To just say thank you to the fab PILs around

[Merryoldgoat]

I'm pregnant and very slow so I've been basting myself in the bath for the last hour mumsnetting for Christmas cheer.

I'm so depressed at the awful depictions of PILs out there so I'm just going to say a big 'thank you' to mine.

They are kind ALL the time, don't play favourites, adore my DS, are endlessly supportive, make no demands on us and welcome us each Christmas with no expectations.

I love them masses and am so glad to be part of their family.

I hope that those of you suffering through all the passive aggressive shit being thrown at you are able to have a lovely Christmas in spite of them and I hope that they sort their shit out in the coming year.

Merry Christmas everyone

Am having Christmas at the PILs. They are all lovely.

I am trying to settle the baby and I can jear DMIL downstairs keeping DD (3) happy with 'ballet dancing' and playing dinosaurs DFIL has fairly advanced Alzheimer's but he really enjoys being around the children.

Same here, I had mine round for dinner and to exchange gifts last night. They are both lovely and thoughtful and have treated me like a daughter from the very beginning. My FIL is the kindest man and my MIL buys me lovely things and I’ve grown to love them so much over the years. Having been married before with a super cold MIL I remember to count my blessings.

I'm not doing Christmas dinner this year. Have been invited for dinner to both XMIL's homes today.
Can honestly say, I could turn up at both with ds's without an invite, and I know I would be welcome.
Will be going down xdp (number 1)'s mums this afternoon to take ds. All the family including ex dp (minius his dp as she's at their home with her family- long story lol) and I'll stay for a while.
They may be my x-in laws but I love them all to bits! I see them more than my own parents- have been nc with dm for 16 months. Will send the boys down to see her this afternoon, and they will also pop to my dads. My family don't do Christmas like most do- it's all guilt trips, arguing etc toxic!

Here here, mine are staying with us. They are brilliant 😊

My MIL was a prince amongst mothers-in-law - I loved her so much. She died 3 years ago, and I still miss her so much.

FIL is lovely too - very kind and thoughtful. He can be hard work, because he’s not at all good at conversation (could bore for Britain at Olympic levels), and he isn’t hard of hearing, but his heart is in the right place.

Mine are lush. Generous, kind and great company. I’m very lucky.

Mine are lovely too! Brilliant Grandparents esp as my parents are dead. Nothing is too much trouble and although they have their own wierd ways (who doesnt!) they are a wonderful and i am so grateful that my DC's have them. They are on their own this christmas as they are ill and didnt want to inflict it on us .... we miss them!

So lovely to hear your stories!

I've just had a lovely dinner and opened some amazing presents. Money is a bit tight this year as the baby is coming and we had some unexpected legal costs so DH and I shelved our plan to buy each other a games console and instead bought a new travelsystem.

My PIL bought us the games console plus a whole bunch of other lovely thoughtful things.

So pleased lots of you also have lovely PIL. I will do my utmost to follow their example when my DC bring home their partners in the future.

Hear hear.

Mine are fab .

My FIL is a saint. He makes up for my mil and my daft absent dad, and a little bit more.

He stashes presents away from prying eyes, helps build play kitchens, makes Christmas cakes, baked with the eldest all the time, watches babies and toddlers without a fuss and treats me as if I were his own daughter.

We love him to pieces ❤️❤️❤️

What a nice idea for a thread.
Mine are brilliant too. DH grew up in the US and his parents live there now but they visit often (and vice versa). I love the life they have over there (in Massachusetts) and when we go they're always so welcoming we just slot right in. Their house actually always reminds me of the one in home alone at Christmas, it's truly perfect.

Feeling very tender towards my PILS today, they came for the day and both struggling a bit, dmil probably has dementia (appointment soon) and wandered and slipped over earlier, dpil having to do everything and quite stressed. It was lovely to see them though and made me think of how they have welcomed me and supported us both over the years.

I have the best, kindest, most helpful, non judgemental PIL. They are simply wonderful. If I am half a good mother as MIL I will be very happy.

I have the best PIL. Over the years, they have been there for us many times, they always treat everyone with love and respect, and never ever ask anything in return. I always say I am blessed when it comes to in laws, sometimes I feel closer to them than my own family.

Merry Christmas Merryoldgoat I completely agree with you. My PIL both passed away this year and I missed them today and felt sad for my DCs and DH. We miss them. They loved my Dcs to bits.

Don't want to hijack the thread but can I say how wonderful my DIL is? We've spent the day with my son and DIL who hosted our extended family. She's an amazing young woman and I love her as much as I love my DDs.

My out laws (not yet married) are the kindest, most wonderful, giving, funny people. All of them. DP's parents are amazing and have happily hosted about 12 of us today in a smallish space with no complaints. Offered help a bunch of times but repeatedly told no, sit and relax! SIL and BIL are both great people in general and nephew is THE greatest small human (except maybe my own DD) and is a ball of energetic fun. I absolutely adore spending time with them and that would honestly be all I want but to top it off they've given me amazing presents and helped look after the baby today.

I'm sat upstairs BFing the baby to sleep having a secret small happy cry because I'm just so content right now. Couldn't be happier.

Just wish I could find a way to repay them for all the financial, emotional and physical help they've given us over the last year.

I have simply amazing ILs. Today was my first Christmas without my mum who died suddenly in March. My lovely MIL stood and held me while we both sobbed in the kitchen today and reminisced. They're also the loveliest grandparents my children could have. I am so lucky.

Ah this thread is making my eyes a bit wet!

Mine are fab too! After Xmas with my parents, we'll be seeing PIL tomorrow so I'll finally be able to relax and enjoy myself ❤️

Mine are lovely too, and would do anything for us and the dc. But excessive on the presents though, but I let it slide

Have had an amazing day with the ILs today. They are so kind and generous-i always get amazing pressies and so many lovely things and just phenomenal food. I am truly blessed to have them in my life.