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Original poster

Being left on NYE?

42 replies

BornInSydneyy · 01/01/2018 13:08

I’ve been seeing someone, not been very long. We had plans for him to come over last night to watch a film and get take out.

He cancelled on me 2 hours before because he wasn’t feeling it. His exact words. He said it’s just any other night and not a big deal.

Aibu to be upset by this?

OP posts:
QuiteLikely5 · 01/01/2018 13:09

Feeling it? So has he dumped you

Original poster
BornInSydneyy · 01/01/2018 13:21

No not dumped. He just wasn’t feeling coming over to mine.

OP posts:
SnowannaRainbow · 01/01/2018 13:22

I'd dump him but I can't stand flakey people who let you down for no good reason.

CrackersForlt · 01/01/2018 13:23

You've not been together long and he's not 'feeling it' and doesn't want to see you on nye?

Sorry, but this relationship is going nowhere.

AnaWinter · 01/01/2018 13:24

He is not that into you. Sorry.

PersianCatLady · 01/01/2018 13:25

This happened to me in 2003.

I didn't go for an amazing nightclub with my mates to stay in with a guy and he never turned up.

Fuck and off are the only words you need to say to him now.

PositivelyPERF · 01/01/2018 13:28

He's either found a better offer or he's training you for future neglect. If you don't dump him over this, he's got you where he wants you and will ramp things up. Drop him. You deserve someone that wants to make you happy.

Ginkypig · 01/01/2018 13:31

It's not about nye though really is it.

It's about the fact that you had made plans so therefore didn't make plans with others which you probably would have then at the last minute he left you in the lurch and not because there was a good reason but because he couldn't be arsed!

It doesn't matter what night it is, you are not his priority, he doesn't value your time or think your important enough to care if he lets you down.

My advice is listen to that, see what he's showing you because it doesn't in my opinion bode well for a happy future.

PositivelyPERF · 01/01/2018 13:33

Check if there's any restaurants open and still taking bookings, in your area. Then, assuming you haven't millions of randoms on you friend's list, stick a message on Facebook, to see if anyone is up for meeting up for a bite to eat or a few drinks. Don't let the dick ruin your start to the new year. Start as you mean to go on. Happy new year, Born. 🎉💐

MiddleClassProblem · 01/01/2018 13:34

He’s not worth it. If he’s the type of guy to stand someone up because he didn’t fancy doing what was arranged he’ll be doing this until he grows up and gets some respect for other people. Which sometimes is never. Either way it won’t be in the instant future.

But he has given you a brilliant line to dump him with...

chatty1234 · 01/01/2018 13:39

How long have you been together? Totally agree with Ginkypig

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 01/01/2018 13:40

Dump and run OP. He's not only not that into you, but he's also rude.

NashvilleQueen · 01/01/2018 13:42

I would bet my house on him having had what he felt was a better offer. Get rid OP he will let you down again.

rothbury · 01/01/2018 13:46

Well I would also feel I had been dumped, but if you don't, then this is a good opportunity to dump him OP.

How fucking dare he? Seriously?

category12 · 01/01/2018 13:47

he had a better offer. Ditch him.

Trashboat · 01/01/2018 13:48

He has, what he views, as a better offer.

Dump the twat.

Rudgie47 · 01/01/2018 13:51

Just block him from everything now, dont give this prick any explanation.Hes not interested in you full stop.If you continue at all with him he will treat you like shit. Get out now.

OhShit2017 · 01/01/2018 13:55

I’d bin him.

I’ve been seeing someone for 5 weeks and he cancelled his work shifts and drove 170 miles to be with me on NYE as he felt it was important to start the year with me as I mean a lot to him. I didn’t ask or expect him to do that but he wanted to.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 01/01/2018 13:55

"Not feeling it" Well, isn't he a charmer.

Still, at least you now know how utterly self absorbed he is.

If I were you I would never contact / respond to His Selfishness again. Bollocks to him!

iamafraidofvirginiawolves3cats · 01/01/2018 13:57

Any other reason that he might not want to come to yours- lives a long way away? Not having sex yet? Having not very good sex? Doesn’t drive and couldn’t get home on NY day?

Whatever the reason, every date with you at this stage should be a celebration. Imagine what he will be like in a yea or two years. You deserve better.
Dump him and enjoy 2018.

LittlePaintBox · 01/01/2018 14:00

At the very least, he's an inconsiderate git.

category12 · 01/01/2018 14:03

he cancelled his work shifts and drove 170 miles to be with me on NYE - is on the other end of the spectrum, (and a bit much, I'd say). I'd be worried about him not having much of a work ethic/dumping colleagues in it, depending what his job is.

OhShit2017 · 01/01/2018 14:08

Category - it’s fine, he got people to cover his shifts so wasn’t dropping anyone in it.

sheldonesque · 01/01/2018 14:18

I'd be telling him 'nah, not feeling it' to each and every thing he suggests from here on in. See how long it takes him to realise you've chosen to move on this year without him.

Gemini69 · 01/01/2018 14:19

for using those words.. 'I'm just not feeling it' ...

I'd dump his ridiculous ARSE Grin

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