DH had D&V, 4 wk old baby at home...what do I do?!!

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(AIBU for traffic as I'm panicking!)

I've just been released from hospital after a secondary PPH with my 4 week old baby, both of us are now fine although I'm still low on iron and v wobbly. DS has been playing catch up with his weight after my first hemorrhage during his birth but is now really good.

DH has just come home from a work trip with raging D&V. What do I do?? I'm very concerned about the baby. If I get it can I continue to breast feed? How can I stop the baby catching it? Shall I quarantine DH?

FFS

I lay breastfeeding dd on my side in bed for as much time as I wasn't needed for the other dc. That was the only way to get through it.

It is in the air you are breathing out according to the NHS website. In a house with a newborn, utter madness.

You take the bedroom and DH gets quarantined on the couch. A D&V bug should pass soon. Then DH can be un-quarantined.

Food can be delivered. Order pizza, Indian, Chinese, whatever you like - you could order enough for a few days if you like.

Do nothing but keep your fluids up, eat delivered food and rest.

When DH recovers he can deep clean the bathroom thoroughly, wash towels, and spray with disinfectant things like door handles, cupboard knobs, toilet handle, fridge handle, and anything else he has been in contact with.

If you have rubber gloves, wear them in the bathroom apart from when you wipe. Don't touch the toilet handle with your bare hands. Keep your hand towel separate from DH's, in your bedroom. It's not always possible to tell towels apart if you visit the loo to throw up at 2 am.

Make DH wash his hands frequently while he is ill.

Open windows even if it's cold out.

This happened to me when I came out of hospital with DD2. DD1, DS and DH all came down with a vomiting bug within an hour of us arriving home. I had the best post partum rest of my life as DH and the older two needed no food, and DH could just about help the DCs by emptying basins and flushing the loo as they threw up. He recovered first and took them to the doctor, but of course the doctor only said 'give them gatorade and ice pops and keep them away from the baby'.

If you get it, call for medical help immediately.

I'd be worried that if you get it it could potentially cause another bleed. I might be talking rubbish but I know diarrhoea can stimulate the womb. Best to call your doctor for advice if you do get ill.

What "medical help", mathanxiety? No doctor can do anything for d&v except wait for it to pass and give IV fluids if a patient becomes dangerously dehydrated, and taking a d&v virus to any medical facility unnecessarily would be daft.

@QueenAravisOfArchenland I think it's because op has just spent 2 weeks in hospital with a PPH so it's probably wise for her to get some telephone advice if she does get ill.

Second most of what mathanxiety says. Keep dh as separate as possible even though this is hard. Separate bedrooms and bathroom (I think you said this was possible) until he is 48 hours clear, at which point he should disinfect everywhere he has been. And don't let him out during illness.
Hopefully all will be well and if you do by some misfortune get it be vigilant as you are more vulnerable to dehydration etc.
Keep us posted op

Cheeky bugger has just told me I'm not being compassionate enough because I've left a load of anti bac stuff out for him and asked him to use it.

He's not exactly covered himself in glory while I've been in hospital, he's away again come Sunday and had chosen to go and sleep in the room with all my clean washing in it. Please don't tell me I've got to wash all that too. I doubt he'll be keen to clean up after himself much.

I'm guessing if I come down with it I can contact the Maternity assessment unit who looked after me previously and it'll be a call to GP for the boy as we've just been signed off by the MW finally today?

Hmm he doesn't sound great right now! Do you have any other support nearby op?

If the clean clothes are in a basket and he doesn't touch them then I think that will be ok.

Shut your door and ignore him, OP.

Drag your clothes out, and air them well.

Yes just ignore him and snuggle your little squishy baby.

We up the handwashing and no lip kissing while contagious and we've never caught d&v from kids, I've not even given anyone (despite cooking/preparing all meals) confirmed food poisoning. We rarely catch colds/coughs doing this

I breastfed my son while I had horrific d&v. he is eight now and the only one out of all six of us that never gets it

The evening I was in hospital being induced with DS2 my DS1 was hospitalised with d and v. Baby born next day and DS1 discharged. All went home . That night - first night at home with new baby- my husband got it. Then my FIL got it the next day, swiftly followed by my Mum who had come to help. I sent her Home. At this point we were 48 hours after birth. That night I got it. Remember sitting on the loo being sick in the sink, wondering who had it in for me.
Was the most hideous time but the moral of the story is baby never got it and I breast feeding the who time. Would like to say I followed strict hygiene protocols but have to say I was so knackered I think things were more lacking that I would like.
Fingers crossed it is short lived!

We had this - husband and I both caught it but breastfed baby didn’t. The antibodies in my milk were enough to ward it off.

Why would you send someone with d&v to a hotel? That’s an awful thing to do. Really unfair to hotel staff, and other guests. You can keep yourself separate in the house or the healthy members of the family could go to a hotel.

Breastfeed breastfeed breastfeed! I've had D&V in my house when 2 of mine were newborns. I caught it and they did too but they were barely sick at all and I think it's the immunity I gave them.

Well so far 'D'H has been asleep for the last 10 hours snoring his head off. He'd only has one session of D at 8pm last night and one of V shortly after. I'd have expected him to be up all night if it was full blown D&V. Could it have been something he ate?

I however have only managed an hours sleep about 1am as DS is really unsettled and full of colic poor boy. I think it's some of the meds I'm on and disruption after our second week in hospital.

I'm really pissed off with DH. He's not done a single night in with me and DS since he was born, cant settle him at all during the day for me anymore and left me in hospital on my own over New Year with no way of getting home when I was discharged. He's got form for being crap when I'm ill but telling me he was going to divorce me for being overly precious in hospital last week and minimising three separate hemorrhage's, an ERPC under general to remove retained placenta, 14 days in hospital and a blood transfusion has really pushed me over the edge. He can knob off today.

Omg that’s awful op, I’m so sad for you. You’ve had a rough time, hope you and baby get well soon.💐

He threatened to divorce you?? What a fucking arse. I'm so angry for you.

DH can go stick the sympathy where the sun don't shine, you are holding on looking after a newborn and recovering yourself. He is an adult with a moderate illness and needs NOTHING from you.

Leave him to it, keep separate, wash hands often (and have your own towel that you are sure he hasn't used).

Depending on where the washing was I might rewash, if it was on the bed and he lay down next to it, I would. If it was in a basket in the room, but not near him, I wouldn't.

He has to clean the bathroom once he's better.

Whilst the behaviour in hospital hasn't covered him in glory, being in with you overnight, settling baby etc isn't unusual for such a little baby, especially with extra problems thrown in. Baby often wants feeding, and Dad feels fairly helpess, mine is great now, but newborns were not his thing at all, didn't know what to do, was terrified of making it worse. As soon as they smiled, played, he was great.

Give him a stern you're on your own until you're well for 24hr, don't come near me, baby or XYZ rooms, if we get ill you won't be heading away Sunday.

...left me in hospital on my own over New Year with no way of getting home when I was discharged. He's got form for being crap when I'm ill but telling me he was going to divorce me for being overly precious in hospital last week and minimising three separate hemorrhage's, an ERPC under general to remove retained placenta, 14 days in hospital and a blood transfusion has really pushed me over the edge

I would be very tempted to examine my options here, with divorce high on the list.

That goes beyond panic to sheer hostility expressing itself.

If you decide to tackle his atrocious behaviour and what he said after this passes, do not be fobbed off by him telling you that you are over-emotional because of hormones or tiredness.

What he did and said to you was objectively awful.

mathanxiety rationally I know he's being vile but there is just no talking to him and I've never got him to see my point of view.
He's still minimising everything that happened to me whilst being very annoyed he's not had more sympathy for having a bug himself. I honestly think he's lost his marbles, there is just no talking to him. I suspect he's on the spectrum but most of what he says recently is just plain nasty. I just don't understand why.

He's sleeping in the spare room (has been since DS was born) and I'm up with a baby full of colic for the 3rd night in a row. I've asked him to keep his door open in case I need help as I passed some more clots tonight and I'm so scared as that's how the second hemorrhage started. He shouted down just to call an ambulance as it's not as if I'm going to die and I wasn't in the hospital, he slammed the door shut.

He hides this behaviour from everyone else so nobody would belive what he's like although the nurses in the hospital cottoned on when I was left ony own.