To ask my neighbour to not hoover after 8pm

[chewiecat]

New neighbours just moved in upstairs and they love a good hoover. Almost every alternate days. Not a problem usually but they are starting to do this later and later and waking DS up.

It's 9.30 pm now and she's banging and crashing around and DS is crying

Wibu to ask them to refrain from hoovering after 8pm?

I sometimes don't get in until 6.30pm and then feed the pets, cook my own tea etc so when do you propose I hoover? I can usually do it at weekends but I'm away sometimes and can't.

Don't write a note, go and visit. Tone of voice can be misconstrued through writing so face-to-face is better as they'll be able to see that you're sincere in being aware they don't have to stop if they don't want to. They probably don't realise a small child is downstairs. I'd be mortified if I lived in a flat and I was keeping a child awake but no-one told me for ages.

It’s inconsiderate even if they don’t know a child lives there! I lived in a flat 5 years and didn’t hoover late, nor did my upstairs neighbour. They might not realise how much you can hear in a flat so it is worth asking.

My neighbour hoovers constantly.

I had to go up to his flat for various reasons and now understand it. The whole place is like a show home and smells of bleach. I think he is always cleaning.

I love a good hoover and will quite often only get around to it later. I guess you could appeal to their good nature and ask them nicely but if they carry on there isn't much you can do about it.

Hoovering, having the washing machine on etc. before 9am or after 7pm is just rude when you have neighbours.

But what are you supposed to do if you have a long commute? I know loads of people who leave for work long before 9 and don't get home till after 7.

When are they supposed to hoover and get the laundry done?

My upstairs neighbours drive me crazy but haven't and won't say anything. Hoovering everyday a few times normally up to 10.30/11pm. Washing machine/dryer at midnight or late evening. A 3 and 4 yr old that you can hear running about, banging things, latest I heard was 1.30pm as it woke me up as they have laminate I assume. Same little ones who are up running about anything from 5.30am. What sounds like skateboarding indoors. Oh and a lovely habit of throwing chicken bones out the window so I mostly have to keep my dog on a lead in the garden due to the danger. Luckily my son sleeps through everything so doesn't get disturbed. Also there is usually someone there all day. Sorry for the rant!

Biggreygoose
When I had a flat I used the timer on my washing machine and only used a hoover at reasonable hours at the weekend if that's the only time I had.

Do you really believe it's reasonable to wake up everybody at 5am, or hoover at 10pm? I don't!

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to ask.

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Yes I think that you are BU. what are you going to do? No tv programmes that have loud noises in them. No phone calls. No laughing or loud conversations. But it's OK for your baby to cry at all times of the day and night? Babies learn to accommodate noise so I would just give it a bit of time.

llangolen
Where have you got 5am from?

There is absolutely nothing rude about putting a wash on at 8am or 8pm

the idea of someone hoovering several times a day or even once a day is also extremely, very, gobsmackingly U. But then I'm a slob

But it's OK for your baby to cry at all times of the day and night? Babies learn to accommodate noise so I would just give it a bit of time.

who said anything about a baby crying all night?

And no, all babies do not learn to pup up with rude and noisy neighbours, that's utter bollocks.

It’s not unreasonable to hoover your own home at 9.30 every other day it only takes thirty minutes or so, you can not ask at all, if you asked me I would be very annoyed. I Hoover whilst my kids are sleeping and they don’t wake because they are used to it. I’m sure your child will get used to the noise soon too and not wake, have you tried white noise at night in your child’s room?

Our building has "quite hours" between 10pm - 6am. I don't think it's unreasonable to hover after 8pm if you work long hours, but if it bothers you, I would go and talk to them.

We have a neighbour with a toddler who often cries at night, we wouldn't go and complain about that even though it wakes us up. But I would also expect my neighbour not to complain about normal household noise before 10pm (I rarely hover after 8pm though) if that would be the only free time I have.

Llangollen Nope, not bollocks. Babies learn to sleep through noises; it’s much better for parents when their baby can sleep through noises as it’s a lot easier for them.

And hoovering at that time is not rude.

Where have you got 5am from?

that's the time I would have had to hoover if I had done it before going to work when I was living in a flat. Not everybody works 9 to 5.

@strongswans urgh your upstairs neighbours definitely sounds worse than mine! I definitely don't have the guts to ask either but will rant here

I hoover daily any time between 11pm to 2am as I like it nice and clean before I go to bed. I bought a special vacuum cleaner that Which said is particularly quiet.

If you were to ask me to not hoover after 11 I would be a bit irritated but would comply. If you suggested 8pm I would think you were crazy and it would wind me up so bad I would be especially noisy to relatiate, unless you are exceptionally personable and charming.

I vacuum every day. Is that a lot? I've never thought so.

The PP who expects people only to hoover or do laundry between 9am and 7pm is utterly ridiculous. It’s perfectly normal household noise. Most flats I’ve lived in have had a rule of no noise that can be heard outside your own flat between 11pm and 7am which is very reasonable. But if you told me not to hoover at 7pm I’d tell you to jog on.

OP you can ask them nicely if it would be possible for them to hoover earlier as it’s waking your child, but they are perfectly entitled to refuse.

Nope, not bollocks. Babies learn to sleep through noises; it’s much better for parents when their baby can sleep through noises as it’s a lot easier for them.

yes, bollocks. Babies are individual, and no, they don't all sleep through noise. I had one who did need silence, and he wasn't a PFB funnily enough.

It's as stupid as saying that all babies can be breastfed easily. Yeah right.

Haven't tried white noise machine yet but didn't want to go through the hassle of doing that just to get over the hoovering noise.. especially as we still cosleep

And my DS doesn't cry all night.. just a few times at night

It's probably better your baby gets used to the noise. My friend regrets the fact she never got her baby used to noise, now as a 1 year old a pin drop wakes him. Also shows how different all babies are, I put the hoover on to send mines to sleep! I'm not sure I'd ask to be honest, living in a flat these things happen. At least it's not parties at 3am! X

Hoover daily at 11pm?!