Being left on NYE?

[BornInSydneyy]

I’ve been seeing someone, not been very long. We had plans for him to come over last night to watch a film and get take out.

He cancelled on me 2 hours before because he wasn’t feeling it. His exact words. He said it’s just any other night and not a big deal.

Aibu to be upset by this?

I would dump and run too.

I think he said it but meant you.

If he cared about you he would have made the effort but if he doesn’t give a fuck about disappointing you, I doubt he gives a fuck about you.

You’re always going to be expecting him to flake out and let you down from now on.

I’m sure you’re worth more than hanging around for him.

No, URNBU. Some people don't like New Year's Eve, but giving you 2 hours notice is just rude. I hope you picked yourself up, dusted yourself down and had a good evening anyway.

How has he been apart from this? Is he generally nice, caring, etc? If so and you feel this is out of character could there be something else going on, like something sad happening at this time of year in the past, etc?
If you feel he is great other than this, I'd be inclined to talk to him and ask what was going on, and to explain that although it was no big deal to him it was to you and it was shitty thing to do to you.
If he's generally a bit shit, then I'd see this as an indication that you're not that important to him and he has little respect for you. Sorry OP.

He’s been nice up until last night.

He’s been messaging me all day apologising. I’ve told him to leave me alone.

You do right.

You're right to be upset. I personally wouldn't accept his apology.

In what way was he not feeling it ? Ie just not up to it and wanted an early night or did he want an night out with friends?

Did he tell you what he did do last night ? Personally I'd tell him to do one. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to spend time with you. 'I'm not feeling it' ...who does he think he is. I'd say sorry dude I'm just not feeling this relationship.

Sorry OP, he got another NYE offer and went there instead.

He didn’t get a better offer. I know this.

Regardless it doesn’t matter as I have no intention of seeing this man again.

I'm going to go against what everyone else is saying and say it's not a big deal. If someone isn't in the mood for something they shouldn't be obligated to do. Sometimes I cancel plans because I am tired and want to be home alone for an early night -- that sounds like 'not feeling it' to me. I'd say it's nothing to do with OP at all, but that partner didn't feel like doing anything. And that's OK

I'd rather be with someone honest about not wanting to do something than with someone who comes and spends time with me wishing that they were at home.

Training you for future neglect... Perfectly put what an arse

bayseyan, it is a big deal to blow someone off 2 hrs before you're supposed to be seeing them for no other reason than you can't be arsed. It's rude. And it's worse on 'occasion' days because the person is left with no plans on a night they would have expected to do something and has very likely missed out on doing something with other friends cos of it.

As a man he doesn't care about you, if I was with a woman I'd make sure I was there.

Just wanted to say happy new year born

Your worth more than being treated this way. Hope you find someone who deserves you.

*You've not been together long and he's not 'feeling it' and doesn't want to see you on nye?

Sorry, but this relationship is going nowhere*

This really