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Engagement

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boringbetty · 06/01/2018 18:49

AIBU or am I rightly annoyed.

Me and DP have been talking about getting engaged for a while. On Christmas Eve he tells me he has ordered a ring . Today postman knocks on with parcel he goes to collect it . I am expecting a delivery too but nothing is said so I get all excited because I know it was the ring that came.

Had a lovely day out today with DS. Just got home an hour ago and DP turns around and says so when do you want it ??
Now maybe I have been watching to many soppy films but I expected more than that. I really don't know if I should be pissed off or not .

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greendale17 · 06/01/2018 20:05

DP turns around and says so when do you want it ??

^I don’t blame you for feeling disappointed.

TittyGolightly · 06/01/2018 20:07

We were in the supermarket. DH asked “shall we get married?” I said “good idea” and put a bottle of fizz in the trolley. Job done.

FundayMorning · 06/01/2018 20:10

Of course yanbu!!!!

It should be a special moment.

My DH screwed up our proposal too, because he was nervous I guess. It was a big birthday for me and we were away for a mini-break and it was pretty obvious (given we'd talked around it for a long time - and been to look at rings!!!) it was going to happen that weekend. Well, I expected it to happen straight away but he waited and waited and waited and finally did it just before the trip was over. I was really upset (tried not to show it), I'd just been looking forward to it and couldn't understand why he wasn't doing it!!! He said he just couldn't find the right moment or place and wanted it to be right.

I have forgiven him of course Wink

Tell your DP he needs to make an effort here, surprise you, make it an event, a memorable moment!!

SkaPunkPrincess · 06/01/2018 20:20

You should have said in response that you wanted him to give it to you in the traditional manner. Or some other such wording.

BigBaboonBum · 06/01/2018 20:24

My ex didn’t propose to me either, he just got the kids to give me the ring and stared at me. It was a bit of an anticlimax, but to be honest I’d already found the ring earlier that day so I knew he was going to. I accepted anyway, although I didn’t want to (but the kids had given me the ring I could hardly say no!).

Turns out he was shafting my best friend anyway! Good times. Good times.

Samesituation · 06/01/2018 20:36

Do let us know how you get on.....Wine

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 06/01/2018 20:47

Shameless place mark

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boringbetty · 07/01/2018 06:46

It happened last night Grin. After waiting all night we got in bed and he finally asked. Told me he's been too nervous and thinking about doing it all day . Was quite a lovely moment really.

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HopefullyAnonymous · 07/01/2018 06:55

Congratulations OP!!

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TheStoic · 07/01/2018 07:05

Nothing more has been said about it but we keep smirking at each other and giggling

That sounds very sweet to me. :-)

Congrats, OP. Grin

Emabrmsca · 07/01/2018 07:26

Congratulations! ☺

countdowntothenewyear · 07/01/2018 07:59

Congratulations! We need to see the ring!

Samesituation · 07/01/2018 08:12

Congratulations OP !

stickytoffeevodka · 07/01/2018 08:17

Aww congratulations!

Alicetherabbit · 07/01/2018 08:19

Aww congratulations, everyone asks about the proposal so it is a important, until you get married then no one ever asks. My Dh and I had discussed lots before but he was still nervous I'd say no.

NoParticularPattern · 07/01/2018 08:23

Congrats OP! I’m with you on being disappointed about how they ask- you weren’t expecting to be whisked off to bloody Paris but something a bit more formal than “when do you want it?” Would have been nice. DH proposed to me in the middle of our garden two days after I’d had norovirus. Wasn’t particularly spectacular or anything but he did actually ask me to marry him rather than just asking when you wanted the ring handing over!! I do think they get very wound up over these things- they probably have more pressure heaped on them by the movies than we do expectation.

hahahaIdontgetit · 07/01/2018 08:29

Congratulations, can we see the ring please? Thanks

shakingmyhead1 · 07/01/2018 08:33

sounds like mine.... i walk in busy with mum jobs etc and hes standing there turns around and says we should get married... errrr right

g1itterati · 07/01/2018 09:28

Congrats OP!!!

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boringbetty · 13/01/2018 17:25

Sorry about the lack of updates. We had a slight problem with the ring I hated it but the one I picked was this one
www.trudiamonds.co.uk/Rings/Solitaire-Rings/1-ct-Tiffany-Style-Solitaire-Ring_T2811-PC.htm
Hope the link works
We only had a small budget so I picked that but when I saw it in real life it wasn't for me. So we have decided to use my grandmothers engagement ring who past away last year and I was very close to . So no pictures of a ring yet because it is at the jewellers getting resized. Should be ready next week so will post then. Any advice on where we start wedding plans

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KanielOutis · 13/01/2018 19:27

Congratulations OP. I do love how they claim that not even a jeweller will know the £150 ring isn't a Tiffany Grin

VladmirsPoutine · 13/01/2018 19:30

Some people on here can be so po-faced. OP yanbu. It now rests to you to suspend belief and tell him to find a way to ask you.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/01/2018 19:30

xpost! congrats!

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