This year DD(5)wanted a party at home for her bday. Because we live in a one bedroom flat,i told her she could only have 3 kids,with her 4, and the parents won't stay.Didn't even bother with invites just messaged the parents as it's going to be a very laid back affair, more like an overcrowded playdate.
DD is super excited (has been since Christmas) so I assume there has been lots of chatter about her bday at school.
One of her friends mum approached me and asked why her daughter wasn't invited,that she's really upset about it and if the mum did something to upset me and now I'm leaving her kid out. I explained the situation, no room for more kids or grownups,DD is friends with her kid and likes her, we just had to be really restrictive with numbers. Her reply was along the lines "oh I didn't knew you were in a one bed,but surely you could make it work. What's one more child? And I wouldn't be any bother."
Once again I stated 4 kids was what i was comfortable with due to the size and I'm sorry but maybe we could have a playdate at some point.
Cue lots of passive aggressive messages on FB, about how evil grown ups are leaving children out, and if she's not with the in crowd,she can't help who she is and her child shouldn't suffer for it and when people asking what it is about vague insinuations or "I'll PM you hun".
It took all my strength to not reply "For fucks sake woman, there's no room!"
So AIBU?