I say lend but it's more give as I don't get it back nor expect to.
He has just turned 18, doesn't work. He quit college a few months after starting at 17 and since then has had 3 jobs and has been fired from all 3. The first two was because he claims the managers didn't like him (probably due to the fact he was always late and has a problem with people in authority) the third job he was let go as he wasn't meeting his targets (it was in a factory)
He says he is waiting for a call back regarding marine engineering in the navy, but he's been saying this for months. I've told him he needs to get a job in the mean time to earn some money and incase this doesn't work out. He said that he has been applying for loads of jobs but no one was requested and interview as of yet. I redid his CV for him and applied for jobs on his behalf but he seems to think every job I apply him for is rubbish and beneath him. I applied for him as a kitchen porter which he was invited to attend an interview for, however he refused to go as says it's a rubbish job and he wouldn't do it.
He lives with my mum (she works full time but has 3 younger children so money is tight) he isn't receiving any benefits and my mum gives him around £20 a week. He is constantly asking for more. He will ask me every week if I can lend him money and usually I will give in and say yes and give him the odd £20 here and there. He mostly spends it on clothes and cigarettes, he refuses to wear unbranded clothes or trainers so money doesn't go very far with him (he spent his entire £200 Christmas money on one tracksuit)
My other brother (aged 14) had £70 left over in Christmas money which my oldest brother "burrowed" and is yet to give back (says he will pay him back when he has a job) which he spent on cigarettes and a new top.
My mum is pretty much useless when it comes to being harsh on him. If she has money she will give it to him and makes no real effort at helping him get a job. She is full of excuses for him if I bring it up with her. She says she allows him to take money from his younger siblings as in her words "if I say no he will just cause a fuss"
I gave him £30 in Christmas money 3 days ago (it was a late Christmas present as I was abroad). He then messaged me today asking for £20 as he says he owes his friend £10 and wants to go out tonight. I've said no and that instead he should focus on handing out his cv. Now my mum has phoned me up asking me to please lend him money as she "can't deal with the drama" aibu? I am more than happy to help him get a job but I resent just dishing out money, I'm fed up with the situation. I have got him interviews and he just declines to go so I don't see why I should be giving him more money.