To ask someone’s child to shush in the cinema?

[mrskevinclifton]

If the parent is not even attempting to shush their child in the cinema am I okay to turn around and ask them to? Just sat through Jumanji with incessant child (5 ish y/o) yabbering all the way through. I appreciate it’s a kids film but I’m not a fan of paying £10 a ticket to listen to someone else’s child process the plot out loud.

You were dead right.

YANBU. When I took DD to see Beauty and the Beast there was a mum with two pre teen girls next to us, the girls talked at normal volume to each other all the way through and mum did nothing, how are they going to learn how to behave in a cinema if nobody corrects them. Puts me off going, its so expensive now too, although I do want to see Coco so might brave it again.

I've asked a parent to control their child at the movies and I wouldn't hesitate to do so again.

Of course YANBU - except I would tell them, not ask them to stop talking, combined with my best death stare designed to silence a child at ten paces

If the parents can’t be bothered, yes I’d tell them.

Everyone has paid for a ticket, if your child can’t keep quiet then they are too young for the cinema you shouldn’t allow them to spoil the film for everyone.

Well I’d be pretty pissed off but I had a wriggly, loud 5yr old that wouldn’t sit through films so going to a cinema was very stressful anyway (we rarely did it as a result) without someone adding to it. Jumanji isn’t suitable for 5 year olds anyway though imo, I discounted it as not age appropriate for my 8 year old so no wonder he was jabbering.

YANBU

it’s a 12a so not a little kids film anyway

If parents won’t parent their child then they shouldn’t get cross when others step in

I told a group of rowdy teens to stfu and have some manners. They told me to fuck off and got louder so I went and got a manager and got them all kicked out without a refund.

I (nicely ) explained to a small child that people shouldn't talk in the theatre yesterday. After that he was mostly quiet, unlike during the first act when he talked non stop. His mum didn't seem to mind me telling him, just felt no need to do so herself selfish moo.

Yanbu, sometimes they'll listen to a stranger over their own parent.

peppa you didn't consider asking them first..... without swearing then?

YANBU. I shush my own child and would shush other people's if they needed a reminder.

Behaviour in cinemas seems to have got generally worse recently

How did you do that in a dark cinema silvery?

Yew complain and if the staff won't deal with it then ask for a refund

I would and have told an adult to hush many times but not sure if I'd tell another child with parent. That road could go wrong.

I complained to staff when an idiot mother took an 18mth old to ballet seriously and got free tickets for a lot of shows to come.

Well I’d be pretty pissed off but I had a wriggly, loud 5yr old that wouldn’t sit through films so going to a cinema was very stressful anyway (we rarely did it as a result) without someone adding to it.

The other person isn't adding to it. The other person has paid to have their afternoon ruined by your child.

It's the sudden need to go to the toilet as the film begins that gets me.

peppa you didn't consider asking them first..... without swearing then?

They'd been asked politely by two other people, and more firmly by a third. There was no point in any more pussyfooting around the little bollixes. They were also throwing popcorn at people btw.

Now my kids are older 10-12 I never go daytime cinema. Always an evening show fed up with the chattering or crying plus we rarely want to see cartoon these days so it's movies like 12a certs we look for.

YANBU.

Cinema rules: Sit down, and shut up,

TBH some adults are worse. I never forget 2 boys a few seats away sitting quietly watching the adverts. They were 9-14 approx.

In walks mother sits down than literally doesn't stop talking b. As the screen was empty we moved seats and couldn't hear her after that. Soooooio annoying.

I have done this to children and adults alike. It always works; I am quite scary.

I had this watching Ferdinand with my 8 year old yesterday - a group of three 10 year old girls sat directly next to me, one of whom had NO internal monalogue and was talking about the film at full volume, including her opinion of what was happening, what was going to happen, how cute/sad it was and every time anything happened she said ‘awww’, also how she thought it might be a bad film before she came but it was actually quite good wasn’t it...then drank the end of her drink through a straw at least 10x after she’d finished it. Arrgghhh.

WTF happened to teaching kids manners and how to behave in public!? I wish I’d spoken up but was so wound up with her it wouldn’t have gone well so kept my mouth shut & quietly fumed, I wish I had though (& if any of my kids were that inconsiderate, self-centred & unaware of their impact on others/had no manners I would want someone to say something too).

We went to watch Woman in Black (12a I think) and there were a group of young teenagers behind us yammering away. DH got so annoyed he turned around and said "Will you PLEASE be quiet. I came here to watch the film!" Or something like that. They immediately shut up and after the film apologised to us for spoiling it. They were mortified bless them!

Nothing worse than someone taking a young child to a 12a that can't be quiet. I can understand a bit of noise at a cartoon aimed at young children but if you've decided to take them to a film for older children and adults then they need to be mature enough to be quiet.

I know that adults can be noisy too but I haven't encountered many of them, although I remember going to see Les Miserables and DP was sat next to a woman loudly butchering all of the songs 😂