Am I being a "princess"?

[Mammyloveswine]

So am due baby no 2 any day and have an almost 2 year old. Dh had a heavy cold all over Christmas so I took care of sorting gifts etc. We went to my parents for dinner and I helped mum with the dinner, washed up etc and sat with toddler so dh could eat in peace after he had a bit of a meltdown.
I've caught dhs cold/virus and it has floored me. Spent weds in bed but dh worked yesterday so I took toddler out for the day. Spent all last night up with back pain and woke up this morning feeling like I'd been hit by a bus! Got up but ended up coming back to bed.
Dh has been making sly digs all day about how "convenient" it is that I'm ill, that it's "just a sniffle" and I should "suck it up" and clean for new baby's arrival (house is hardly a hovel but was wanting to strip all the beds and set up moses basket and crib and put Christmas decs away). He has hovered and polished downstairs and cleaned the kitchen but I feel so ill I can barely lift my head off the pillow. His constant digs have really pissed me off as it's like he doesn't believe I feel ill and that I shouldn't be resting when I'm conscious of wanting to get well for my impending Labour.
So aibu for staying in bed? Or should I be up trying to get sorted?

Definitely stay in bed

Fuck. That.

Bed is where you should be by the sounds of it.
Once you feel better, then you can worry about changing linen and whatnot.
He's being unkind at a time when he should be the opposite...

Tell him to get his head out of his arse.

Is he normally like this, not that I'm excusing his behaviour at all I really want to say to LTb but I know it's not that easy

What a bloody arsehole. Stay in bed......

You’re heavily pregnant and he’s having digs at you for being ill ?

STAY IN BED!

He sounds like a selfish, childish prick.

Stay where you are! Don't get out of bed until you absolutely have to- and if he keeps on with the digs, perhaps suggest he take the toddler out for the day, so he doesn't have to feel aggrieved around you?

Arsehole.

Hmmmm nice husband op.....not😳

Use my phrase "fuck off I'm ill, leave me alone" - preferably screamed at him. I usually find the effective at my dh who has a moan when I'm ill (he never gets sick which doesn't help)

You are not being a princess, stay in bed Momma!

He should be letting you rest as you're due any day, you being ill should make him even more thoughtful.

How helpful will he be when No 2 is here?

Even if you weren't ill, I wouldn't be expecting you to do anything physical when you're due any day! If cleaning needs to be done, he can do it!

He's being a bollock. But you know that. Feel better and STAY IN BED!!!! Anyone you can call to come help, the shame of being known as useless might give him a kick up the arse.

He can fuck right off. Tosser.

Is this the shape of things to come?

He's usually pretty good but think because he rarely gets ill he's not very sympathetic!

He did take half a days leave when I had norovirus the other week as I physically couldn't look after the toddler. I only finished work last week and have been so active all through my pregnancy so I think he thinks he's entitled to "joke" but it's just wearing thin when I feel so unwell.

He says he didn't get to stay in bed when he was ill but he could dose up on cold and flu remedies and I was sure to take the lo out so he could have peace. I didn't stop him going to bed!

My response would literally be:

Am I being a princess? No. Because I'm a QUEEN. I'm pregnant, I've got a two year old, I'm ill but still did what I needed to do, I took care of everything while you were ill. Now I need to rest. No it's not convenient, it's completely inconvenient. In conclusion, I'm a Queen and you're mad about it. Goodnight.

What's his problem-that he has got to do something domestic??

You know what, even if you weren't ill & just fancied a day in bed-so bloody what?

I'm probably making him out to be worse than he is when he's actually pretty good, but I would expect some sympathy off him being ill so heavily pregnant. I did shout at him when I was up the other night and he said "you don't deserve more sympathy than me just because you happen to be pregnant as well". He soon apologised for that!!

I would probably take the approach of completely losing my shit and screaming and crying at him before stomping off to bed sobbing, but then I’m also due any day now and my DH can’t do enough for me. I also have a 2yo and have just got over a horrid cold. It’s crap when you can’t dose yourself up and hope something works sooner or later! Hope you feel better soon and that your “D”H sorts his shit out asap.

He must be feeling bad... he just came in and asked if he could get me anything! I asked if it wouldn't be any trouble id like a drink please... maybe he's secret mumsnetter??

Thanks everyone.. feeling very sorry for myself today so nice to have some backup!

Dear lord, I’d love to come and tell him off. He is aware, of course, that you can’t dose up on cold meds?