Apologies for the long message, but here goes, I have been married to my DH for 7y, we live together with my DD and DS and had fortnightly visits from my step daughters whom I think the world of. The eldest SD told me she was having problems at home, and I told her there would always be a place here for her. So last Oct, my DH received a text from her saying that she and her partner were homeless, and asked if she and him could stay with us for a while. My DH and I, talked about it and knowing how much it would mean to him I accepted, as long as rules were set down. They have to pay board and get jobs, she always has a home here, for him it would be temporary until he gets sorted. So three months in, he got a job! 5hrs a week. just earns enough to pay his board. He spends all day in bed, leaving my step daughter alone downstairs, he makes every excuse not to apply for jobs, saying that he wants a certain job that isn't available. When he does come downstairs he sits looking at his phone, he doesn't communicate. I have previously told him to leave, after many disagreements with my DH. But my DH fell out with me when his daughter decided to go with him, and said its my fault his daughter has moved out and he couldn't forgive me. So they came back. 1 month on, no change so asked my DH to give him 1 month to either find a job or find somewhere else to live. But my DH wont tell him because he doesn't want to upset his daughter. I have pointed out that its unfair on him because he's oblivious to the deadline. I cannot speak to him, I cant even look at him, he makes me so angry. I have spent most of my time in my room, and have stayed behind late at work because i don't want to see him. My DS works and pays his way, my DD is in full time education and my SD did get a job. This lazy boyfriend of hers has drove a big wedge in our family and made me and my DH have multiple arguments, I have told my DM , its him or me.