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AIBU?

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NYE hiding pregnancy

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Whattodonut · 30/12/2017 16:43

Not an AIBU but I need some help!
I'm now 8 weeks pregnant and wasn't planning on telling anyone (except my OH!) until after the 12 week scan
We have a long standing NYE tradition of dinner and staying with friends overnight nearby (10 mins driving distance). Our 4year olds are best friends and love staying together. My friend is 4 months pregnant herself. Her husband is lovely- but is a really on the ball host- topping up drinks, making cocktails etc.

I've completely run out of ideas of how to get away with not telling them the truth. We're close enough to drive home- but what excuses could we give?
Help!

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Bubblysqueak · 30/12/2017 16:45

You have to drive home early so can't drink.

Spikeyball · 30/12/2017 16:45

Antibiotics

ClaryFray · 30/12/2017 16:46

Antibiotics. Always works a treat.

PinkHeart5914 · 30/12/2017 16:46

Go out the room take your drink and slowly tip it away.

Ask for your first drink as a gin and tonic or vodka and cola, tip it away and top yourself up with just tonic or cola.

Drink the same as your oh and swap for his empty glass.

Say I’ll start with a soft drink, as very thirsty after the drive or whatever and just never switch to the alcohol

Excuses like a tummy bug, antibiotics etc don’t work people soon guess your pregnant especially when they are expecting themselves

elfieonshelfie · 30/12/2017 16:46

I was gonna say tell them your in meds

Wineasaurous · 30/12/2017 16:49

You've got family coming round early in the morning and need to drive home.

You just don't feel well?

Hortonlovesahoo · 30/12/2017 16:53

Antibiotics or say you had a tough Christmas drink wise and are trying to cut down?

Say your son hasn’t been sleeping well and you want to be alert if he wakes?

Have drinks like tonic so it’s not so obvious.

Congratulations OP!

specialsubject · 30/12/2017 16:55

Please don't waste drink. Just say no thank you. It shouldn't need excuses.

MsHomeSlice · 30/12/2017 16:57

don't go for the Antib excuse, everyone knows that is code for pregnant

I think the only choice in this situation is to claim a death wish hangover and say you are on water only and Never Drinking Again, brief dh to regale the table with an amusing drunken anecdote from the night before and look suitably regretful and horrified at yourself

In such close quarters the not drinking your drink or trying to top up with only tonic is just not going to wash

RaspberryOverload · 30/12/2017 16:57

Don't tell people you are on antibiotics, this is the most common excuse given and everyone will assume you are pregnant.

MaryPoppinsPenguins · 30/12/2017 16:57

Friends would guess with me straight away if I said anything like antibiotics... I remember saying ‘I can’t drink, I have a terrible hangover’ and everyone believed me!

KenForPM · 30/12/2017 16:57

No no no to the antibiotics excuse!! That one’s always trotted out on here. People WILL know you’re pregnant I’m afraid, it’s the oldest excuse in the book.

therealnigeltufnel · 30/12/2017 16:59

Read up on elaborate alcohol-free cocktails and bring all the ingredients so you can keep your friend company in not drinking - you just wouldn't feel right drinking when she can't etc. Then "suggest" her DH make them as he's so good at this kind of thing.

kaytee87 · 30/12/2017 17:00

Ask for a soft drink at first then just never finish your alcoholic drink or get your dh to drink some of it. People don't notice how much other people are drinking really.

kaytee87 · 30/12/2017 17:01

Or you could say you're not drinking in order to keep your friend company as you don't think it's fair on her. How much would everyone really be drinking anyway when there's 2 4yos to be in charge of.

TrinitySquirrel · 30/12/2017 17:02

Driving and/or hungover from the night before.

Or say you have the sh!ts so when you start touching your belly without realising when you refuse a drink they wont think anything of it.

GenericDietCola · 30/12/2017 17:02

When I was pregnant I fooled close friends by drinking low alcohol lager all night, think it was Becks.

RatOnnaStick · 30/12/2017 17:07

"I'm on antibiotics" = "I'm pregnant and not telling." Don't do that. Just accept a glass of wine and hold it. You don't have to do more than put to your lips every so often. When no-one is looking switch your full glass with OH's empty one and repeat as necessary.

voxnihili · 30/12/2017 17:09

I’m almost 8 weeks pregnant and will be driving tomorrow night. It works as we’re going out with DP’s friends and our rule is that whoever’s friends it is gets to be the drinker (unless it’s public transport / taxi friendly). I’ve also had to get through my work parties and used the driving excuse with not so much success as I always get a cab home. I’m pretty sure they’ve all guessed although no one has said anything. I figure it doesn’t really matter if they assume, as long as they don’t ask me about it.

octonaught · 30/12/2017 17:12

Just tell them your pg. your friend is pregnant too.

WorraLiberty · 30/12/2017 17:26

Just tell them you don't feel like drinking

If they guess you're pregnant, does it really matter that much?

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Whattodonut · 30/12/2017 17:52

Thanks!
Yes the antibiotics excuse is just the same as telling them. I think I'll go with the "can't face a hangover" / "son not been sleeping well" stories. But will also do the elaborate mocktails idea- i like that a lot!
They're good friends- so we will tell them as soon as family is told- i just prefer waiting.
Thanks!

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skippykips · 30/12/2017 18:10

I used 'me and DP have a bet that I can't last a night socialising with no alcohol, it started as a joke but need to prove that man wrong'
As DP and I are very competitive, it worked. Friends were actually amazing telling him he will loss.

x2boys · 30/12/2017 18:14

If your friend is also pregnant why is it such a big deal? I get you don't want to make a big deal of it untill after the 12 weeks. Scan but in both of my pregnancies I had to tell straight away as I worked in a high risk environment ?

DamsonGin · 30/12/2017 18:19

Solidarity with your pregnant friend, be in charge of making mocktails.

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