To hate DHs drama llama behaviour when he’s on nights

[Reallytired17]

Constant ROARING yawns, like ‘YYYYYIIIIIEEEEEEEAAAAWWWWWWWWNNNNNN’

Then, ‘oh, SORRY, I’m on nights.’

The rest of the week he will do nothing coz ‘I’m on nights.’

It’s driving me mad.

Just yawn all the time really loudly and say
“YAWWWNNNN! I’m on double day shifts because I’m working and also doing every fucking thing round the house!”

What wino said.

I agree such drama llama behaviour is bey9nd annoying. You might have sympathy otherwise but some one who pitied themselves so much will get none from anyone else!

Night shifts are very very draining.
I think YABU to be so patronising unless you’ve ever done them yourself.

I'm with your husband. I'd be a sobbing mess if I had to work when my body knew I was supposed to be asleep.

Have you ever worked nights OP?

Mines like this too. It's very irritating. Why when on nights does one lose the ability to put dirty plates in the dishwasher for example? I'd love to know!

I'm on a lot of nights at the moment and YYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAWWWWNNN, I'm pathetic when I'm home. I do still do basics like washing and dishwasher but very slowly. Luckily my dh is very understanding.

I have done nights so I can say yanbu. He needs to just get on with it like the rest of us do and be thankful that he doesn't have to do every single other thing the family needs doing as well. I'm not bitter at all.

Having done nights I can say that I am pretty much a zombie during those times (especially when noone will let me fucking sleep!)

Pfb how good would you be at housework at 3/4am? The daytime is the middle of the night and its so hard to switch back

I barely know my own name or how to dress myself when I finish nights. I feel like Im living under water.

YABabitU. But only a bit.

My DH does seven nights in a row (13 hour shifts) once every three months and it is hell for him. He struggles to adjust to nights and then back to days again. We barely talk those weeks because he knows how moody he is. He doesn't lift a finger at home those weeks either, but does at all other times so I do cut him a lot of slack.

If your DH is being a drama llama it may be because the nights are playing havoc with his body/mind. Otherwise, he needs to get on with it.

I have worked nights although admittedly it was a while ago. I just don’t ever remember being quite so theatrical! Mind you, I have always been a better sleeper than he has.

And I wouldn’t expect him to do housework when he’s been on nights. But it’s the fact he will do nothing for the three or four days he’s not working at all that can be frustrating.

Ah! The Wookiee Yawn

DH work all sorts of odd times. He can make a yawn last an hour, drowning out the telly and even my sewing machine!!

But he does like cooking and hovering... so I sort of have to put up with it!

I was a mess when I did shift work. It was horrible.

YANBU.

I know nights is a drain, but I never hear women who do nights gripe like this. And also, women still do most of the shit round the house, even when on nights! Men do love to moan though PMSL!

And if we are talking about men making stupidly loud noises; what is it with men and loud SNEEZING? And the fact they do it quietly in public means they CAN do it quietly!

And yes I have done nights before.

Dh doesn’t sneeze quietly in public either. I lost him in Tesco once and tracked him down by his sneeze!

I do very little when I'm night shift. Work, sleep, laze about, gym work is my cycle for my nightshift.

And I moan about being tired.

I feel much worse AFTER nights than during.

I can help out a bit before and after shifts when Im actually ON nights. But the 2/3 days after I finish Im broken and it takes all my will power just to try to force myself to be awake at all during the day so I can switch back to days.

YANBU to be annoyed by him but I do sympathise with your DH.

I am a morning person - eyes open, wide awake and motivated from the minute I get up but this doesn't translate to nights at all.

Even if I sleep well during the day it can take me ages to come round when I wake and a good 1 to 2 hours to feel safe to drive for example. Recovering from nights can turn you into a total zombie unable to think straight, aching joints, uncoordinated with brain fog. My DH is very understanding that I'm not as productive round the house during night shifts but I do make up for it when I'm off or on day shifts. Hopefully your partner does the same.

Does nothing for the 3 or 4 days he is NOT WORKING?? I call lazy bastard. And yes, I have worked nights. But as I am a grown up person with children and responsibilities I don't abdicate these - because I am a grown up!

I do a lot of nights, am pretty useless during them (but still do most of cooking etc) but you seem to be saying he's still using that excuse on his days off after nights? Not acceptable!

I know nights is a drain, but I never hear women who do nights gripe like this.

ALL the women I do nights with (apart from the two who PREFER nights, or as we like to call them: freaks) throw oursrlves massive pity parties about being on nights.

I’ve done plenty of nights (long ones - 14hours). Plus multiple 72hr weekend on calls. Maternity leave was a blissful chance to catch up on my sleep

If he’s that tired, he should get to bed. Nobody wants to hear him banging on about it. Sleep, or don’t sleep. But shut up.