Friend is now 2 hours late

[cocoboots]

And she only lives a 5 minute walk away.
Invited her over for Xmas lunch as she' be on her own otherwise. She happily accepted. I said come over for 12.30, we'll have a drink and chat and food will be ready at 2pm.
She called at 1.30pm to say she was just getting dressed. I said ok, no problem. She said she'd be setting off before 2. Not worries I said.
It's now almost 3pm.
Food is sitting in the oven, starters have been out over half an hour .,,,
Aibu to say to my DP let's start without her ?!

I also think it sounds like she had company and is too embarrassed to give that as a reason. Very rude anyway!

That's is so rude. She was already late at 2pm so I would have started then. She knew when food was ready.

Well, I wouldn’t be doing that again. I don’t mind people being 15 minutes late, but she’s been very disrespectful to you.

I think it took two years for me and DP to be forgiven for not turning up to xmas day at his mums. 😳

We had a very messy xmas eve and woke up at 5pm xmas day to a LOT of messages from his mum, sister, brother...,

We were lucky that we got leftovers on Boxing Day when we got there 😂

I also would have eaten at 2 without her.

If you pander to this behaviour they will just do it again and again.

If it were my house she’d have arrived and food would have been eaten. If she was lucky there’d be some left so she could serve herself. Otherwise tough.

Well that's rude.

Crisp - that’s so rude of you. Not sure why you are laughing at that.

I hope you are ashamed crisp there’s really no excuse for 2 grown adults to behave so disrespectfully.

If you had done that to me crisp I think I would still hold a grudge. Is v v rude

Incredibly selfish behaviour Crisp, and so disrespectful. You'd never get another xmas invite from me.

What on earth does "a messy Christmas eve" mean Crisp? Not turning up is hardly something to laugh about.

I'm not completely humourless, Crisp saying "very messy" is clear to me and made me LOL. But I think the main thing is, you tell the host the truth as well as apologise profusely and probably provide gift vouchers or something as a big apology gift.

But "no reason" is a bit weird, unless she was just off her face and lost track of time.

What on earth does "a messy Christmas eve" mean

To me that means a very late night filled with booze, fun and friends. Late to bed, late to rise because you forgot to turn on the alarm clock. Unfortunate, but not a hanging offence (yet) thank god and the little baby Jebus.

The guest who was invited by the OP, however, was up and about so far less of an excuse.

Oh believe me we apologised profusely, bought some extra presents, and made sure we weren’t late the following year! Luckily I have a very lovely MIL who wasn’t very fazed by it..

Woke up at 5pm

What time did you go to bed for both of you to only wake up at 5?!

I reckon there's a very good reason she was going to be on her own at Christmas. It'll be because she's a selfish twat.

She wouldn't ever be getting invited back.

waking up at 5...hmm, guessing party continued till at least 10am

Last year my expensive meat was ruined because my friend said she was just popping next door to ge the roast potatoes she was in charge of and didn’t return for an hour. The roast was bone dry by the time she came back. She’d forgotten to put the oven on but didn’t bother letting me know. I was not happy. I hope you started on your meal while it was still warm and juicy.

Wow crisp I'm not sure I'd forgive that with all the effort that goes into preparing xmas.
I guess with family you have to...

OP I'm really puzzles why she was late though.

Why the fuck were you even asking?? She'd have had 15 mins grace and I'd have served the food - why would you keep everyone waiting for someone who couldn't be bothered to be on time?

Rude, rude and rude, she doesn't sounds like much of a friend

She doesn't drink ! So she wasn't drinking last night. I gave her a small glass of wine to have with dinner as she said she'd have a little one bit didn't touch it.
I've given her her Christmas pressie and card but she didn't bring anything. I don't mind but I feel a bit of a prat for putting up with this today !

Make it your New Years resolution to cut the useless, the users and CFs out of your life.

So she's come empty handed?

Please, mind. She's a massive piss taker.

Don't invite her again.