To hate DHs drama llama behaviour when he’s on nights

[Reallytired17]

Constant ROARING yawns, like ‘YYYYYIIIIIEEEEEEEAAAAWWWWWWWWNNNNNN’

Then, ‘oh, SORRY, I’m on nights.’

The rest of the week he will do nothing coz ‘I’m on nights.’

It’s driving me mad.

I hate nights and become totally incapable of doing normally stuff. Do takes over the cooking and general household stuff when I'm on nights. I don't sleep that well but am completely unable to function when awake. It's shit!

Hard to believe I did permanent nights for 13 years!

I do catch up on my days off though, no excuse for doing nothing when not on nights though.

No one said anything about asking him to do housework. But basic tasks still have to be completed. I have worked nights so of course I sympathise and let him sleep and like I said, don't expect a huge amount, but the day to day aspects of living (like dishwasher loading) don't stop just because the shift pattern has changed.

If he’s that tired, he should get to bed.
You have to NOT go to bed when you're tired during/after nights..thats kinda the whole point

@GingerbreadMa

ALL the women I do nights with (apart from the two who PREFER nights, or as we like to call them: freaks) throw ourselves massive pity parties about being on nights.

Well I don't know any that do. And I bet no woman moans a much as bloody men do. Some men can moan for England. They do love their moaning, men do! Without a shadow of a doubt, every man I know moans more than women (about every fucking thing!) Women get on with things, and men gripe like bitches.

Sorry but just as much. As I can get you feel rubbish when on nights, I wouod not accept the theatrical YYYYAAAAAWWWWWNNNN.

Can you ,angine of women were doing that?
So I have my periods and I feel soooo tired YYYAAAWWWNNN
My sleep was bri’en by little dc for two nights in a row, I feel so awful YYYYAAAAWWWWNNN

And then impossible, do nothing because you are so tired that you can’t possibly be asked to help.
Not going to happen, is it?

So why do we panda to men in that way and let them make such a huge fuss out of things we, as women, would never be allowed to make a fuss over??

I worked nights for 30 years they are horrible. Exhausting and really bad for our health , YADBU OP . Your poor DH be nice to him, bless him.

@GingerbreadMa

ALL the women I do nights with (apart from the two who PREFER nights, or as we like to call them: freaks) throw ourselves massive pity parties about being on nights.

Well I don't know any that do. And I bet no woman moans as much as bloody men do. Some men can moan for England. They do love their moaning, men do! Without a shadow of a doubt, every man I know moans more than women (about every fucking thing!) Women get on with things, and men gripe like bitches.

When i was on nights i was fucked. If i had to do the dishes i would drop them on rhe floor as my coordination goes tits up. Its frustrating for you sure but is also damn draining for him.

Women definitely do complain about it, when I get to work tonight we will have handover which will include a contest about who is most tired, which will conclude that we all are and be finalised with lots of sympathy all round.

@mrsmadevans

I worked nights for 30 years they are horrible. Exhausting and really bad for our health , YADBU OP . Your poor DH be nice to him, bless him.

Yeah poor wee fucking DH. Wah wah wah.

FFS!

And why the hell would you do nights for 30 YEARS if it was so bad? Give over!

YANBU. I HATE it when people yawn in an exaggerated manner.

I am sure women DO complain, but not as much as men - EVER.

Well I don't know any that do. And I bet no woman moans a much as bloody men do. Some men can moan for England. They do love their moaning, men do! Without a shadow of a doubt, every man I know moans more than women (about every fucking thing!) Women get on with things, and men gripe like bitches.

Just to clarify - do you think men are moaners? It's not clear.

I am nice to him , usually! But I reserve the right to be fucked off with his roaring yawns!

drama llama hate it, ridiculous phrase.
Nights are horrible, l also yawn and moan about them! Have some sympathy

'And why the hell would you do nights for 30 YEARS if it was so bad? Give over!'
Nursing that's why

LOL Shatner!

@mrsmadevans

because of nursing that's why I did nights for 30 years.

No, not having it. There would have been other shifts.

My brother is a paramedic, and my cousin a police officer. Neither one has ever - in 20-25 years, done nights all the time.

If nights had been that bad for you, you would not have done it for 30 years. Simples.

@GingerbreadMa

*ALL the women I do nights with throw ourselves massive pity parties about being on nights

You have to NOT go to bed when you're tired during/after nights..thats kinda the whole point*

That’s where you’re going wrong! An early night would sort you out

Seriously, I go to bed as soon as I get home after my last night and sleep until about 6pm, get up and potter until midnight, then go back to bed again. Wake up the next morning caught up on missed sleep with my body clock almost reset.

I start back on days the day after that (ie if I finish nights on Monday morning I’m back on days on Tuesday morning) so I need my body clock resetting ASAP.

I bought up my family and my DH looked after them whilst I was in work after they were grown up I had to look after my elderly MIL and parents. I was able to do all this because I worked nights. I was also a Paediatric community nurse and my role was to work in the childrens homes giving much needed respite to their parents , which was invariably nights. When you do this line of work it is not something you can just drop . I looked after these children since birth and they became like my own. I recently retired and they were devastated and so was I .So no ....perhaps you may have been able to leave them for your own ends I couldn't .

My dp does nights every few weeks and he does find it hard. He doesn't act like that! He can be a bit tired in general and a little grumpy if he gets woken up early by the dc (do my best to keep them as quiet as possible) which is understandable, but the theatrical yawning and inability to do anything would piss me right off.

He even manages to unload the dishwasher and do the school run when he comes in of a morning.

Feeling very lucky after reading this thread.

My grandmother did 20 years of full time nights, and looked after 3 children during the day (single parent). I bet she didn’t theatrical yawn and refuse to do any household chores!

(Obviously the three children were at school, which is when she slept. She did everything else single handedly)

DP only works lates (15:00- 00:00) give or take an hour up or down and he still manages to do stuff at home. He does seem to need some extra sleep which is fair enough in my book.

I refuse to be understanding of pity parties, I'm far more willing to help when people at least try and get on with it.

Thats nice for you delete. But I cannot sleep early the night I first come off nights. Its not that Im not exhausted, its because after keeping myself awake for 4 nights my body keeps forcing itself awake on the 5th night and I get very little sleep that night. 6th night (2nd day off) I CAN get myself to sleep so long as I got myself up early that morning (after hardly any sleep) but I barely function. 7th day I can be a normal human again.

Its the aftermath of nights that kill me. Im okay while Im doing them