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CF neighbours

26 replies

plix · 27/12/2017 17:40

Yesterday afternoon NDN asked if their son's GF could park outside our house, we don't park directly outside so DP said that would be fine. So later on I was sat in the living room and heard a massive bang outside, looked out the window and saw that the GF had crashed into our front garden wall. NDN had said earlier she has just passed her test so she's obviously not a very confident driver. GF and NDN son were stood outside a while trying to reverse and park the car properly then just went in their house! They saw me in the living room so they know I saw them hit the wall. The wall isn't knocked down but it's really scratched. AIBU or are they CF for not coming and apologising?

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IrkThePurist · 27/12/2017 17:43

Maybe they went to phone a builder to check your wall? Shock

IrkThePurist · 27/12/2017 17:43

I forgot to put /s for sarcastic.

CremeFresh · 27/12/2017 17:43

I'd expect them to have apologised .

ZoeWashburne · 27/12/2017 17:46

How much will it be to fix it? Is it something you can repair yourself? If it’s substantial enough that it needs to be fixed by a professional I’d say: “I’m glad NDN GF is ok after the crash but we need to get the wall fixed. Do you have a repairman you like to use or would you prefer us to just get a quote and clear it with her so she can deal with her insurance?”

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plix · 27/12/2017 17:52

The only damage looks to be scratches, we don't really need to get it repaired. I just can't believe it's been a full day and they haven't said anything to us about it! If it was me I'd knock on the door straight away and say how sorry I was... especially if they saw!

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FitBitFanClub · 27/12/2017 17:56

Why did they ask to park outside your house? If it's a public road, surely anyone can park there?

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plix · 27/12/2017 17:58

I think NDN was just asking to be polite fitbit

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IrkThePurist · 27/12/2017 17:59

I think he wanted to keep his garden wall Grin

grobagsforever · 27/12/2017 18:02

Scratches on a WALL? As in, an OUTSIDE WALL? How can you bring yourself to care? I'm really, really confused.

MN really is odd at Christmas.

NobodyKnowsTiddlyPom · 27/12/2017 18:05

The Road Traffic Act says that any incident/accident (minor or otherwise) that causes damage to a person or property has to be reported to the police within 24hrs if details haven't been exchanged with the affected party. So she should be giving you her details as well as reporting it to her own insurers. The wall might not look badly damaged but it could some structural issues that might not be apparent until further investigation.
If she hasn't done this then you should go and knock at their door and ask for her details ASAP, quoting the Road Traffic Act if they start getting arsey.

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plix · 27/12/2017 18:05

It's really not about hitting the wall it's the cheek of walking away like nothing happened.

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plix · 27/12/2017 18:06

Thanks tiddly I didn't know that

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Geillis · 27/12/2017 18:08

Why would you apologise for bumping into a wall if it did no damage? An outside wall that you say doesn't need repairs? This is a complete non issue.

ChristmasAtSquiffanys · 27/12/2017 18:16

I suspect the car is in a worse state than the wall!

KeemaNaan · 27/12/2017 18:25

If I drove into my neighbours wall and scraped it it, I’d apologise to them.

Are people serious that they wouldn’t? Where the heck are manners these days?

AuntLydia · 27/12/2017 18:27

I'm trying to picture the kind of wall where you'd notice a scrape Confused I don't think I'd be bothered unless they'd damaged it so badly it needed repairs.

nutnerk · 27/12/2017 18:28

Curtain twitcher alert!!!

No big deal - don't mess up her insurance for the sake of a few scratches. They were probably more worried about the car than the wall and forgot to even look. Assuming they are young - probably just selfishly looking at the car and maybe too embarrassed to say anything!

PookieNoodlin · 27/12/2017 18:29

Scratches which I'm presuming will come off with a quick scrub as they will only be car paint, so really, no lasting damage? So
if that's it, it won't need to be reported as a non stop RTC as Nobody suggests. I doubt a little bump from parking (cos let's face it, she would have been going no more than 5mph really?) will have caused structural issues Hmm

I really couldn't get worked up about it, I think YABU, she was probably more bothered about her car and a bit embarrassed if anything.

LazyDailyMailJournos · 27/12/2017 18:29

If the wall was painted or rendered then scrapes and scratches would damage it.

I think it's rude. If there are obvious signs of damage then the decent thing to do is to knock and apologise. If they don't bother then I'd keep schtum, but next time they ask if she can park there then tell them no because last time she damaged the wall and never said a word.

BewareOfDragons · 27/12/2017 18:29

Unless there's structural damage, honestly, I would let it go.

She's probably mortified.

Happy Holidays and all. Keep the peace.

pictish · 27/12/2017 18:30

I'm also toiling to picture a scrape on a wall outside I'd be bothered about.
Is it very unsightly or are you just being a bit of a fusspot?

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plix · 27/12/2017 18:30

exactly keema! even if there was no damage i would say sorry.

curtain twitcher Hmm the wall about 2 meters from where i was sitting

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plix · 27/12/2017 18:32

As I've already said it's about not saying anything about it, not how the wall looks!

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Eltonjohnssyrup · 27/12/2017 18:36

Maybe you should have gone out and asked if everything was okay?

If you just sat their looking at them they probably thought you weren't that bothered.

KeemaNaan · 27/12/2017 18:37

Plix - I’ve been off MN for a while and am spending a good hour reading threads like this 😮 as is quite bonkers.

If you’d posted that you’d hit someone’s wall and scratched it and not said anything, folks would be saying you were a bad mannered arse.

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