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Aibu to think this is very sly?

55 replies

Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:22

I've been friends with someone for 11 years
We went and seen two movies together and the third one is out in February.
I've asked her for months "are we still going to see this?"
She said yes.
Wednesday I text her saying "you still up for this"
She replied "well a few girls from work want to see it too,thinking about the 11th"
I replied "that sounds great,I deffo want to see it"
No reply
A mutual friend rang tonight and in conversation said
She's already booked yesterday for the 17th
She knew I wanted to go,why not just ask me to go with them?
I honestly feel like she doesn't like me.

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HarrietKettleWasHere · 14/01/2018 17:25

If it's 50 Shades YABU. It's awful.

Sorry. I'm not sure it's sly as such. Can she only see it with you? Ir did you mean you wanted an invite to seeing it with her work mates?

OliviaBenson · 14/01/2018 17:26

It's stuff that this that while only small in the grand scheme of things, can be confusing and hurtful.

Why don't you text her and say you spoke to your other friend and that you are free in the 17th for the film? See what she says.

YABU if it's the 50 shades film though!

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:27

She already said she was going to see it with me.
Then said her work mates wanted to see it so I said ok I don't mind those coming too.

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HarrietKettleWasHere · 14/01/2018 17:30

I suppose she might be thinking it'll be a different dynamic with her work mates and is feeling a bit awkward about it. She should see it with you first.

reminds self not to be horrified that some people could sit through that film twice

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 14/01/2018 17:31

I honestly feel like she doesn't like me.

When someone tell you who they are, listen.

You have it spot on. You don’t treat someone you like that way.

Original poster
Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:32

It is 50 shades yes Blush
It's awkward because I'm annoyed now but we are going to a concert together a week later(I bought the tickets for her for Christmas )

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lostinspaceyetagain · 14/01/2018 17:34

I don't get it? Why is it awkward.

I saw star wars 3 times in 4 days. Cant she still see it with you as well?

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:36

She won't.
She will say she's already seen it's won't go and pay again.
(Previous experience )

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LaughingLlama · 14/01/2018 17:36

Go on your own. I rarely go to the cinema with anyone. Partly because people tend to let me down at the first chance s better option comes up but also because its one of the few things in life thats eas to do on your own. You don't actually need someone else with you to sit in a dark room for 2 hours to watch a film.

Original poster
Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:40

I was thinking about going one afternoon once the hype has gone..

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HarrietKettleWasHere · 14/01/2018 17:41

I'd just see it to be honest. Don't wait for her to bugger you about.

TheQueenOfWands · 14/01/2018 17:43

I don't get it?

Just go with her and her work mates.

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:44

I want to go with her and her work mates.
I said I would go.
She's booked the tickets without me and hasn't got me a ticket.

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TheQueenOfWands · 14/01/2018 17:46

Book one yourself?

I'm still not getting it.

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:48

She clearly doesn't want me to go with them.
She couldn't be more obvious.
She's booked the tickets for her and her 3 work friends without telling me after I said let me know when you decide the date your going .
After agreeing to see it with me.
I made it clear I wanted to go ahead and join in.

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TheQueenOfWands · 14/01/2018 17:50

Ah!

Then she's a dick. Cut her loose.

Gwenhwyfar · 14/01/2018 17:50

"Book one yourself?

I'm still not getting it."

OP's not invited TheQueen.

HolyShet · 14/01/2018 17:51

She doesn't have to go with you - even if you saw the other two together

Sometimes in work mates and out of work mates don't mix well. OR she wants to go at the start of the run, you want to go when its quieter.

I'd tell her you are disappointed/sad/hurt not to be going with her, and leave the ball in her court.

Original poster
Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:51

I don't know whether to say
"Why didn't you let me know about the film? After we agreed to go?"
Or just leave it and not show her I care.

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UnbelievablyAshamed · 14/01/2018 17:51

I wouldn't book one with them. OP, I know it feels shit but she's allowed to have other friendship groups.. it's just a film. It's easily something you can watch any time, not a once In a lifetime thing.

ilovekitkats · 14/01/2018 17:52

She IBU. I had agreed to see the second film with my friend last year, then a different group of friends arranged to see it. i included her with them, and we all went together.

In the past I have seen a film twice, where I did not want to let her down, and also did not want to miss out on a night with the girls who wanted to see it too, and have a meal after etc.

jaykay34 · 14/01/2018 17:52

OP, I think youre being a bit oversensitive about it. Why have you concluded that she doesn't like you ?

She's just chosen to see the film with her colleagues. Perhaps if its just her workmates going, its a bit awkward to bring other people too. I would probably find it a bit weird if I went out with the people from work and one bought a friend along. She probably has no idea how offended you are !

I know it's a disappointment for you, but can you not just go on your own or with someone else ?

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:52

Holy- we had plans tho,she knows I don't care the date time etc I just wanted to go.
It wasn't as if I was just assuming we would see it together,it was planned.

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BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 14/01/2018 17:53

Go and see it before her, then text her all the spoilers. Grin

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Lljohn32 · 14/01/2018 17:54

It's not the first time she's done similar.
I don't want to "drip feed" but just to back up my feeling of she doesn't like me ...
Arranged a night out with me,then said she was feeling ill.
By 9pm she was in the pub with her other friends saying she felt a bit better.

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