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*light hearted* To tell my daughter hospitals aren't for 1-1 time!

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Notanotherpawpatrol · 30/12/2017 12:06

Just to reiterate, this is light hearted, if I don't joke I will breakdown.

I have 4 dc, my youngest is 8m and is undergoing tests for epilepsy and in the past month she has had 4 hospital admissions. When we go to hospital she gets me all to herself, all day everyday just her and me. We go to the play room, she is fussed over by the nurses, we eat lunch sat on a bed and she gets me when she wakes in the night rather than her dad, who she's not a fan of due to the lack of boobs.
These hospital admissions tend to be at the most inconvenient times, for example on boxing day when we had a house full of guests. She decided she would stop breathing Hmm 2 days in hospital followed and she loved every minuite of it! She also just so happened to be admitted when the pantomime was on, this was my first indication that she is doing it on purpose. The clincher came when the nurse told us we could go home after 2 days last time and she cried! OK so the nurse was pushing some iv antibiotics into her foot, but I'm sure the crying was because we were going home Hmm
Wibu to tell her that hospitals aren't for 1-1 mummy time? Any ideas how I go about teaching her that?

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slimyslitheryslug · 30/12/2017 15:55

A friend has DC3 almost two years ago. I bought the baby a jellycat elephant and a babygro. Both cute, fairly standard presents I thought. The baby obviously disagrees and so avoids me. Hard for an under two to do you would have thought given her mum is a really good friend of mine but, no, the very thought of seeing me is enough to trigger such a serious asthma attack that she requires hospitalisation. After the third time if happened (we don't live that close so only see each other every three months or so), we joked about it, after the fourth time it happened, we scheduled our meet ups around unimportant things so I no longer see them around Christmas or before they are due to go on holiday.

GreyMorning · 30/12/2017 18:31

My son has had two operations this year... I think he goes because he knows the nurses make him eat lots of biscuits in recovery! 😂

LittleWitch · 30/12/2017 18:35

I don’t understand this thread. How can an 8 month old baby be having seizures on purpose to avoid holidays and the pantomime?

PotteringAlong · 30/12/2017 18:40

I don’t understand this thread. How can an 8 month old baby be having seizures on purpose to avoid holidays and the pantomime?

Oh for God’s sake, she’s not! It’s a laugh or you’ll cry moment! Don’t be so obtuse!

KalaLaka · 30/12/2017 18:40

LittleWitch op is being sarcastic. She's trying to be humorous as she's going through a very difficult, emotional time with a sick baby.

Awayandcuddlemahumph · 30/12/2017 18:49

When I had to take my son to A&E they had a Peppa Pig rocket in the kids waiting room so he's desperate to go back. The doctor gave him a kitkat and then the attention seeking menace injured himself further by falling off the bed, cue two nurses dancing around the cubicle with sick bowls on their heads to cheer him up. That was three years ago and it's still up there as one of the best days of his life. Honestly, pesky kids.

Bloody good for you for dealing with this with humour. Hope things get better soon Flowers

hazeyjane · 30/12/2017 19:01

Ds has had a knack of hospital admissions at Christmas, he hates it (to a degree that the Drs and nurses look terrified when he comes in) - so I guess he's not doing it for the shits and giggles....he did get an enormous present from Santa who was on the ward once, but he was just terrified and refused it! One year, his sisters favourite bit was chasing the ambulance on Christmas Eve, convinced they were going to see Santa.

I hope you get an answer soon, op, and a more settled time.Flowers

dobbythedoggy · 30/12/2017 19:37

Ds has a knack of going down hill just after or in the middle of things we're doing. So last year we surrived christmas day and were in ooh during the early hours of christmas day. Likewise two days after my sister's wedding he had a massive cluster of seizures and ended up on hdu for 6 days.

His big sister loves the daddy, granny and granddad time and the McDonald's tea and all the attention being lavished on her when ever he is addmited.

His consultant is under the impression he liked to visit her whenever she was about to go on holiday or had just come back. He did it flawlessly for a while, turning up on her last couple of shifts before she went away and being on the ward waiting for her when she came back. His not had any addmissions since she came back from her last big holiday. She's promised to warn us next time she plans to leave the country.

I hope you get some answers soon and that you get something in place that works for her.

Floellabumbags · 30/12/2017 22:26

His big sister loves the daddy, granny and granddad time and the McDonald's tea and all the attention being lavished on her when ever he is addmited

Watch out for that one. My guess is that she's lacing his petit filous with anti freeze!

Floellabumbags · 30/12/2017 22:27

I don’t understand this thread. How can an 8 month old baby be having seizures on purpose to avoid holidays and the pantomime?

Most of us would go to extreme lengths to avoid seeing Barry from Eastenders in tights.

Rainbowsandflowers78 · 30/12/2017 22:30

My baby had 6 hospital stays in a year including intensive care and an operation - I used to joke I’d rather she took me on a spa break instead - crap food, no privacy, hard beds, too hot/cold, no sleep and constant worry - definitely not easy to relax!!!

toomuchtooold · 30/12/2017 22:50

Oh, I really hope you are out soon and that your DD is OK. Thank you so much for posting this, because you've reminded me of the only time DD2 was ever overnight in hospital (touch wood) with pneumonia and although she was ill, it was real bonding time, for me anyway... she was 18m old and she's a twin so it was always me vs 2 little people, and when we finally got admitted and they started antibiotics, I relaxed in a way I hadn't done in the whole time since they were born (since before that actually, as I did IVF after recurrent miscarriage) and I could just hold her wee sleeping form and not worry about DD1 at home with her dad... I didn't expect to feel relaxed in a busy London paediatric A&E on a Saturday night but there I was.

Saying that, if it'd been 2 nights in a row I'd have been going out of my mind Grin one night was enough!

Courgettekatie · 30/12/2017 22:56

You sound like a lovely Mum op 💐

ItsNachoCheese · 30/12/2017 23:08

Flowers,cake] and Brew to you op you must be drained. I hope your dd is well again soon

wanderlust99 · 30/12/2017 23:44

As weird as it sounds it is great that children's wards can be lovely experiences. Two of mine have had regular admissions and surgeries and they always looked forward to ops as they were going into hospital and would get their own TVs with headphones Hmm I hate being in hospital but always feel awash with gratitude; we go into a neurological ward and some DC are in for months at a time.

KeepTheBloodyNoiseDown · 31/12/2017 00:09

It’s definitely on purpose. I was in hospital a lot as a kid, and I used to love how much more attention I got than my siblings, and family used to bring me presents as well.

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