To be hiding from my baby?

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I'm actually only about three feet behind him, but he's strapped into his high chair and occupied by a rattly thing and can't see me. Which is great, because as soon as he does see me he neeeeeds to be picked up. This way I have a chance of managing a bit of coffee in peace. I've trained the three year old to replace the rattle when he chucks it on the floor...
I love him dearly, obviously, and he's generally a very easy baby but this week he's turned into an absolute cling monster and I'm at my wits end. Also thought DS1 was due back at nursery today and when we got there it was dark and clearly not open, so my plans to sort out the shit-tip that is my life flat have gone by the wayside and he is eating crisps and bouncing on the sofa and watching Netflix while I sit here and whinge and survey the mess. I woke DH up earlier (sleeping after night shift) by bursting into tears when I couldn't find the sling as there is currently no other way of getting the baby to nap. So yes, AIBU?
(And when would it be reasonable to wake DH up and hide from them both properly...?)

You are not going to get the appropriate support and understanding on this thread. Start your own and people will listen and help.

Please do not come onto threads and upset women who are flat out exhausted caring for 2 young children.

Just because you are having a hard time doesn't mean no one else is allowed.

People on here have lost their sisters. Doesn't mean they go on to threads where people are annoyed about their sisters and guilt trip them.

It must be very difficult for you and I am suggesting that if you start a new thread people will come on and help you. Maybe even offer some advice. Derailing this lady's thread when she's been having a hard time isn't going to get very many constructive replies.

I do this all the time. Enjoy your coffee!

You are very welcome to be on this thread. What's not appropriate is for you to make people feel bad for needing a 5 min break from their kids. Parenting is mentally and physically exhausting. It's ok to need 5 min space.

You clearly have a lot going on. Many people will happily help you. But you are saying people shouldn't ever want a break because you don't get to see your dc. And that isn't their fault. I don't know why you don't get to see them but if you start a separate thread you might get help.

I've been told Drs are looking for cancer in me. I don't go onto threads where people have an ingrown toenail and tell them "I wish all I had was an ingrown toenail". People are allowed to vent about anything without people top trumping them.

If you want to chat many of us are up now and will happily help you and explore options etc if you start a new thread.

I remember those days well OP even though my oldest is 21 now and the baby of our family is 10.

I still get to share anything nice I have to eat with at least one of my 5DC though and the youngest will still follow me to the bathroom sometimes to sit outside the door and talk to me,I think she worries I'll get lonely,that or she thinks I'll get lost who says baby brain recovers once they're no longer babys.

Oh, OP, I'm sure you're exhausted. My youngest is 22yrs old but has SN and I sneak downstairs in the morning so I can have breakfast in peace. I adore her and she's the reason I'm still on this Earth and she can do quite a lot for herself, but I STILL need a wee bit of time to myself. But you can't escape babies as they're so dependent on you, which makes it so much harder. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

My 5MO is a clingy Mama's boy. Whenever he is content in his bouncer chair/ jumperoo, I peg it to the kitchen to make coffee before I hear the whine! Love him to pieces, but it's hard when they don't leave you alone for 5 seconds.

I peg it to the kitchen to make coffee before I hear the whine 😄

That made me laugh. I'm picturing you as a mix between Usein Bolt (sp?) and a hurdler, diving over toys and through doors.

Ha ha sometimes it's like that!

Jumperoos are ace

At least once a day I have to put my twins in their playpen and hide in the kitchen where they can't see me - they'll play happily if they can't see me, but as soon as they see me they both want to be picked up immediately.

Things are tough at the moment - one of my twins has a complex illness, my health isn't good and they're basically allergic to sleeping and napping. I don't have any family around so never get a break - DH has never even taken them out on his own, so I'm absolutely exhausted. Sometimes you just need a few minutes of quiet!

Tammy twins are hard going. Has silent reflux been excluded as a reason for not sleeping?

Tammy twins are hard going. Has silent reflux been excluded as a reason for not sleeping?

Ugh DC are just so much hard work.

Yes to hearing you open chocolate/biscuit packet a mile away. Or like mine, sniffing my breath and declaring that I'd eaten chocolate (I had) and they WANT some (accompanied by whine).

The decent thing to do for my waistline would be never to eat chocolate without giving them some but sod that for a game of soldiers.

Problem I have is not accidentally touching some toy that makes a noise and then 'outs me' as I sneak to make coffee.

I used to sit behind the kitchen table and drink my tea/eat a biscuit, while my 13 month old played on the mat in the sitting area. (Open plan). If she didn’t see me, it was great, she was happy and so was I.