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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To be hiding from my baby?

69 replies

CesareBorgiasSkeletonOnesie · 02/01/2018 15:22

I'm actually only about three feet behind him, but he's strapped into his high chair and occupied by a rattly thing and can't see me. Which is great, because as soon as he does see me he neeeeeds to be picked up. This way I have a chance of managing a bit of coffee in peace. I've trained the three year old to replace the rattle when he chucks it on the floor...
I love him dearly, obviously, and he's generally a very easy baby but this week he's turned into an absolute cling monster and I'm at my wits end. Also thought DS1 was due back at nursery today and when we got there it was dark and clearly not open, so my plans to sort out the shit-tip that is my life flat have gone by the wayside and he is eating crisps and bouncing on the sofa and watching Netflix while I sit here and whinge and survey the mess. I woke DH up earlier (sleeping after night shift) by bursting into tears when I couldn't find the sling as there is currently no other way of getting the baby to nap. So yes, AIBU?
(And when would it be reasonable to wake DH up and hide from them both properly...?)

OP posts:
BarryTheKestrel · 02/01/2018 15:45

Firstly, you are not at all unreasonable. I often have to hide for a moment of sanity too. Nothing bad will happen whilst you are hiding, baby is happy and you have a moment to yourself.

Secondly, what time did DP go to sleep? Does he have work again tonight? Any sleep over 7 hours in a bonus I say, so if he went to bed at any time before 9am, wake him up now! (unless he works in a job that would be dangerous if sleep deprived, heavy machinery/driving etc).

Nursery will start again soon and things will get back on track, the end of Dec, beginning of January is always carnage!

OrinocoDugong · 02/01/2018 15:46

Yanbu

Trinity66 · 02/01/2018 15:49

awwww poor you

StinkPickle · 02/01/2018 15:49

YANBU! clingy 1 year old here. It’s horrific (3&5 yr old weren’t like this!!) my back is going to break from
Lifting him all the time and sometimes I really feel I hate him because he won’t leave me alone for a second.

DesignedForLife · 02/01/2018 15:52

YANBU. Ultra clingy nap refusing 1 year old here, and rampant 3 year old who's determined to jump on sofa. Enjoy your coffee, just about to make one for myself. It's just taken me 3 hours to finish eating my lunch.

LloydColeandtheCoconuts · 02/01/2018 15:52

Nope

YANBU

Flowers Cake Gin
Elsiejane · 02/01/2018 15:56

YANBU.
Children are bloody hard work and us mothers really dont get a lot of time away. Unless youre a lucky one.
Id wake OH up whenever you need help, if youre really struggling then he will understand.
Motherhood is a 24/7 job. No weekends off. No pay. No christmas bonus. No holidays. No sick pay. No sleep.
My OH never understood this when LO got a bit older, then i drilled it in to him that his work IS NOT as physically or mentally draining and us mums NEED help.
Working gives you an out. It gives you time to socialise without speaking baby. It gives you something else to focus on. It helps. SAHM dont always get this.

Tinselistacky · 02/01/2018 15:57

Bide your time til they are both a bit more self sufficient op - then you can have extra long wee breaks in the loo on mn!!

Elsiejane · 02/01/2018 15:58

Give your DH chance to revitalise properly then wake and run!!!

CesareBorgiasSkeletonOnesie · 02/01/2018 19:25

DH woke up just after I posted and I basically did throw the children at him and run Blush. Feeling more like a human being for a couple of hours break. I think the nursery day that wasn't tipped me over the edge!

OP posts:
Elsiejane · 03/01/2018 00:57

Im glad you felt better after a little break Flowers

Jobjobjob · 03/01/2018 07:19

I'm hoping you've still got Christmas chocolate left to eat? If not, go buy more!!

YANBU!

CakeThanksGin

RadioGaGoo · 03/01/2018 07:22

My baby has turned into a cling monster. I want to borrow that rattle.

CesareBorgiasSkeletonOnesie · 03/01/2018 08:35

DS1 had chocolate left. After they've both had me up since 3.30 this morning he no longer does. (Apart from his small herd of lindtt reindeer which I can't eat because they contain gluten.)

In fairness it's very windy here which is I think what woke them but why can they not go back to sleep like normal people?! Mercifully dh's last night shift last night so I can legitimately wake him up at lunchtime under the guise of helping him reset his body clock...

OP posts:
CesareBorgiasSkeletonOnesie · 03/01/2018 08:39

radio it's this one. Takes my six month old a good few minutes of determination to unstick it each time. Bonus if you have a toddler willing to keep sticking it back on...

OP posts:
Elsiejane · 03/01/2018 10:32

I think i may have to invest in one!!

RadioGaGoo · 03/01/2018 10:33

Thanks OP!

Handsfull13 · 03/01/2018 10:36

Today I've hidden round the corner of the door while I eat my toast and just keep poking head around the doorframe to check my 11month boys don't kill each other.
They have had their food but will want mine if they see it

Elsiejane · 03/01/2018 10:38

Theyre little scavengers arent they Handsfull13
They could be completely full but the second you have some form of food for yourself, all hell breaks lose!!!

Walkingthedog46 · 03/01/2018 10:44

I had a friend who used to sit IN the playpen when she wanted a 5 minute break. She could still see her kids but they couldn't climb all overhear while she had her coffee!!!!'m

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 03/01/2018 15:17

Has anyone saw the picture of the dog where she is hiding in the bath from her pups.

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Elsiejane · 03/01/2018 23:22

Proudmama123
I am ever so sorry that you are going through this, and i do hope your little baby gets better Flowers
I feel like you definitely needed to vent all of that on here and nobody is going to judge you. However a mum who has had 5 minutes to herself is a much better mum than one whom is stressed. Parenthood is hard without any complications, im certain the OP loves her children extremely!
Once again im sorry for what youre going through x

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