To want to shout FUCK OFF WORLD

[pieceofpurplesky]

Today has been shit. DS has MH issues and whilst usually great he has a major meltdown today. I did all the cooking, cleaning, present buying etc. so am knackered (single Mum with elderly parents that I care for). Work full time as a teacher and finished on Friday.
Lovely morning, cooking went well, late lunch perfect until dessert when meltdown happened. He is 13 and suffers from depression and mood swings and one just appeared from nowhere. I just wanted a lovely day.
He is eventually asleep and I had a browse through Facebook. There is a group of women I know quite well who had all posted. Fuck off with your - 'ah lovely day with the hubster', 'love this one' 'feeling blessed', 'so spoilt' , 'amazing day with the fam' and all that shit. Every woman I know seemed to get a pandora charm which they are cooing over like hubster is the only man in the world to think of it!
Then there's the 'love my angels' (or angles as someone put).
So aibu that I think these women are lying - Christmas Day is hard work (I know them well enough to know their darling hubsters will not have lifted a finger to help the cooking as they were all moaning about it last week).
I don't get it at all.
Feel better for the rant!

I also got lumbered with doing everything on xmas day and have a sick relative I do virtually everything for.
So I really feel for you.
I try to minimise everything down, but even this is not enough to lift the burden, I feel I have been cornered into.

Have a good cry, if you feel that way, you are entitled to.
Sometimes it all becomes too much but I hope the rest of your xmas will be a little better for you after getting xmas day out of the way.

I don’t think Facebook is fake and your friends are lying .

They simply post the positives.

Why can’t they moan about their husbands and still love them and enjoy Christmas? It’s not one or the other.

I think you need to learn two things from this.

One to have realistic expectations and to focus on what goes well - it sounds like all went really well up until late afternoon/early evening so focus on that side of things. Ds is autistic and struggled yesterday but we adjusted expectations and still had a decent day even if it wasn’t “postcard perfect”

Secondly don’t believe everything you read on fb. Most people tend to post at one of two extremes “everything is great” or “everything is shit” at Christmas most people will go for the great unless the shit really hits the fan. I posted photos (no pandora!) last night which showed the fun of the day. They didn’t show the meltdowns, refusal to eat or hiding watching “safe” tv!

Anyone who called their husband "hubster" would be instantly blocked from my Facebook feed.

People just posting the good bits and happy memories for all to see.

What’s wrong with that? That’s much better then someone having a public argument on FB for everyone to see. I think you just need to remember that people post the highlights.

OP I empathise! FB is fake and Christmas Day is knackering unless you're loaded and have childcare and house help for the day.
Hope you're boy is better after the meltdown x

Christmas can be exhausting [santa] I've had some major dramas on some of my Christmas Days which would be too outing to mention on here and the very last thing you need is some one else in your face telling you that they have had a fan-fucking-tastic time. And that's what FB does

You ANBU to feel these women are being false, they post a flash point of the day as if it represents their whole existence. One of the best photos of me is when I was in the middle of a low rumbling argument someone said smile, and I did, they posted it on FB, that photo was a nano second of a very upsetting and miserable day.

None of my friends post negatives, except one, she is the one who posts when her OH has been a total arse, the one who posts the board game on the floor 5 minutes after the photo of the happy family playing monopoly. Yesterday she posted 'I can't load any photos as I have spent all day cooking, feeding people and clearing up dishes and no one else in this house thought to take a photo of any of the kids posing with any of the presents which I bought and wrapped' People are a bit shocked at her posts because we all know facebook is just for the good stuff, fake or not.

If I've had a bad day I choose wine or chocolate over FB every time, both if its been really bad. Hope you and your son have a better day today and can rest a bit

Tha kid everyone! DS is happy today and building Lego. He is off to see his dad for a bit later so I get a few hours free.
Neville sounds like the sort of day I wanted - but sadly with a teen who has MH issues nothing is predictable. I am low key about Christmas usually and never stress but yesterday made me sad. I am not on Facebook often by the way - and put it in to see photos of a friend in Australia.

Loving the FAKEBOOK hahahaaaaa to use an old fashioned FB term..

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