AIBU to ask my number 2’s not be discussed with MIL?

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I am currently down with the dreaded d&v bug. It’s not pretty. In general I am a very private person about what I do in the toilet so AIBU to ask that DH doesn’t respond to MIL when she asks if I still have “the runs”?

My ds announced loudly to my MIL that I was wearing flowery pants...my dignitys long gone

Ahhhh 😩

If he doesn’t respond then the answer is clearly yes so he might as well be polite and not ignore her...

Hope you feel better soon

Ah you must be feeling rubbish but yab a bit u.

Have you asked him to be more discreet? I'd expect him to do that if asked......alternatively ask him to give so much detail she never ever asks about anything ever again.

frequency, colour, texture, smell, timings....that ought to shut her up a bit.

My MIL keeps asking me the exact same thing in front of other people I.e my sister in law and on another occasion her husband 😱 Mortified I was! I think if she had phrased it differently I wouldn't have been so embarrassed "have you still got a dicky tum" or similar - but no, like you "have you still got the runs" cringe

Well to be honest my whole family knows how discreet I am in the poo area on a normal day so it’s not just me saying it as something new.

He didn’t answer that part of her question so she has asked a further two more times. Waaaah.

You are so private about your toilet habits that you have taken to an online forum?

I don’t know any of you so....

Can he not just say you're still poorly? Is that not enough info?!

In absolute fairness to him she literally keeps messaging saying “is it the runs?”, “Does she still have the runs?”.

I used to be discreet like you OP.

People ask such personal questions I tend to be overly descriptive with my responses now.

'have you still got the runs?'
'yes, proper bum gravy, stung like lava coming out but the relief... pretty sure theres room up there for a bus now after clearing that backlog'

my nan doesn't ask about my IBS now

"h you must be feeling rubbish but yab a bit u."

HOW is that unreasonable? No one needs to know the minutiae of another person's bowels.

In absolute fairness to him she literally keeps messaging saying “is it the runs?”, “Does she still have the runs?”

Why!? That's so strange. Would be tempted to say it's more of a slow jog than a run

roomsonfire - thank you for that 😂😂 It really made me laugh.

I don’t really think that asking if you’ve got the runs is really ‘minutiae’. She’s basically asking if you still had that bug you had.

I am very private about toilet things. DS told PIL at Christmas when they asked what he had been doing that morning
DS 'Done a big poo. I have a big poo and it was nice'.
Mil 'Oh!'
DS to FIL ' Have you done a big poo ganda?'
Mil, trying to distract him 'What else have you done today?'
DS to MIL 'Have you done a big poo?'
MIL ' I had my breakfast this morning'
DS - little tinker knows he has her on the run ' Then did you do a big poo? Mummy did'.
Thank God I was in the kitchen and could only hear this. DH said MIL gave him a very frosty primary school Headteacher look and said 'No I didn't. Tell me about your kitchen you got for Christmas' and that shut him up about poo.

By the way, I had not 'done a big poo' and he would not know if I had.

Lulu I love your DS!

Can we adopt him? He'd fit right in chez Lakie, where poos are openly discussed and graded from "bunny droppings" to "telegraph pole", with a special category of "hazard to shipping" for days when you've had a bowl of Shreddies AND a banana.

lulujakey1- That is so funny, spat my tea at the screen

Turn it back on her. Say, "Depends on how you define it. How many times a day do you normally do a poo MIL?"

Tell him to respond "I genuinely have no idea, why do you want to know?"

Not answering is going to keep her asking. Asking her a question back means she can't ask again without saying why your bum is of interest to her.

Lakie I have a feeling you might be married to my DH and have my dds

Yes, Ds is 'a bit of a card' as MIL describes him.
He told nursery he was 'going to 'merica with Daddy'. Neither he nor Daddy are going to America.
He finds DD wearing. She makes a lot of noise and has to be accomodated. When we go for a walk in the afternoon, he say 'Mummy, could we not just put DD in the washer/cupboard/garage until we come back?'

Why the 'still'?

For her to ask that, someone's told her you have diarrhoea to start with - if you're private in the poo area it's whoever first mentioned it to her is being ur, not MIL IMO.