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I have broken my leg

116 replies

littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:02

I have two young dc. My dh is working non stop and my nearest family member is nearly 200 miles away. All my lovely friends are away or visiting other family or sick. Literally no one is around to help me even a little bit.

I was doing okay up until this afternoon, I have been stuck inside this house for a week now and feeling the cabin fever. I have used up every last craft idea, movie idea and now I am just crying. I am in pain, I am tired as I can't sleep. We are snowed in and I don't think I can take much more.

Do you have ideas at all how I can get through this?
I am too scared to go out in the ice and snow with my leg in full plaster and crutches. I am trying to be positive but I have hit such a low, I don't think I can carry on with getting through the day much less another five weeks of this.

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Sanshin · 29/12/2017 19:03

Start wring a book? You can pretend you're the author from Misery?

Sanshin · 29/12/2017 19:03

#writing. Bloody iPhone.

NapQueen · 29/12/2017 19:04

This is where your dh tells work that he HAS to take leave.

Maelstrop · 29/12/2017 19:04

Can your DH come home for a bit? Are you able to get an online delivery for food? Do you have any neighbours who can come in just so you get some adult conversation?

Aturkeyisnotjustforchristmas · 29/12/2017 19:04

I didn't want to read and run, so just to say get well soon. The great thing is, you will get better and things will return to normal. Flowers

AuntLydia · 29/12/2017 19:04

Is there really no way your DH can take time off at all? You're not putting too brave a face on are you?!

ButchyRestingFace · 29/12/2017 19:05

Online scrabble?

I’m a demon for Words with Friends. Could play all day and night.

Maelstrop · 29/12/2017 19:05

Start wring a book? You can pretend you're the author from Misery?

Confused
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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:06

No I am not, I have told him I am at my wits end and his answer was would I like him to lose his job over a broken leg.

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tired17 · 29/12/2017 19:06

How old are your DC

cestlavielife · 29/12/2017 19:06

1 Your dh takes time off
or 2. you call babysitters.com or equivalent and book someone in for while your dh is worki ng to help with dc

Do you think your dh would look after young dc all day with a broken leg ??

NapQueen · 29/12/2017 19:06

He is legally entitled to take unpaid parental leave. He is being a dick.

JustDanceAddict · 29/12/2017 19:06

Your dh needs to take some leave.

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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:08

I have an on line delivery coming, but I can't easily cook on crutches. I don't even want to cook I am so bloody pissed off. I am sick of attending to the dc, exhausted from christmas like this. My youngest has been in a&e with a severe chest infection on boxing day. I know it will pass, and it is a rare thing that I feel as desperately sad as I do now.

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AuntLydia · 29/12/2017 19:08

Is he doing anything to help when he is there? Keeping you stocked up with food etc. What age are your kids? Let's see if we can think of some ways to entertain them..

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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:10

dc are 11 and 8 but are now so bored they are fighting endlessly.

There is no way my dh would look after anyone with a broken leg. I know this, and it doesn't make me feel ANY better because I am in this position and he is not. I am getting so angry with him.

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Grilledaubergines · 29/12/2017 19:11

OP, where abouts are you?

As an aside, it's easy for someone to say the DH needs to take leave and tell his employees. In reality, many jobs are held quite precariously and it's simply not a possibility without somehow being penalised down the line. It's not fair or right or legal but it's common and jobless and a broken leg are two things a family doesn't need at all and definitely not at the same time.

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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:12

Maybe babysitters if he really won't take any days off. I could ring around but not sure at this time of year, but I could try.

My opinion of him has lowered significantly since this happened, because he can see how hard it is just to get bloody dressed, much less run the whole house and look after dc.

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Ollivander84 · 29/12/2017 19:13

Struggling for ideas for you but a practical one I used when I did mine was a stool or chair. Stand on good leg, rest knee on bad leg and you then have two hands free

But you need to elevate it, rest etc. For sleep try pillows under it or a v pillow behind you. Is it the pain or you can't get comfy? V short term you can get OTC sominex (not the herbal one) which is a drowsy antihistamine

Gramgram · 29/12/2017 19:14

You don't say how old your DC are. Can you make them doctors for the day so they can help. Do take some painkillers, there is little point in being in pain and being pain free will lift your mood. If you don't have any then call your doctor. Is there any way your DH can be more available to help you?

Neighbours can be good ports of call in these situations so call one and see if they can help in any way, I know I would. If you have snow I wouldn't be going out in it, you don't want to do any more damage. Do an online shop if you need any provisions.

Look after yourself, as much as you want to be superwoman we all sometimes have to admit we aren't. Now is that time. Take care. Flowers

NapQueen · 29/12/2017 19:14

Is he fetching and carrying and sorting laundry and meals when he IS home?

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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:15

Apparently he can't take time off because everyone is away, off sick or on paternity leave and he genuinely is worried he could be sacked if he stayed with me.

He does help when he gets in, but it is 8pm and there is not so much to do by then.

I wish at least it was not snowing!!

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PurplePillowCase · 29/12/2017 19:16

ok. so it's time for dc to get stuck in doing housework.
teach older dc to cook simple staples like pasta&sauce, rice&stuff etc. doing laundry etc.

reward with dvd's on tap.
are school friends around? I'm sure I would help out a mum in your situation, be it taking dc to the park for a tumble.
neighbours?

teaandakitkat · 29/12/2017 19:17

Could you find a local teenager to come in during the day for a few hours and entertain the kids? You wouldn't have to know them all that well if you were going to be in the house too. There are bound to be a few teenagers looking for some extra cash during the holidays. Have you a local facebook group or anything where you could ask?

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littlebird55 · 29/12/2017 19:18

The painkillers made me feel so ill I had to stop taking them, the pain is easier than the nausea and feeling so spaced out.

He is not doing laundry I am trying to do that, we are running out of clothes. He is bringing back food in the evenings.

Dc have spent all day on various screens or keep themselves entertained. I feel like a terrible parent this is not what I wanted for them in the christmas holidays.

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