Taking baby out and about... opinion please?

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I have a three month old DS, we live in the Midlands, as do my parents, my DPs family live 2 hours away.
Since DS was born we have been to Visit DPs family twice, with one day or in London including in that as they live close by. We have also been to York for a weekend. We have a trip to Edinburgh booked for next weekend to celebrate our anniversary.
I've just got off the phone to my parents who said it was cruel of us to be taking DS out so often, he should be in the house, it's unfair on him, he gains nothing from these trips so it's all for mine and DPs benefit, we are not thinking of him.

He is the happiest, smiliest, loveliest little boy. He feeds beautifully, sleeps beautifully, is fit and healthy and so loved. AIBU in having weekends away and going out with him?

YANBU. Stop telling your parents what you are doing.

Go for it while it's still easy (because it probably won't last!)

Enjoy!

You are absolutely not BU. Babies benefit loads from fresh air and new sights and sounds!

I haven't had a weekend away yet but have done day trips and been to a wedding with 4.5m old so far.

How ridiculous to suggest you should both be stuck in the house going stir crazy!

I must have missed the memo where you give up your life and stay in doors when you have a baby
Go and enjoy yourself!

Good point Nanny those sort of trips get harder as they grow.

I have twins. I had one week in house after they were born and from then I was put every day. I would have went potty. If they were sick with vomiting I didn’t go out but that was it
I haven’t left them over night but that is my personal decision based on number of factors.
It isn’t just a child who needs to be happy. The mummy also needs to be as well to ensure all rounded care and being healthy

Uanbu at all. You have a happy baby. He will be well socialised and know his family members even though they don't live nearby thats lovely. What do they think, he should be at home all the time? He's seeing and experiencing differebt things,people,places there's nothing wrong with that x

YANBU

They're talking a load of crap. Can make it more difficult to establish a routine, but that's hardly the end of the world.

Er no, OP. You are definitely not BU. Your parents are a bit mad....

Not sure why they believe this is cruel... baby won't give a toss where he is as long as he's fed and watered!

I heard yesterday though, that a close relative believes you should not take babies out of the house for a week after they're born. This was news to me. I took mine out the next day to show them off.

What a load of bollocks! YANBU.

They're talking twaddle! None of their business anyway. Barring known health issues inc if baby was preemie it's fine.

Agree with doing it while they're tiny it's MUCH harder with toddlers

Ignore them
The worst place to be is stuck in the house

Of course the weekends are for you - but why is that a bad thing? If your son gets nothing from going then he'll not get anything more from being in the house so it makes no difference. You're together, you're having fun and he is loved and looked after. Thats all that matters

They didn’t really get harder until I had DC2.

So he’s happy, eats well, sleeps well, is healthy etc. Why would you change what you’re doing?

With respect, your parents are fools. For me, 3mo was a golden time. Walked loads of the London sloop. Went to museums. Took a pottery class.

Things started to get way harder at 6mo.

Of course it’s for your benefit. All you baby wants is to be close to mum and dad, they couldn’t give a flying fuck where they are, as long as they feel safe.

It would be bad for everyone sat home all day. Fresh air and some stimulation is much needed.

WTF of course yanbu. Babies are very portable at this age, mine is 2m and sleeps in the buggy or sling and all we need to remember is a nappy bag. So what if it’s not for her, wherever we are she still gets snuggles, boob and fresh air. She is our third and has slotted in brilliantly to family life so far, gets passed around lots of friends for cuddles etc and using public transport is pretty easy round here, we’ve been for plenty of meals out, cinema etc.

I agree though that it doesn’t necessarily last, as once they become more mobile they won’t necessarily put up with sitting in the buggy, they may get clingy or more dependent on routine. All normal as they grow. And all the more reason to make the most of this tiny baby time! :)

A doctor 43 years ago told my Mum, who was worried about going on a UK holiday with a newborn, that it doesn't matter where you go as long as mother and baby are together, the baby will be happy.

I realise there are various differing circumstances and mother's are sometimes not there for a number of reasons but I believe the thinking behind what the doctor said is that baby will be happy when with those who care for him/her regardless of where they are.

Enjoy your days out and your breaks away, as long as you, do and baby are happy then the opinions of others don't come into it.

Ignore your parents.

If you and your dc are fit and well enough to go out, then go out. You'll go nuts if you stay in.

What planet are your parents from?

Your baby sounds like a joy. Enjoy travelling with just one for now, could be different with more kids!

If you've got a portable baby, embrace it!
I found the toddler stage more restrictive as they want to get into everything and do everything at their own pace.
Then it gets easier again.

No one ever said to their parents, "mother, we really should have stayed in more when I was a baby"

Parenting comments like this are always about them and not you. Maybe she was stuck at home with a small baby and couldn't get out and about or was given advice from her own mum to keep them in.

I took a one year old to Indonesia for 10 weeks, the week she turned one.
Babies are portable.

Make the most of it! Neither of mine liked the car when small so that restricted us a lot one still doesn't at 5