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To consider egg donation for third DC at 44?

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underlinethat · 03/01/2018 17:27

Just that really. I have two beautiful DC, and have always been desperate for a third. I have had three losses in the past two years and have accepted that my eggs are not up to it. I am though pretty good according to past experience at getting and staying pregnant. I have been devastated by the losses we have suffered and feel strongly that there is somebody missing from our family.

I have started to consider egg donation, but somehow, for a third, this seems ... wrong. I don't know why - something to do with being greedy, and feeling that I should be satisfied with what I have got (for which I am very lucky). It feels as though if you have no children, or would like a sibling for one, egg donation is 'justified.' But for a third ... maybe it's a bit mad? Also ... I would be 45 by the time a child arrived, if, that is, it worked out.

What does everyone think? Please be kind if you can - recent losses have left me a little delicate!

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scrabbler3 · 04/01/2018 18:38

I definitely don't think it's "wrong" or "ridiculous".

I doubt that the egg donor would mind that you're an older woman with two dc. I'm sure that she'd be happy to have helped someone, anyone.

I don't think that your two dc would give a hoot about the genetic composition of their baby sibling.

My concern is that you could end up deeply disappointed. Would you be able to handle a failed treatment without taking it out on those closest to you? Is there a danger that it would become all-consuming?

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