Stolen Christmas gift

[TrashMonkee]

Obviously I have name changed
I have received a superdry hoodie from a relative for Christmas which is a bit small for me and I could probably do with the next size up. The relative has left the labels in so I was planning on taking it to my nearest store next week to see if I could change it for a bigger size. However I have now discovered that the relative has actually bought this online and then reported it as not delivered and got a second one which he gave to his sister. Mine is definitely the one reported missing.
So would the people in the shop know that it was reported missing if I went in to get a different size? I really like the hoodie and would never have known it was reported missing if it fit well.
What should I do? Am I a terrible person for wanting to keep it (and change it to a size that fits me)?

lanbro, faulty returns are different though. Legally they have to offer a replacement/refund without proof of purchase.

Looking on superdry’s website, they only offer regular returns/exchanges with an invoice or dispatch note. The dispatch note will say if the item has been previously refunded or not. If your relative didn’t ask for a refund then you’ll probably be fine.

I think you have received stolen goods. If you do nothing you are behaving as badly as your relative did in the first place.

I think your title says it all.
Stolen.
I feel really really sorry for the courier who has bought you a present and doesn’t know you from Adam.
Personally I would donate it to a homeless shelter and tell the relative never to steal me anything again. And I woulD also be tempted to tell every member of my family what he had done. Utterly shameful.

If our couriers had to pay for their mistakes they'd be working for nothing.

^agreed. The couriers do get the blame for “missing” parcels

I doubt they’ll know but COME ON you are going to be a party to the theft. It makes you almost as bad, if not just as bad.

Who pays for your hoody? The courier? Customers who don’t steal who find their delivery charge has gone up because the courier has faced increased premiums?

It’s pretty shameful. Then again asking for help in furthering the crime is pretty shameful too.

Scum

that's a bit harsh

Has OP disappeared?

I think I’d put it in the charity shop and arrange a no present rule next year with your thieving relative.

Wow you don't have much of a conscience do you OP?

Sorry but I would have given it back to the relative and told her where to shove it.

Still if you want to take it insotee and exchange it you will 'get away with it'

You’re a thief.

If you like the sweatshirt try earning money honestly and then buying yourself one.

But Silver I think the op did earn money honestly and buy her relative something and this hoody is what she received in return. So basically as well as stealing from Superdry/courier, the relative has also essentially stolen from the op by accepting her gift (presumably of similar value to the hoody) and giving the op something that’s stolen and too small therefore useless.

The op cannot take it to Superdry and say hey my relative stole this, have it back. And morally it’s not great to take it to Superdry for an exchange either. So the op is stuck. Which is why I suggested putting it in the charity shop and not exchanging presents again.

On the fence about this one.

Nice family. Relative steals present for Christmas gift. OP, dissatisfied with stolen gift, would like to lie to shop so she can get a fraudulent exchange. It is morally shite.

You are aware the item is stolen, you are now also committing a crime.

Speak to the relative in question, get them to deal with it - thats your best way forward I think.

That might sound harsh but recieving stolen goods knowingly, is not legal and even if you DON'T know that you have recieved stolen goods, you would still be expected to give the goods back.

Is phone the police, say you have reason to believe a gift you received was obtained fraudulently. If you keep it, or worse try to return it you too will be charged.

Don't be that person.

Nice relative there. No doubt they think they are clever to have undertaken this victimless crime. But do you know who are Thule victims of this? The consumer who will have pay extra to cover this fraud, the courier who was probably penalised, the people who generally have things lost in the post who are treated with suspicion. I’d tell the relative you don’t accept stolen goods and you have reported him to the store! Why do people think this is any more acceptable than shop lifting?

I wouldn't wear stolen clothes.

If this doesn't end up in the Daily Wail, I will knit fog.

Has to be a wind up.

Lovely.

You are actually asking advice about how to benefit from stolen goods.

I think you should donate it to a charity shop.

OP has your relative actually told you she reported it missing or has someone else told you? If the relative didn't tell you directly I would approach her and ask for the receipt so you can exchange it. If relative did or does tell you she reported it missing I would give her it back and encourage her to get in touch with superdry and advise that she has made a mistake and has in fact received it.

I agree with maryz, I am shocked at people not condemning theft. Clearly op knows it's wrong hence the name change but was considering trying to keep it anyway.

I am bad at confrontations and would probably get the garment fester in the bottom of my wardrobe and I would feel bad every time I saw it. However I would really want to tell the relative what I thought of them and tell them I didn't want stolen goods.

Phone the police! 😂 lmfao!

The poor police would get so many calls from Mumsnetters if we were all crazy enough to take the daily advice on here.