To expect some sympathy?

[Cupcake99]

I've just come home from a funeral.my uncle (mothers brother) went out hunting the day after Boxing Day and through a freak accident managed to shoot himself. It was a real shock to all the family. My fil decided to come to the funeral, presumably to offer support to myself and my mum, but as we crossed the road outside the church he tried to engage me in conversation, starting with "I feel abit down today..." I looked at him and said "well just imagine how I feel!" I then completely ignored him and stomped off to my car. I know he is a self absorbed asshole who has trouble with social cues but seriously?? I'm mad at my husband as well for not pulling him up on it :(

OP - are you hoping your husband speaking to him will accomplish exactly? Scold him for saying he felt a bit down at a funeral?

@Cupcake99 I am really sorry for your loss. A sudden death is very difficult to deal with especially in such tragic circumstances.

Assuming the turnaround for the funeral really was feasible and there was a funeral today, like the others said, you have no idea what he was going to say. He may have just received devastating news himself and was trying to steel himself to tell you about it.

Woe peeps. This is a women who has suffered a tragic berevement. Can we be a bit kinder, please.
The fil was out of order. If an outsider and had said to me at my mum or funeral. I'm feeling really down. I'd be peeved, too.
I mean your dils uncle. It's a bit distant, isn't it.

Sorry for your loss, op. (((((((()))))

To all those suggesting this is a quick turnaround..I am not in the U.K. Here it is usual for funerals to happen the day after a death in normal situations,and yes,inquest etc all happened,that's why it took two days to bury him.

What country are you in OP?

This is a women who has suffered a tragic berevement.
And has nonetheless come onto AIBU (that place known for its sensitivity) to have a rant about FIL... Her mother I have sympathy for. Her FIL too. But OP? Not so much.

Please accept my apologies in that case. Which country are you in?

I don't think OP is in the UK.

OP has previously posted they live in Cyprus.

I understand I may have come across as childish, but I am grieving and this man has form for completely disregarding others feelings. In years past he has turned up to my house (while I was flat on my back recovering from back surgery) and completely ignored me whilst trying to tell my mum about his cataracts and using the words "Christ didn't suffer as I have suffered over my eyes"

And thank you to everyone who has offered their support-I must admit I have been very snappy as I just couldn't believe that this had happened until I turned up at the church today and saw my uncle lying there in a coffin. I probably DID react childishly but I really hope that he might behave himself today.

I'm pretty sure OP lives abroad .

Cross post!

@LoniceraJaponica I am in Cyprus

In case this is true, which somehow doesn't sound very likely even if the OP doesn't live in the UK, there was no harm in letting the man finish what he had to say.

Is it a competition?

It must have been a terrible shock for you OP. Did your FIL know your uncle well, or did he just kind of just come along to the funeral.