My friends's marriage broke down last year due in part - according to his wife - of his unnatural obsession with this grown up daughter, something he always puts down to jealousy on his wife's part. He's always been a friend of mine and I have to admit, I've stuck up for him even when I really didn't want to get involved.
He's now living alone in his childhood home which he has re-purchased and has his daughter over to stay for a few days. She's 36, lives less than 2 hours away but hasn't visited him in the year he's lived there. When I spoke to him yesterday, he was really excited she was going to stay. He's "done up the the spare room, bought new bedding, new towels and ...... dug out her old Eyore cuddly toys and put them on the bed for her to snuggle up to".
Now, if she was 6 years old I'd understand it but 36???
Before her visit, she dropped into conversation that she wouldn't get many presents this year as her mum is away so he's also been out and bought her a mountain of presents to compensate.
Does this smack of an obsession? Or is it just plain weird? Or is it just a father wanting to give his daughter a good Xmas.