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To insist my DS 15 leaves his phone downstairs at night?

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Alphabetsoup4 · 12/01/2018 22:05

My DS has got really cross today. He says I’m treating him like a child as I have told him that now School term is back he should start leaving his phone downstairs every night to charge.

I had got him an expensive iPhone for Christmas, the first new phone he’s had and it took me a lot of months to save the money. Previously he used to leave it downstairs but it was such a headache getting him to remember, so I let it slide only to find him more than once watching YouTube at 3am. He’s totally addicted to his phone and he never gets himself up in the morning.

So after letting him enjoy the phone over the holidays, where he turned into a complete zombie and lay in bed almost every day, I thought I’d reinstate it.

I am heartily sick of the battle about this, and he’s testing me by absolutely refusing. He’s underperforming at school, still neglecting basic stuff like brushing his teeth and into video games and not much else.

Does anyone else still try to put up healthy boundaries on devices? Should I insist for the next year or so to make him at least sleep in exam years?

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 14/01/2018 00:50

I made mine keep gadgets downstairs until after their GCSEs last year. Not easy at times as they all do the "it's not fair, everyone else is allowed".

After that I let them get on with it hoping they'd be a phase of over use and then they'd self regulate. It's worked with one, not the other.

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alltheworld · 14/01/2018 00:55

No phones in bedrooms is a good rule for everyone. It was my New Years resolution which I am totally struggling with.

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alltheworld · 14/01/2018 00:56

I need to dig out my old alarm clock!

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AnathemaPulsifer · 14/01/2018 00:57

My similar-aged DD made a case for being allowed her phone in her room at night. I now allow it but conditional on me not seeing any signs of it affecting her sleep. Phones in rooms are a privilege, not a right.

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SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 14/01/2018 00:58

Put Qustodio on it.

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CommanderDaisy · 14/01/2018 02:35

If you're having problems motivating him, get the TV and the playstation out of there as well. And if you take away the phone from his room, he'll just hop on chat, apps etc. through the Playstation anyway.
So you probably won't acheive what you want with this gesture .

We have everything electronic out in the common areas or not at all.