Early November I received a FB message from a lady claiming to be my birth mother.
I am not adopted. I emailed back explaining I wasn’t who she was looking for and wished her well.
I didn’t hear anything back so thought all done and dusted. But a few days later I received another message saying of course I was, a lengthy back story, none of which is relevant to my life whatsoever, but most alarmingly she has researched my family and due to some press regarding my late DSis (organ donation) spouted a lot of vile things about how I needed her because my parents couldn’t even keep their own baby alive let alone the one she’d given them.
It is all fallacy/fantasy. My family is my blood family.
I didn’t respond but blocked her, after having a quick check of her profile and she seems, aside from this, a normal woman with her own family.
However, shes now messaged from another account demanding I stop denying who I really am and allow her a chance to meet me.
I know it’s not true, none of her facts are correct, down to her saying my birthdate is four years earlier than my actual birthday, something I carefully explained in my original response.
Initially my heart went out to this woman but now my major fear is she will start to send messages to my wider family.
Is 101 an extreme response? I have told my parents but think regardless if they know it may come that a message telling them it’s their fault that my DSis passed away and how could they let her be ‘chopped up’ is likely to send my DM over the edge.
Blocking won’t work if she’s just going to keep coming from different accounts. I’m just morally torn. If she did give up a baby I can only imagine the torment of wanting to find them, but that doesn’t mean I should tolerate being bombarded, does it?