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Original poster

Supposed to be getting a takeaway in rare night alone and DH not back yet

42 replies

kissmethere · 30/12/2017 19:21

Does anyone know the Micky Flanagan story about not coming home for the takeaway and bottle of wine? Well that's happening to me tonight!
Unexpectedly have the house to ourselves, kids rarely our at the same time, DH had already made plans with his mate for a couple of of drinks and we had the brainwave of grabbing some time alone before the kids come home. They're due about 10. I thought he'd be in by now but NO. I really feel like texting him with "I bet you're having a lovely time"
This is considering a couple of weeks ago he raised the issue of us not being intimate enough or getting time alone and look what he's doing? I'm actually and very childishly going to wait it out to see if he bothers coming in. He doesn't have form for this but what with the issue he raised I'm getting pissed off. And this is my stomach talking as well I'm bloody starving!
No AIBU just wanted to see what people think.

OP posts:
gingergenius · 30/12/2017 19:23

Get a takeaway eat it yourself and enjoy the peace!!!

Robyrollover · 30/12/2017 19:24

Got a mate up for a last minute glass of wine at your local?

Shoxfordian · 30/12/2017 19:24

Just order yourself a takeaway

YouTheCat · 30/12/2017 19:25

Get a takeaway. He can have some heated up later. You could always text him to let him know what you're doing in case it spurs him on to come home.

StripySocksAndDocs · 30/12/2017 19:25

Phone him. Tell him to hurry up as your famished.

cakeymccakington · 30/12/2017 19:26

Call him. Tell him to get home sharpish and to bring food.
Then easy and shag before kids come home ;-)

kaytee87 · 30/12/2017 19:28

Did you arrange a time for him to be home or did you just assume he'd be home by now?

Original poster
kissmethere · 30/12/2017 19:30

The image of us having a cheeky wine together and possibly some "fun" without being interrupted is kind of off the table now. Even though I'm famished I was hoping for a bit of adult time. I'm not going to call him but I may end up getting myself something.

OP posts:
Original poster
kissmethere · 30/12/2017 19:32

The day happened so fast we didn't arrange a time but he said he'd not be staying long and was totally up for it.
Exactly, was the shag factor as well!

OP posts:
cakeymccakington · 30/12/2017 19:36

Nooooo

Tell him to come home . Plenty of time for some shagging

YouTheCat · 30/12/2017 19:37

Get the food. Drink the wine. He knows what time the kids are due back and so he knows how much time there is.

Next time he moans about lack of intimacy, tell him he had a chance and spent it with his mates.

kaytee87 · 30/12/2017 19:38

Well just text him then.
Half of the issues on AIBU could be solved with a bit of communication Smile

Original poster
kissmethere · 30/12/2017 19:43

He's just called. He's on his way. I gave him a tone in my voice (that'll show him)

I know, I know it's so childish and I don't do the guilt trip stuff! He has wasted a lot of precious time though. Thanks guys. Totally appreciate your thoughts 💋

OP posts:
TheNewSchmoo · 30/12/2017 19:43

It's half 7? I don't see the problem.

TheNewSchmoo · 30/12/2017 19:44

Ah, there you go x-post

Original poster
kissmethere · 30/12/2017 19:44

And I've had a giggle to help me through the hunger!

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Graphista · 30/12/2017 19:53

I'd have texted something like.

"Naked in bed waiting - but...if you can't be bothered sure I can amuse myself Wink" he'd have been home in a shot! Grin

Takes effort and communication on both your parts.

HolgerDanske · 30/12/2017 20:02

Get a takeaway!! Why on earth haven’t you already ordered it?

Seriously. Get yourself a lovely meal, watch something that makes you happy and enjoy your evening in.

If he gets annoyed then he’ll learn not to be inconsiderate in future.

HolgerDanske · 30/12/2017 20:04

Oh damn I should have RTFT.

Next time don’t suffer and seethe or plan passive aggressive texts, just take it upon yourself to ensure you also have a lovely evening.

brizzledrizzle · 30/12/2017 20:05

"Naked in bed waiting - but...if you can't be bothered sure I can amuse myself wink" he'd have been home in a shot! grin

Just be absolutely certain that you aren't about to send it to your MIL....

PeonyBucket · 30/12/2017 20:09

Life is not all about sex. Sometimes, being with friends is more important than having some sex. Maybe when you are very young, you would be miffed about your partner preferring to have a rare good time with friends rather than come home to you to have sex.
and cut short a great night out with mates.

But when you get mature and grown up, you start to understand the balance. He can have sex with you tomorrow, but at the mo he's having a good time. Give him a break. Cut him some slack.

Stop being needy. You sound needy. That's the worst thing you can do.

The best thing you can do is to not contact him again. Let him contact you.

ClaryFray · 30/12/2017 20:11

Hope you have an epic shag OP :)

gingergenius · 30/12/2017 20:11

Oh Peony! 😬

OP - enjoy your 'takeaway' 😘

PeonyBucket · 30/12/2017 20:12

And I would definitely drink a bottle of wine and order a takeaway.

PeonyBucket · 30/12/2017 20:15

gingergenius

Did I say something wrong?