always better to just talk openly about this stuff imo

Glad it's sorted OP! I'm guessing all the photos on the USB were from years and years ago, not just the ones of the ex? I had assumed some where more recent but it sounds like they were all around the same time period if it was long ago enough for him to put them on the stick and then forget he'd done it. I definitely could tell you what's on my old USB sticks!

I'm glad you got it resolved, well done for talking to him about it so quickly.

My only question is, if there was a digital download with the DVD what does that actually mean? Was the USB stick a themed one that came with the DVD? As if it was just a normal one he already owned, what would he need it for? The DVD would come with a code for the download on the computer and there'd be no need to move it from the computer to the DVD or DVD case. If it is a USB that came with the DVD and has the download on it already then why were those photos from years ago on there if the DVD and USB are only a year or two old? Just trying to work out what I'm missing!

Oh I just re read he was planning to use the old USB. For a digital download. But why? A digital download doesn't need a USB. You just enter a code on a website. You'd only need the USB to transfer it to another machine to give to someone.

Did he end up downloading the digital thing? Did he put it on the USB? Cos if he had it'd be on there. And if he'd used it in the last year or so how could he have not noticed what was on it when he opened it up and was transferring the DVD download onto it?

I hate to be so suspicious but it doesn't make sense to me. Why would he need a USB at all, why would he slide it behind the paper insert away from view, why why wouldn't he know what's on it if he's used it so recently. I don't want to rain on your parade and I hope there's a normal explanation, it's just you said he sometimes lies to avoid telling the truth and this doesn't seem to add up, though I hope I'm wrong.

Did you check the DVD box to see if it does have a download in it? That wouldn't explain the other stuff though.

Lemon I understand your points, he basically said that he'd found the USB (didn't know what was on it) and put it in the case with a view to download the movie on his laptop and then transfer to USB. He then just forgot about it. There were no new photos on the USB, only old ones from before we met, so it's very plausible that he had no idea what was on it.

Whatever happened, I do believe him. I can tell when he's stretching the truth and this wasn't one of those occasions. He insisted on deleting the photos immediately so I would understand they didn't mean anything to him. He also said that he understood and would also be a bit suspicious/confused if he'd have found the same thing of my ex bf's.

Why would he need a USB at all

To transfer the film to another device or to watch on the TV?

Ah I see OP, and onion, I wasn't imagining someone would take something from a computer to watch on the tv via USB. Either way you know him and it sounds like you're confident he's telling the truth so it's a good outcome, definitely the fact that there aren't any new photos at all since you met fire his story too.
What a relief :)