To think DH and I are socially awkward without realising it? Feel a bit down

[DownDogz]

DH and I don't socialise much. I have social anxiety so obviously I would never me a big socialite but DH is better at it.

Or so I thought.

I've realised that whenever we go anywhere people seem to take the piss out of DH a bit, laugh at him and fire looks between themselves when he speaks. He can be a bit over powering when he's had a drink and forces conversation on people whether they want it or not.

A few years ago we were on holiday and came across another couple who clearly didn't want to mingle. DH kept asking them questions and forcing conversation and they became visibly fed up of him. I'm hyper sensitive to stuff like this so started feeling really uncomfortable. The next night we saw the same couple and he started on them again. In the end the woman sighed and rolled her eyes before snapping "you saw us yesterday! You asked us all these questions yesterday!". DH seemed a bit embarrassed but later referred to her as a stuck up cow. I was so embarrassed.

Over Christmas we were invited to a couples house we are friends with for dinner and drinks. It started off fine but as the drinks started flowing DH became more and more animated and annoying. I became more awkward saying stupid shit that just wasn't funny to try and take the attention off DH - the bloke became visibly bemused by the pair of us. DH was rattling on and on about what amazing holidays we'd had knowing full well that the coulle hadn't been anywhere. I tried to change the subject but he carried on bragging and they clearly didn't want to hear it. I became more and more embarrassing blabbering on about bullshit to try and lighten the mood and then by the next morning we got a bit of a vibe that they were glad to get rid of us.

I don't want to be the annoying couple that nobody likes. I feel a bit fed up because it's hard for me to socialise and when I do, I cock it up and come across like a fucking weirdo. I have aspergers too so not to drip feed so I don't realise that what I'm saying isn't normal until I see the bemused looks on people's faces. Will we always be the annoying couple?? Anyone else like this or know any other couples like this?

Have you spoken to him about it op? As in really sat him down and talked to him, about his behaviour, your behavuour and your feelings? About how he thinks it goes?

As bluntness said, talk to him about it; then come up with non verbal signal (e.g you playing with your watch) so he knows he has overstepped the mark.
Re the couple on holiday, please don't worry about that - my worst nightmare on holiday would be someone trying to befriend me, they probably felt the same and just wanted him to go away, he could've been the Queen or Elvis and they would still have been short with him, it was more them than him.

And the OP hasn't come back, which make my posting on the thread totally pointless. Sigh.

It’s him drinking.
Does he accept he acted inappropriately when sober?
He shouldn’t drink.

OP seems to be long gone...

No one feels 100 percent at ease and if you're not super social you may be out of practice. I found this book quite helpful www.bookdepository.com/The-Social-Skills-Guidebook/9780994980700 I love having guidelines to follow! Don't be too hard on yourself, your friends invited you over so they obviously liked you enough to spend time with you

I think it's time for you to start socialising on your own OP, and not just with your husband. Don't allow his rudeness to get in the way of you enjoying friendships. If you become close to someone who's just your friend then eventually you can introduce husband if you like, as you'll have had chance to let the friend know what he's like!