Me and my partner of 10 years have done nothing but argue this Christmas. The thing is he does nothing but blame our arguments on me and sees absolutely no wrong in his actions.
1st argument, one of many where he’s been an absolute started on Christmas Eve morning. I did my daughter a Christmas Eve box. My understanding of a Christmas Eve box is to put a few things together to get her ready for santa. So I put a book, pyjamas, dvd, teddies, chocolate,and some cookie mix for Santa. In the morning I got it out of the wardrobe and said to dd to sit on the bed for her box from mummy and daddy. He stormed into the bedroom just as I got it out and said with a face like a slapped arse ‘what, you’re giving it to her in here, the elves are supposed to deliver it, what a shit idea to give it to her in here’ I said it’s not from the elves it’s from us to get her ready for xmas. He said fine ‘come on then Lillie, let’s sit on the bed and open your box that mummy got out of the wardrobe’ in a really loud, arrogant and aggressive tone. I snapped and told him to snap out of his mood now. He said ‘well you’re ruining the magic of Christmas, all because you’re jealous of Santa Claus, you’ve put some presents from us and they should all be from santa, because you can’t bear him taking the credit, it’s just weird’ All this was said with such aggression, scrunched face, arms in the air, raised voice. I said he sounds pathetic. I said I haven’t ruined any magic that it’s out of order for him to go on like this, not all presents have to be off santa and that I’m not jealous of an imaginary man. He said it’s me that’s out of order and he went back to bed and told us to go downstairs, Me and dd opened the box downstairs in the end without him there.
We argued about this for hours and I was furious that he wouldn’t apologise or see he was out of order. He point blank refused to apologise. He said it’s his opinion. I said that’s fine but it’s the way he addresses things but he wouldn’t have any of it.
At this moment I can’t stand the bloke. I actually hate his fucking guts. There’s been one thing after the other and he’s often like it, not just this Christmas. When pulled up on it he just throws it back in my face and acts like i deserve to spoken to like shit. It seems so standard to him now. How do I get him to realise that this sort of thing (e.g the Christmas Eve box saga) is not the norm in a loving relationship?