*Me & DP have one DD 10 weeks old. I'm on maternity leave, he works full time. I get no help with DD at all! Except he will feed her a bottle every now and then, but twist at the same time saying.. 'do you want to get her?.. my arms aching' blah blah blah! He does not do night feeds at all, I don't mind this when he has work in the mornings but he is off for 3 weeks over Christmas, but still hasn't done ANY night feeds! We washes no feeding bottles or sterilises them, except twice when I basically had to bed him. He has never bathed DD the excuses are 'I feel like I'm too rough with her... I'm not doing it I've been to work' blah blah blah. The odd once or twice he has got her dressed in a morning I get 'what should I put on her? Can you put the vest and top over her head coz I don't like doing that... where's this where's that?' If he did it more often he would be more confident and would know where her fking clothes are! He does no house work at all, leaves empty cans of pop on the floor beside the couch or on the kitchen bench. Does not wash any dishes (we have a dishwasher so isn't exactly hard to put dirty dishes inside!) The other week he was going out with his dad on the morning, I asked 2/3 times if he would take DD with him so I could catch up on sleep as I had a rough night with DD. He finally agreed to take her but made out to his family that it was his idea so I could get sleep, trying to make himself look like the good one who's trying to help me out! He also does no night feeds on a weekend when he's off work. He do e not change nappies.. he's does about 10 in the whole 10 weeks she's been here. 1 our of 10 of them nappies has poo in. We had a massive argument when he said 'I'm not doing that it stinks, it's making me feel sick' I was outraged that he was saying he wouldn't change DD. So I point blank refused to change her. After 5/10 mins of shouting at each other he finally changed her and moaned all the way through it. That was weeks and weeks ago never changed a dirty nappy since. Can't remember the last time he changed a nappy at all.
We both made DD, we both agreed to have DD so why should I do everything by myself just because 'I'm tired, I've been to work all day' I'm not being funny but being a Mam is a never ending job! He comes home from work and does* f*k all.. his job is finished for the day. Well my work never ends! Constantly looking after DD, feeding, bathing, nappy changing, clothes changes & putting her to bed, doing night feeds and getting her ready on a morning. He thinks just because he works he can leave everything for me to do.
Am I being unreasonable?? I'm getting me so annoyed! We're suppose to be getting married next year, but what's the point. Will he ever change!? He knows how I feel, whenever I mention it we just have a full blown argument leaving me in tears every time.
I'm currently laid on the couch with a blanket. He's in bed, DD is in her Moses basket at the side of the bed. I'm sleeping on the couch tonight so he has no choice but to do night feeds! I'm just so fed up I feel like a mug. He's dad is exactly the same. He did f**k all for his kids, his wife did everything.. and to be honest still does. She's runs around after him 24/7. But I don't want a life like that. I honestly thought DP was different. The last thing I want to do is split up. I'd hate to think I was breaking up DD's family, I wouldn't want to be a single mam.
I do love him, we do get on very well 90% it's just his attitude he was about helping me out with DD 'I've been to work all day' ugh!
Has anyone been through this with their DP/DH did it work out for you in the end? I need some positivity* 
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What a way to spend Christmas Eve night... sleeping on the couch. Guess it's going to be a great start to Christmas Day* 
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I also don't know why all the writing is in bold. & sorry for such a long thread, I just needed to get it off my chest as it has build up for 10 weeks. Thanks for reading, hope to get some advice soon.*