Please help me escape this S***Hole

[LockJawTrouble]

Please help me escape this S**hole of a place called home. I want a break from my unbearable husband. I cannot stand being around him for varied reasons & need a break desperately.
Please recommend a place in the UK which are good for travelling alone, has some activities to do and is generally pleasant....
Anything to get out of here.

Sorry x post. It sounds as though your in a right rut. Tell him to Stop the weed and give an ultimatum . Also start looking for a pt job and put money aside. You need to get a bit of independence first or some money stashed away. Believe in yourself though. This is not an impossible situation it's all steps..just take one step at a time and then you'll be ready. X

I think Horton, as suggested above, is an excellent plan. I've been loved it.

You say he's your husband so you have some legal protection, what you need is an appointment at a solicitors not a city break. Take your £300 and get some legal advice as to how you stand. Also just because someone isn't physically abusive it doesn't mean that they are not being emotionally abusive or exercising coercive control over you which is actually a criminal offence. Get some advice and get out.

Redastherose...I know that but in my position can't leave. So thought about clearing my head & possibly have a chance to think.

OP I think we all knew this was about more than 'just a break'.

Please take a look at that link for Horton, I think it could be just what you need for a short term and could potentially help long term.

(I don't know what your skills are but they have a job vacancy that includes food and rent plus salary. Take a look)

Lock, do you have any close friend you can go to for a few days? Travelling on your own is incredibly liberating but you need to be in the right frame of mind otherwise you may find it very depressive and lonely.

If you have a close friend you can descend on for a good chat, well away from home, go there.

Otherwise find a nice, cosy comforting room somewhere where you can get the space you need but that also makes you feel safe and better.

Milton... I had a look but unfortunately can't leave as I have got a child.
Not sure if.....I probably just need to stay away from him until I find a way out & going travelling is not the way. I am so exhausted that probably won't be able to take a trip. Just one amongst loads of ideas that moved through my head.

Lock, divorcing is pretty much like organising a wedding, unless he is violent, you need to plan carefully your way out, save some money and leave when the conditions are right for you and your child.

Having a goal to work towards can help you enormously to feel better. At this time things may seem insurmountable but once you start putting your ducks in a row, you will feel much better.

You don’t need to have a huge salary, a simple job of more than 16 hours can be the passport to freedom while you get back on your own feet.

One thing that ever divorced person can tell you is that it is far more difficult to take the decision to leave than dealing with the consequences of it.

Not sure... I haven't worked in 8/9 years & am finding it impossible to find even a minimum wage job. I am over qualified for some jobs & for jobs in my sector it's been too long a break.

I was in the same situation as you are, overqualified but with no recent experience. Feel free to send me a PM, I’m happy to help if I can.

NotsurethisiswhatIwant.... I have sent a PM

Well , Bath or Ironbridge for a short break. Plenty to do in both. But I don't think that's what you really need.

Bradford on Avon and nip into Bath

Women's refuge in a different part of the country?

Can people please stop suggesting refuge as some kind of hotel? They are closing at a rate of knots and unable to accomodate even the most serious of DV cases. Every time it is suggested here it is an inappropriate one.

OP I would keep your money for getting out for good, if I were you. Any friends or family you can spend a few nigths with?